Can i trust my indian boyfriend be trusted. i get a 50/50 response.?

Question

WIll my indian boyfriend break my heart??
I am a white female who is in a relationship with an indian male. He and I have a good relationship except for the doubt in the back of my head that he when he goes to india he will end up marring an indian woman. His mother sends pics of women to him all the time and he tells her that he is not attracted to indian women. I love him very much and we have discussed marriage but how do i know he is true to his word. I have read alot about indian/white relationships and they all end up with the indian marring an indian. will i get my heart broken. Or will he be true to his word and marry me as we have planned.

Answer 1

Hi, I am an Indian male living in the UK. How can i answer this question , i can only say that not all Indian men would go off to marry an Indian female. It really does come down to whether ur boyfriend loves you and is a man of integrity. Also , try and analyse his relationship with his mother. All mothers dote on thier sons but in Indian culture the family unit is very much emphasisded and its quite normal to see extended families even in this day and age. If he can stand up to his mum and cares about her but is not a mummys boy then there is a good chance he'll stick by you.

But ask yourself, do you think you can handle an Indian marriage? Lots of extended family meddling, if his mum is typica she will always be whispering something in his ears and adding to your insecurity, lots of strange traditions and obligations to attend the most trivial of family events! If you ca accept, your boyfriend is a good man and his family respect you i think you will find it a richly rewarding experience, because above all else it comes down to how much you love each other!! Hope this helps !

Answer 2

Some Indians stay connected with India. This sounds like your boyfriend. Outlook is not good.
My old man was from India. He ditched the India stuff at Ellis Island. He lived for booze, broads and money - a true American. Loved a good steak, too. By the way, marriage-wise, he couldn't be trusted either, he'd lay any woman with a pulse

Answer 3

If your having doubts like this then maybe you need to sit down and think about your relationship. It doesnt matter what race someone is if they want to break your heart they will. If you really trust him you would not worry about what hes doing in India becasue you would know that he is coming back home to you and dont listen to what you read because half of the things out there isnt true just go with your gut feeling.

Answer 4

I have no personal experience in this. I do know that the Indian culture is very old and traditional. The children are brought up to obey their parents wishes. The parents are all taught that they and their children will marry another Indian person and one that is of a similar class.
It would be very unusual for an Indian to marry outside of their culture.
That said, anything is possible. Good luck.

Answer 5

If you have such serious doubts about your boyfriend's true loyalties, then maybe the time isn't ripe for marriage yet. Marriage takes total trust and commitment.

On the other hand if he does marry an Indian woman he's barely met, then it sounds to me like you'd be better off alone than with a weak-willed man who isn't totally loyal.

If he's given you no reason at all to mistrust him, then your suspiciousness could then push him away from you. Nobody likes to feel like their lover is paranoid.

Answer 6

in reality indian guys ( pakistani's included) marry the girl their mother likes.... sorry to break ur heart but these men r idiots.. they even leave indian girls for the girl their mother would pick out for them ... he is away from home, has all this freedom he is just making the best of his situation
i say u really leave him n make a bet with one ur gfs tht if he comes back or not!@

he aint attracted to indian girls bcuz ( not to offend anyone.. but this is the common perception ) they arent "fun"... they have all these cultural pressures so either indian women r very angelic or too devilish,... either form is not attractive to any men...
but marriage is a totally different ball game.....marriage is all abt bringing a girl into his house... who will give him babies n possibly look after his mother ( if they all live together) which indian men think white women r incapable of...
my suggestion is to ask him :" wht kinda future does he think he wants to have for himself"

or " would he be living in india after marriage or here?"
his answers could be very very crucial

i met an indian guy, it was a blind date n the second he looked at me he said " i wanna **** u.. u give me something i give u something.. n i was like wht the hell.........."
this is the truth abt indian men!!!
get out as soon as possible~

Answer 7

Well, I agree with the guy's answer before mine. In India, a marriage must be approved by the elders of the family. So, first thing, you have to get acquainted with his family. Somehow talk with them online or chat on webcam. Second, your boyfriend has to have the guts to tell his mother that he has already found that special woman, and that he intends to marry you. UNLESS HE DOES NOT TELL HIS PARENTS OVER AND OVER AGAIN THAT NO MATTER WHAT THEY WANT, HE STILL WANTS YOU, THEN THEY WILL KEEP SENDING HIM PICS OF OTHER INDIAN GIRLS. Good Luck!

Answer 8

Good question. If the future were easy to foretell, we would all be happier. Generally however, your chances of being happily married to an Indian or any other ethnic group that is drastically different from yours, is not too good.

Answer 9

I'm pretty sure the fact that he is Indian means nothing.
Either you trust that this man loves you and will marry you...or you don't.
And if you don't, you have to weigh out if it's worth it to wait and see.

Answer 10

Well that is up to him, I guess. You can never really know until it happens. It doesnt matter if he is an Indian. Anyone could break your heart if they wanted.