well i just got out of a really stupid relationship with a complusive liar that had two girlfriends so im a little emotional ,, i dont want him back , i just miss the time we spent together . needless to say i just have so much extra time now that used to be consumed by him... please tell me if you have any advice of positive things i can now do to get my mind off of him! thanks everyone :o)
2007-02-28 03:50:53 · 27 answers · asked by live in the magic of life 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow...this is so strange answering this b/c I WAS like your b/f (minus the infidelity), but I had a lying problem like nobody's business. I wish you could talk to my ex g/f (but I haven't talked to her). I know the emotions you feel b/c A. I put my ex thru it and B. I was put thru a hell too which explained my behavior.
It's hard getting over her and I miss her and my time was also consumed by her so when she told me she didn't want me in her life I felt so lost and that's b/c I had lost myself in her. I really and truly had to find out who I was and know who a WANT to be. I had to learn to love myself and to do that I had to learn to LIKE myself. I felt so lonely b/c I didn't like being alone with myself and my thoughts.
I advise you to focus on YOU, learn to love and like yourself and he'll become an afterthought. I'm sure you have so much anger built up from what he's done to you but try in your heart to forgive him for yourself so you can move on with your life and pray that he changes. I hope this helps feel free to IM me or email me if you have any questions.
2007-02-28 04:05:58 · answer #1 · answered by so_sincere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knitting can be a very relaxing hobby and productive. You can star out with simple scarves and hats and work up from there. You have to concentrate on the stitches when you're first learning and that will surely occupy your mind.
Also, you could paint and you don't have to be an artist. That's why they call it art therapy. Just get an inexpensive set of watercolors or acrylics, some watercolor paper and go at it.
Best wishes.
2007-02-28 11:53:58 · answer #2 · answered by §Sally§ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My asshole ex constantly threw a fit whenever I wanted to study anything, so went back to grad school, took guitar lessons, joined a yoga class, started taking classes for my electricians license (which I never did finish. oops.), took the motorcycle safety course, and started taking random professional certification courses at the local community college. I thought about getting a cat, but I was travelling too much at the time. I also started going back to the gym regularly and I burned a female empowerment CD to play in the car, starting with "Girlfriend" by Pebbles and ending with "No Scrubs" by TLC.
2007-02-28 12:01:46 · answer #3 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you enjoy? Find a group of friends to start having movie night and cooking dinner for each other. Go shopping or find a sport or activity you enjoy. Ever tried racketball or frisbee golf? Get out of town for a weekend just to get away from it all. Also get a new haircut or haircolor.Rearrange your house or apartment that will help make the memories (the few good ones) out of your mind. Good luck
2007-02-28 11:59:49 · answer #4 · answered by - 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Volunteer. I never felt better about myself then when I was doing volunteer work. The other volunteers you meet are honest caring people and you're helping others. They'll work you hard too. You won't have time to think about that jerk.
And take your time. Get over him before you put yourself back out there. I'm no dr... But 6 weeks is ok. 3 months, seek professional help.
Good luck.
A~
2007-02-28 12:03:00 · answer #5 · answered by BigMac2xk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
after a nasty breakup i find myself thinking of all the anger and hatred that was festering towards the end of the relationship within me and then use it in a positive, constructive way by swinging a 50lb sledgehammer on a heavy piece of white hot iron that becomes plow blades i trade to the local amish for fruit and leather goods they make i've also found my love of explosions and demolition also works well durring a breakup in the construction trade (no i'm not a psychopath i just have a kinky side sometimes)
i have used this love of destruction also in a positive way meaning i have worked as a person who does demolitions of old buildings that are often abandonned for decades on end to make new shops and homes on the land that it sat on in the construction trade
hope that helped and it's what i do after a nasty breakup
2007-02-28 12:01:38 · answer #6 · answered by Pale Rider 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally I love cycling. It puts me out in the elements, and in control of where I am going. That provides a numinous feeling of peace and tranquility.
It is also very beneficial to your physical health, and can consume as much time as you deem necessary.
I hope that you get through this as prudently as possible.
Oh yeah, you could try jogging too.
2007-02-28 11:56:34 · answer #7 · answered by duffman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to a spa, treat yourself. hang with the s go see a chick flick. just do things that make you happy. go out meet new people don't be shy. And don't be scared to be alone when the time is right some one new will come along and treat you like a princess that you are.
2007-02-28 12:11:30 · answer #8 · answered by instantgratification1983 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear about the break up... but you can start running. it really helps with times of stress. Or pick up a good book to read.
stay positive girl.
2007-02-28 11:55:34 · answer #9 · answered by her 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if there are any sports coming up then you go out for one of those. What i usually do is i go out for sports and have an awesome day to my self. I may even go and hang out with my friends that is what you could do.
that is the best i could do i am sorry
2007-02-28 11:58:37 · answer #10 · answered by Nes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋