I don't know how to help him?

Question

My fiance and I hve been together for 2 1/2 years and he is having problems trusting me. He leaves town every Monday for work and returns every Friday. Every month or so he tells me that he doesn't feel me, he feels like I'm cheating on him, and that he thinks I'm hiding something from him, I'm not. I always tell him that I love him with all of my heart, I show him (constantly kissing, hugging, gazing at him, I tell him why I love him), I explain that he needs to trust me, I'm the woman he's going to marry, and he still gets like this. I know he does it because he gets unsecure, and doesn't feel me because he thinks of all of the possibilities of me cheating and visualizes it, but how do I stop that? I know how he feels because I too get like that sometimes, I don't tell him because I know it's just me being dumb. He seems to dwell on it and it causes arguments between us. How can I help him?

Answer 1

Sounds like a guilty conscience to me... usually the person doing the cheating is the one obsessed about their partner doing the cheating... you may want to do some investigating on him... the guilty dog usually barks first...

Answer 2

You have already done the 2 things to help him. Tell him that you aren't going to cheat on him, and the second is not doing it. I don't think you could do anything else more. Your fiance has some trust issues that he needs to work out. If it is like this before you get married, then just think what it would be after your married. Marriage doesn't solve problems, it only makes them stick out even worst. What your fiance needs is some counseling to figure out what is causing him to think like this. Was he in a previous relationship that his ex cheated on him? But there is nothing you can do to change his thoughts, he has to do this on his own.

My mother used to tell me " People who don't trust, can't be trusted themselves..."

Good Luck

Answer 3

you can't unless you are willing to go where he is at or he is willing to come where you are at to be together all of the time.
TRUST is the key in any relationship that is going to last...I would be worried about his lack of trust. If you have given him no reason to think you are fooling around or anything then maybe the problem is his. he could be a very jealous person or insecure...he might even need professional help
anyways, I don't think you can help him...he has to change this behavior himself...as I said before...it all comes down to trust and if he does not trust you....the relationship is eventually going to fall apart.
without trust there is really nothing

be cool...