Hi, I'm 15 and I have had my first girlfriend sense september. We get along great compleatly nuts the two of us. But we have had alot of problems shes really self concios and once I hung out with one of her friends (my friend too) and from there on some nice problems. Those are over, then she cheated on me but she only held the guy and admited she didn't like him. Basically a bunch of other stuff has happened. And this saturday she said she doesn't like anything about me any more. I said ok and that I wanted some space. that night she left a voice mail saying basically that she knows we work and that she wants to try again and forget all out problems with other people. I said ok and we have been talking nicely ever sense, She says she may be comit-phobic, and that she think i'm a imature (I do it becuase she does it). I help her as much as I can even called a nurse I know when she was sick last night for advise.I was wondering what I should do becuase I want this to work.
2007-02-28 05:18:30 · 6 answers · asked by ofvolvoblood 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hun do you really want a life of game playing? She is playing games with you. She is still young and very immature (even for her age). You want a self confident girl who knows what she wants. Not a little girl that plays games with you. I would dump her and tell her why. Maybe she will learn from it.
2007-02-28 05:23:55 · answer #1 · answered by luv3dbb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK Hun first of all the whole she thinks you are immature thing and the whole (you do it cus she does it) is so so wrong Hun both of you are immature you are 15 where do you think this will go im sorry to say but there is a 99% chance this wont work
but if you want to figure things out then here you go
first of all dont hang wit her friends i know you all were friends but if your girl friend and this other girl are closer stay the freak away from here
second she cheated once which means she will most likely cheat again sorry its the truth
third the fact that she keeps changing her mind means she kinda likes you but not enough to want to stay with you and she really doesn't want to be alone
fourth if she does something that hurts you DONT try to hurt her that is so bad and one of the worst things you can do to anyone
if she hurts you then tell her dont go out and do something mean to her
and lastly Hun i think the fact that she said she was afraid of commitment means she is to young to get into a serious relationship cus she is so young and needs to get out and have fun
and to ask her to commit this young is kinda selfish on your part
you are only 15 there are so many girls to date and i bet you are a cute kid and you can get other girls to date but what i have found is that if you commit to early it messes up any chance with her in the future trust me it Will be OK babe
2007-02-28 05:31:59 · answer #2 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wont work
sorry to say it but you have just told a classic first love story where there is mind games and uncertainty and destructive passion.
Enjoy the ride and act exactly how you feel when you feel like it because you will never be in this situation again, once you lose your first love you lose the wonderful/horrific intensity with which you currently feel all these emotions.
When you finally break though, try to make it a clean break otherwise you will just inhibit each other in your next relationships.
No-one actually takes advice on their love life they just want to be told so they can then act how they want to.
enjoy your first relationship and try to keep it simple.
2007-02-28 05:26:34 · answer #3 · answered by ..***.. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 15 I don't think anyone is comit-phobic. You have plenty of time to deal with issues in a relationship and honestly at 15 you shouldn't be worried about a girl who will act immature like she has.
You get along as friends and realize that you want more than that.
Just keep your cool and don't let her little temper tantrums bug you too much.
2007-02-28 05:23:26 · answer #4 · answered by intewonfan 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i know you don't want to hear this but, you toooooo young to worry about some silly selfish girl. have a good time, enjoy ALL of your friends & don't get serious so early. play the field & just enjoy life and all it has to offer.
2007-02-28 05:31:37 · answer #5 · answered by tire chick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to put your feet down and clear the air. If she's cheated on you, you need to let her knw your seriousness about leaving her. If you let girls take advantage of you, they will. Don't let her walk all over you, but don't walk all over her as well! Good Luck!
A.L.
2007-02-28 05:23:14 · answer #6 · answered by Angelus L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋