with her?
2007-02-28 04:06:15 · 14 answers · asked by Britney H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You have to understand that she's doing this for you. While you don't say so, it sounds as though she the single parent. No doubt its absolutely necessary for her to work like she does to keep the rent paid (so to speak.)
Try to put yourself in her shoes; help her in anyway you can. It will strengthen the bond between both of you.
2007-02-28 04:11:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a single mom, and although some people think the mom doesn't realize what's going on and how it's affecting her kids, it's more likely she does...and she probably feels just as bad as you do. It's really hard in our country's economic situation to make ends meet, and it's sad that two jobs have to be worked to be able to do it. However, you should still talk to your mom about it. Communication, although isn't as long as you might like, will benefit both you and your mom. Maybe she can take a day off once a month and spend it totally with you. I have five kids, and I have to really try hard to make time for each one individually, and sometimes it isn't much time, but I try and make the best of the time we do have. So, talk to your Mom and maybe you two can find a solution that can work for both of you. Best of wishes....
2007-02-28 12:41:47 · answer #2 · answered by sassy_395 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her as soon as possible sweets i worked 2 jobs and my daughters only saw me about 30 min a day, when i realised how much it effected them i packed the longer job in so i could be with them after school. We needed the money at the time but you can't put a price on family so we managed best thing i ever did. Your mom probably doesn't realise how much this is effecting you and just trying her best to support you all just tell her you will all make cut backs you just really love her and need her around you more good luck and i hope all goes great for you all :)
2007-02-28 12:14:59 · answer #3 · answered by clare w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she working two jobs *and* doing all the housework at home, too? If that's the case there might be an easy way to get some more time with her. Lend a hand and cook, wash dishes or fold laundry together. Or surprise her by getting things done while she's at work so that you both have some time when she gets home to relax together.
2007-02-28 13:17:01 · answer #4 · answered by Critter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is the quality time that u need with her not the quantity. She works two jobs because she loves u so much! Enjoy the little time that u spend with her. Don't tell her about your feelings, probably she already knew it! If u miss her because of her job, she too misses u! So, make the most of the opportunity that u get while she is with u.
2007-02-28 12:17:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Honey,
You will need to be very careful when broaching this subject with your mom. She obviously feels that she has to work long hours just to take care of her family. AND it's true, she probably does HAVE to do it to ensure that YOUR quality of life (and your families') stays consistent. Find a way to tell her that you need her, but know that she may sit you down for a long talk about family finances. Just understand that she does what she does for you, and if she were to quit one of her jobs, then the family would suffer by relinquishing some of the everyday luxuries that you have become accustomed to.
2007-02-28 12:18:15 · answer #6 · answered by Dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Catch her at a time when she's relaxed -- and receptive. Not right after work.
2. Prepare a treat for her: coffee? tea? cookies? Serve it to her.
3. In a soft and loving tone, tell her directly that you wish you two were able to spend more time together. Think of things that you could do together (have these ideas prepared ahead of time). Consider cost and convenience. Make a schedule for this time, if possible.
Good luck.
2007-02-28 12:11:19 · answer #7 · answered by RolloverResistance 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask her when you two can do something together, just the two of you. Just tell her that you know she's busy with work and you aren't mad at her for working so much, but you miss her and you want to spend time with her. It may be an eye-opener for her.
2007-02-28 12:45:38 · answer #8 · answered by OhKatie! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry it must be sad....all u gotta do is ask her... tell her u need her.... I know its tough esp if shes a single mother and she needs the money.... some kids dont realize how lucky they are to have their parents time.. they want to get rid of them or saying how they try to run their lives... like my kids..lol... though they are great kids..lol... im sure if u tell her u need her time she will more than likely love to be there for you.. as a mom.. i would love to hear it... good luck to you.. ps.. hang out with good friends because it would be so easy to run with the bad kids.. just know ur mom loves you regardless of how much she works.. u know she works for you...
2007-02-28 13:15:50 · answer #9 · answered by gina B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no is the time to tell your mom that you need more time with her and tell her you miss spending time with her and you hate seeing her for 10 r 20 min and day and juss express yourself she'll understand
2007-02-28 12:09:28 · answer #10 · answered by zorin l 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋