i am a 25 y/o gay man who has a loving bf overseas. i met this guy in myspace and like me, he's bf is thousands of miles away. we started talking about our relationships. i know i love my partner and so does he, but i'm getting confused. for some reason, i get excited when he sends me a message, which is our only means of communication. i'm afraid he might feel uncomfortable if i ask for his number so i never asked for it. he's very sweet in the emails he sends and i get mixed messages.
i'm thinking of moving to the city where he lives so we'll have the opportunity to know each other (even if i haven't talked to him over the phone yet!). a good friend told me that i should make sure that he likes me too. if the feeling isn't mutual, then i'll be a total loser. another friend told me that i should go for it because i won't know the anwer if i won't take the risk. i'm getting confused. i'm afraid to ask him though because i fear of being rejected. what do you think should i do?
2007-02-28 04:35:09 · 12 answers · asked by nate o 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What both of you should do is be honest with yourselves, and your current partners. You are developing a crush on another man, and therefore you are (emotionally) cheating on your current boyfriend. If you really loved your partner, you would cease contact with this new flame, instead of pursuing it. Be honest - who do you want to be with?
if you decide to end things with your current partner and move to be closer to your new flame, you should insist that he break up with his boyfriend as well. Don't pretend that you'll be "just friends" - if there is a romantic attraction between you, even one-sided, you're just asking for heartbreak by stealing someone else's man.
Remember that a romance that has, so far, existed purely in the virtual world may not survive in the real world - you should meet this guy in person before moving. But I strongly suggest putting the infatuation behind and focusing on the partner you claim to love, and discovering what real, honest, dedicated love can be.
2007-02-28 04:45:21 · answer #1 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get first things first. Find out is he does indeed like you, then think about the move. What about the guy overseas. Are you going to let that one go? You have some serious thinking to do. Talk on the phone to the new love interest, and ask him plump and plain, do you want to meet me? Thats the only way you will ever no!!!.....
2007-02-28 04:41:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think first of all since have a relationship already you first need to be honest with him and let him know how you are feeling and you might want to date and see other people. It only fair tolet him know how you feel. as with the other guy , you should probaby get to know him a little more better over the phone visit him and see how things are between you before you make the big move.
good luck
2007-02-28 04:48:27 · answer #3 · answered by dreamangel1102002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, neither of you should be doing this if you are each in commited relationships.....and how can you possibly consider moving to the town of someone whom you have never spoken to? This is rash. If you are both interested in each other, you should end the relationships you are in. You are cheating. How do you know this man isn't just interested in sex while his mate is overseas?
2007-02-28 04:40:55 · answer #4 · answered by Clarissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my personal opinion is that you like him you may not know it but if you get excited just by a message imagine what you would do if you see him! give it time...and start asking him more personal questions until you feel more comfortable asking for his number and asking if he likes you. After that take the risk...you will know what your heart wants when the time is right.
2007-02-28 04:42:17 · answer #5 · answered by jennaroooo:) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would move to the new city because moving is fun. If it works out between the two of you, that would be a bonus. If not, hopefully you will still have a friend in your new home town.
2007-02-28 04:42:18 · answer #6 · answered by lisateric 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to figure out who is most important? Some guy overseas who you never met or your loving BOYFRIEND?
2007-02-28 04:40:01 · answer #7 · answered by Komplexity 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you just like having another gay friend to talk to about your relationship.
2007-02-28 04:38:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the 1st thing you need to do is be a Real Man you know the kind that like women?
you'll have nothing but trouble from your lifestyle it isn't what god wanted.so grow up stop likeing men and get A REAL LIFE!
2007-02-28 04:40:21 · answer #9 · answered by rpoker 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that you should go for it and ask him if he feels the same way because if he does then what could it possibly hurt?
2007-02-28 04:39:32 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋