I am "in love" with a guy and he loves me too. It kinda feels like he is moving too fast. We have only been dating for like5 months and he already is talking about moving to college with me. I am kinda freaking out. I feel myself starting to pull away. Plus there is this other guy who i really like but I'm not even sure if he likes me. But we kinda held hands and openly flirted even though I am not single. He is cute and cool, but do I just like him becuz I am afraid to commit with my bf?
2007-02-28 04:51:55 · 12 answers · asked by sweeter than you 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you're not married, then you ARE single. Dating and marriage are completely different.
If you're not prepared to be committed (which, at your age, you really shouldn't be), then you need to level with your bf. You and he need to make decisions that are good for each of you, not both of you. If that happens to take you to the same school, then great.
When you're young, you should be able to date folks simultaneously, so long as you're not sleeping around. Unless you're engaged to be married, there's no committment.
2007-02-28 05:13:57 · answer #1 · answered by Joe Bostonian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it sounds like you are flirting with this other boy because you are freaking out about commitment... the fact that you recognize your motives as such is a pretty good sign that this was your real motive for flirting with him.
Instead of becoming a cheater, remove the original stress. Tell your boyfriend that you care for him a lot, but you're uncertain of the future and you're not ready to commit to any long-range plans. Explain that your concerns have caused you to "freak out" and act distant at times. Ask if the two of you can slow things down and not rush into anything, because you don't want to lose what you have, but you don't want to destroy it by pushing yourself too far too fast, either.
Continue to be honest with yourself, and be honest with your boyfriend about what you're feeling.
2007-02-28 05:00:25 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, step back and focus what you really want ????? and then after you found out what you really want... You have the answer...
and first of all you haven't commit with your boyfriend nothing... just dating for 5 months.. really you are right he moving in too fast... tell him we are not boyfriend and girlfriend we just dating... You are moving in tooo fast.... plain and simple... If other guy you like and you date him and let him know that I had been date with a guy for 5 months and he moving tooo fast want to move with me all that but really there no commit to my BF and so if you see him and he might tell you that he my bf and really he not... I just like to date who knows who I find truly in love....
so, I totally agree with you that he is moving in too fast and good news you are not making any commit with your BF and let him know that we are not BF and GF... we are just dating.....You shouldn't never feel afraid or freak out.. Step back up and see what you realllly want what your futrue you want to do your life first and then second make the choice of with you want to do with both guys.. msiling.. I hope this helps.
P.S. if the guy under me telling you to grow up and parent should teach you life the righ tway??? LOL that funny, He need to grow up and talk more better than this... He has no clue what it like LOL
2007-02-28 04:59:12 · answer #3 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not in love. you are young and you are exploring yourself, your wants and dislikes and what kinda relationship that you want. i dont think that u are afraid to commit, i think that you are rather not ready for a committment. let this guy know that he is moving a bit too fast for you. be honest with him. cuz u feel that way does not mean that u dont care about him. i say explore ur feelings and dont get bogged down till u r ready to be.
2007-02-28 04:58:17 · answer #4 · answered by braille 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not "in love", you are just dating. Tell your bf that you are not ready for an exclusive relationship, and go out with the other guy if you want to. Be open about it, not sneaky.
2007-02-28 05:11:08 · answer #5 · answered by Husker41 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, sounds like you need to grow up. Parents should have discussed the way life works with you, if they haven't already that is. Sometimes you need to learn things the "hard way". Break a few hearts, have your own heart broken. It's not fun, but then you realize what you want, and if it is still available...great! If not, then you have to pick something else.
2007-02-28 04:59:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
by asking this, you have shown that you are not ready to commit. Break it off and enjoy your life single for awhile.
2007-02-28 04:56:15 · answer #7 · answered by CL R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him how you feel....i know it might seem hard but once you tell him it will all just seem like you can breathe again!!! .... well good luck and i hope it works out for ya!!!!
2007-02-28 04:58:01 · answer #8 · answered by Jordan B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not ready to commit to him,you don't want to be tied down in college
2007-02-28 04:56:25 · answer #9 · answered by kat_luvr2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well obviously he wants to bang the **** out of you.....let him be the "love" then. what's the deal anyways?
2007-02-28 04:54:50 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋