I am a white female who is in a relationship with an indian male. He and I have a good relationship except for the doubt in the back of my head that he when he goes to india he will end up marring an indian woman. His mother sends pics of women to him all the time and he tells her that he is not attracted to indian women. I love him very much and we have discussed marriage but how do i know he is true to his word. I have read alot about indian/white relationships and they all end up with the indian marring an indian. will i get my heart broken. Or will he be true to his word and marry me as we have planned.
2007-02-28 04:29:40 · 22 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You will get answers on your question from persons based on their mindsets. Reading them might even confuse you rather than illuminate and show you the way.
In human relations you never know when things are going to take turn for the unexpected. Even if the boy stays with you and gets married, his mind will remain occupied with his parents and India and he is bound to be nostalgic. If you are demanding then, it will develop into a sour relationship and your life will not be happy with him.
To say that you adopt his culture is easy but difficult to assimilate.
You will be happy where you are, and let him be happy where he really wants to live, which is close to his friends. Had he been truthful, he would have asked his parents not to show him all the photos of prospective brides. But he does not have the courage to say so, or internally he does not want to marry you. He is simply telling you that he loves you, just to placate you, by seeing that you are in love with him. It is an emotional exploitation.
So, Dear, embolden yourself and bid him a tearful good bye and suggest to him that he marry an Indian girl. For him to say that he does not like an Indian girl is a tissue of lies. He is using you as a prop to stay and work in a foreign country. He is simply interested in your physical beauty and using you to satisfy his lust and while away his time.
2007-02-28 14:33:01 · answer #1 · answered by Ishan26 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...I am an Indian myself, so I can understand how you are exactly feeling. You have to consider some important things here:
1. Does he have a job?
2. Is he still repaying some debt that he took from his parents long back?
3. Is his dad a businessman who wants him to come back to India after finishing his degree or gaining some experience?
Well the reason why I am mentioning the above is because I want YOU to make SURE of the fact that HE is NOT DEPENDENT on his parents anymore.If he truly loves you, I assume he is willing to give up his cultural or religious ties to be with you. But the main reason why he (and many Indians for that matter) usually don't hold on to their word is because they still "owe" something back to their parents & feel their parents have the topmost priority in their life over other people (because of this financial debt).
So, my point is that - If you know or feel or even sense that he is in some way still tied to his parents, then dump him NOW! He will leave you once his parents pressurize him into marrying another Indian woman. However, if you are 100% sure that he doesn't depend on his parents anymore, then you have nothing to worry about.
Good luck.
2007-02-28 04:45:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, im an indian girl and i tell you, indian guys are fucked up. its always about them, their parents and THEM again. Im talking about 95% of indian guys here. you getting a guy from the remaining 5% is quiet low. even if he acts all westernized now, he will change once you get married. he will treat you as his subordinate all the time. /its in the blood of indian men to dominate thier wife. id suggest you find a nice american guy.
2014-05-17 09:51:13 · answer #3 · answered by kaka 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
indian boyfriend break heart
2016-02-01 02:53:00 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you say both of you have discussed marriage, and i presume that means both of you want to go ahead and marry.
so why not have a 'meet the parents' scheduled so that his parents too get the idea? that way, when he goes back to India, he can take you along and get married there or return back to wherever you are at present and get married.
also, before taking this step, resolve whether you trust your boyfriend as much as you love him. after all you need both for a marriage to survive and prevent heartbreaks
2007-02-28 06:00:49 · answer #5 · answered by vrtee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand your situation .. to be very straight i would like to say that in East , Men are like to dominate their females.. they want to be the ruler of the home the familya nd alot of other things and every boy child in East born with the same habits.. So as far as your matter is concerned i agreed that he can be trustful with his words and he loves u too .. but on the other hand he is an indian a totally different cultural man from you...He love to be with you to share time and feelings with you .. but on the other hand he must be afraid to marry you and take you back to his homeland where his mom dad and relations lives.....
Just sit calmly and think about it personally that what you have to do .. have u enough strenght to left you homeland your family your traditions your culture and marry him .. and then adopt a new family .. a new culture and new ways of spending and living life .. if you think you have enough stamina then go ahead .. and marry him my best wishes are with you ... but if you feel 0.1% doubt then simply find another guy and marry him ...
2007-02-28 04:55:53 · answer #6 · answered by Mr XXX 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i m an Indian girl married wid an Italian(white)we never had problems wid culture religion n .............All u need is trust.Tell ur guy to marry n prove that he really care about u .Y he dont confront his parents?? something fishy.Tell him to anounce ur relationship to his ppl.
If u r taking about breaking heart then what in ur country no 1 breaks heart??Dont worry we indians really know what means love 4 our partners.Let him know that u feel insecure.If this guy really love u then he will make u feel comfortable else he will end with fighting wid u.
2007-02-28 05:54:15 · answer #7 · answered by sherry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends nowadays there are so much mixed marriage
but it's all in your guy hands if he is enough courageous to be proud of your relationship...coz he has to believe in your story and if he can show his face to his family..
i know a lot of guy scare about their family, and prefer to marry someone his parents choose than choose himself and after if it goes wrong, everybody talk bad about him...
pay attention, talk with him..about your relationship and if it's really can run!! good luck
2007-02-28 19:46:54 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Melissa
Don't worry ,Indians are always true to their words, they do wht they say so I am sure he will be yours,
Cheers,Best of Luck
2007-02-28 19:00:01 · answer #9 · answered by hotchocredrose 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he really love you then he keep his word it is not matter of indian let form any where
2007-02-28 04:42:26 · answer #10 · answered by teju 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋