After the caterer, booking the banquet hall, the DJ and everything else, we cannot afford to buy them their dresses. Would it be ok traditionally to ask them to buy their own?
2007-02-28 05:06:41 · 31 answers · asked by Foxtrot 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Gosh everyone here makes it seem like it's a bride's maids RESPONSIBILITY and OBLIGATION to buy there own dress. I have been a bride's maid a billion times and I have had weddings where I have bought my own dress and others where it has been provided for me. I have been a bride and I understand that a wedding is expensive. It's really up to you what you feel is best, if you think they should pay for it be reasonable. In reality a bride's maid doesn't just say "I'm going to be one and thats that" now that would make it her 100% responsibility, but no she is asked to be one by the bride and so together they work it out.
2007-02-28 05:21:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is traditionally done, however if you talk to your bridesmaids about it you may find they won't mind. You can still get them the jewelry and/or shoes. You could also pay half, especially if you are choosing an expensive dress. Use your best judgment. Chances are though, if it is a type of dress that could never be worn again, your bridesmaids may be a little less giving when it comes to picking up the tab! Make sure it is a dress your bridesmaids look good in and feel good in.
2007-02-28 07:03:16 · answer #2 · answered by R♥bin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think you need to buy them. I've been in two weddings as a bridesmaid, and paid for my dress both times. I'm getting married this year and asked my bridesmaids to pay for theirs. Just don't ask them to buy a $300 dress or something. The most I had to pay was $170. I also paid for my own alterations. The dress I'm asking them to buy is $150. I made sure they liked the dress, and offered to help a little if they couldn't afford it. I don't think there's anything wrong with asking them to do that. Just make sure they can afford it before you ask them to be in the wedding.
2007-02-28 05:59:22 · answer #3 · answered by benjis.girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
where I'm from...they do buy their own dresses. just make sure you arent asking them to spend too much. dont go picking some $200 dresses and wanting them to buy them. I wouldnt spend over $150 for a bridesmaid dress without expecting the bride to pay the rest. if they cant afford the dresses then you might have to help or pick new people who can.
2007-02-28 06:14:54 · answer #4 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!! Every wedding I have been in and helped in, the bridesmaids are responsible for their own dresses. Most people know this, and if you tell them the truth about finances, they should understand. Also, in the modern age, it's quite expected that they only thing you do for your bridesmaids is buy them a gift (to say thank you for all of their help--I think it means a little more if you do individual gifts to show that you picked it out specifically for them), buy thier flowers, and of course their dinner at the rehearsal dinner and reception.
2007-02-28 05:12:55 · answer #5 · answered by Yoyo 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It surely relies upon on the marriage. some have a low funds and would possibly not arise with the money for to purchase lots of dresses. Others arise with the money for and purchase them. I surely have seen some circumstances the place the bride tells the bridesmaids what gown and the place to purchase them. I surely have additionally seen the bride purchase each and every thing for the bridesmaids. different than makeup, hair ,and upload-ons. i think of its extra useful for the bride and groom to purchase the dresses. good success and greater of needs!!
2016-10-16 22:56:50 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness! You do not have to pay for their dresses! That is the responsable! When they said yes they will be you bridesmaid that is when the took on the fact that they have to buy their dress and help you pick out yours and help plan a bridal shower! Do not buy their dresses for them!
2007-02-28 05:14:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Given that you have a budget, and that this is the 'expense that breaks the camel's back' ... it is perfectly acceptable (and I am already sure that your bridesmaids already are aware of your personal circumstances) that they chip in part or all of the cost of their dresses ... just be aware that they need to be reasonable in cost (about $100 or less) so that they, too, can afford to come to the wedding.
2007-02-28 05:17:45 · answer #8 · answered by sglmom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to buy your bridesmaid's dresses. There is nothing wrong with sticking to tradition and having them buy their own. Just try to be somewhat reasonable on what you pick out because they can get pricy and you're not paying...
2007-02-28 05:16:26 · answer #9 · answered by Cute But Evil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say it IS okay for them to buy their dresses. But remember, keep THEIR budget in mind. It may be YOUR wedding, but not everyone can afford a $300,$400,$500. Keep it reasonable. Maybe something they like and can wear after YOUR wedding.
2007-02-28 15:49:10 · answer #10 · answered by J*A*K*C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋