Any Dads not able to see their children?

Question

Through choice - because they don't want their children?
Or because their ex's are not letting them have access?

UP YOURS - Grow up.

Isn't it amazing how no men have owned up to not wanting their kids and just leaving them.

I guess the people who have responded should all win the points if it was possible because its interesting to hear peoples stories.

And really good to hear about those who have worked out their differences.

Answer 1

My sons father doesnt want anything to do with him. My son is almost 7 years old, and in the 7 years of life i think he has seen my son MAYBE 10 times, if that. We were together for 4 years and he just up and decided he wasnt ready to be a father. So he left and i didnt chase him lol. Ive called him several times over the last few years trying to get him to play a part in my sons life. I send him christmas cards with pictures every year. I send drawings my son has made, school papers, pictures from school and so on. When his father was getting ready to leave for Iraq about 2 years ago, he actually called me and my hubby and myself took OUR son up to see this man. He hasnt seen him since, he lives 4 hours away, with two babies of his own. He does pay child support each month. But i think in the end my son would rather know his father then the money, Thats really not what its about. My hubby has been his step father since he was 2 years old. He knows him as dad and always will, its a wonderful bond and i couldnt ask for a better daddy to my son. Its amazing to see how much this man lights up his life. It takes a real man to be a father.

Answer 2

My ex sees our son every weekend and would see him more if he didn't work so late during the week. I am married now with a new baby on the way. My ex and I get on very well because we have put all the rubbish behind us and support each others parenting 100% I would never ever in a million years split my son and his dad up! it would have to take something pretty serious for me to even consider it, but I know his dad would never ever hurt him so I don't even need to consider it at all and vice versa. We have talked about the future and when Alex is old enough we will share custody of him we live 20 mins apart so Alex can live half the week at mine and half at his dad's and when he is older if he wanted to go live with his dad for a while or forever I would support him completely (yes it would hurt though). Neither of us see our son as a possesion, or weapon, we just want him to be loved and happy and secure and so far we are doing just that!
And step dad makes it all easier because he is so supportive of our situation too. I really hope this is the way it will be forever because our little boy is so happy and well adjusted.

Answer 3

My brother-in-law doesnt get to see his kid hardly at all. It's not that the mother is keeping her from him though. They broke up when she was still pregnant and the only reason he doesnt see his daughter very much is because he lives 2 hours away because of his job and he cant get down to see her that much. He tries to go down and visit every weekend but its hard for him because he doesnt have a license. I know he misses her really bad though. We live close by and visit him almost every day and whenver the mother emails him a pic the first thing he does when we walk in the door is show us the picture and say "Aw. Look at my baby."

Answer 4

My oldest child's father doesn't see her because he won't stay out of prison long enough to. He was initially incarcerated while I was pregnant with her and didn't come home until she was 4years old. After 2 years, he violated his parole and is gone again. She won't see him again until she is a teenager.

I got married and had a son. Now that I'm divorcing my husband, he doesn't see him often because he won't keep a job long enough to have just a few dollars to buy food for him to eat for him to come visit more than a few minutes. When I have let him go over to his house (his grandmother's house), my son would be hungry when I pick him up, even though I bought food for him to cook and feed him. He's too trife to feed him, give meds, and has him in and out running the streets with him instead of staying home to care for him when he's sick. I chose to keep my son away until he gets himself together enough to be responsible for his own well being as well as my son's.

Answer 5

My sons two daughters aged 14 and 12 won't have anything to do with him. They used to come down all the time but they got fed up with their mother and her family quizzing them all the time, so they won't come down any more and we haven't actually seen them for just over a year, although they do phone just before their birthdays and christmas. (If they weren't kids we'd tall them to "get lost" as we feel used)

Answer 6

my dad wasn't given access to see me my bro n sis because when he lived at home with us he used to beat up around. he was forced to go anger mangment classes and evn after that mum refused to let him see us. i see him as much as i can now.

i'm currently 30 weeks pregnant and the fathers just left me. ok we're young (i'm 20 n he's 22) but not THAT young to not be readyu for kids. he just doesn't want to know. so my dad was forced not 2 see his kids...and my ex is just a selfish c*unt and doesn't WANT his...

Answer 7

My father has never seen me he has been out of mine and my sisters lives for 19 years (i'm 18) He never paid support but my mother looked into that supportkids.com and she gets a check every 2 weeks. it's not much and very late but anything is appreciated. for all the fathers who choose not to see or support their children in my opinion should be chemically castrated!! Shame on you!!

Answer 8

My girls' dad did not meet them until they were 13 months old. I tried to get him to, but he had no desire. Then finally one day he wanted to meet them and has been in their life ever since, and hates that he missed the first year of their life.

Answer 9

My husband ex has interferred in his visitation as long as I have known him. Depends on her mood I guess you could say. Even when he does see them, they have been brainwashed by their mom and stepdad so much that nothing we say or do makes little difference to them.

Why can't people just follow the court orders and stop being selfish with their kids?

Answer 10

My daughters father has been MIA for 5 years now.
He chose to drop out of sight and quit his job so he couldn't pay child support. He chose to ignore her birthdays and Christmas.
He chooses to ignore his daughter and I choose to not bother looking for him.
Good riddance to bad rubbish

If he decides to pop back up now- he'll get to see her or talk to her over my dead body.