How do I escape this sin?

Question

Sometimes, I really want to live a perfect life, and be alone.

I feel trapped sometimes, what can I do? Any suggestions? What I mean is, it is so hard sometimes. Women at work, sometimes instead of dressing modestly, wear the shortest most revealing things, dress so sexy, it just makes it hard to look away, as sometimes I get a craving to have a family, in spite of my desire to live alone.

I am driven almost crazy sometimes, by want of a lady to live with, have a family with, but I don't even want to have to lust after a lady, even if I am married to her. It feels like chains of lust, I need to be, I want to be totally free of this, so I can enjoy life, do things I want, not be bound to desires for another person in my life.

Is it possible to never lust after another woman again? Some of them look so good, I feel I can't help it sometimes but to look, am I so bad a creature? Is this possible to control?

I wish to be totally free pls, no sin at all. Any suggestions?

Please don't tell me I am crazy, women are beautiful, why do not I want one, etc.

I realize women are beautiful, but I ache to be free from this chains. I want to live alone, I don't want to feel like I have to have somebody, I hate being controlled with this desire.

I want to control all my emotions, not be controlled by them. I essentially, detest God for making me a slave to his desire (man + woman) since I just want to be free, alone, I hate God, I detest God for forcing this desire of his (marriage + sex = populate the world) because I only want to live and enjoy life my way, to help others, but not be bound to this desire.

I want to know what it is like, once and for all, to be able to do anything I want, and never have to think about women (but that is so hard)

If God can't do this for me, I will hate him forever for controlling me?

I just want control of my life in my hands, since God obviously abuses his power by forcing his will on me? Thanks!

P.S. Is it possible for me to be hypnotized to never be able to lust again? I strain at the cords of bondage, daring wish, even hope that I am set free, even while realizing, because "most likely, if it exists, a God being is forcing his will upon me, that I be married and populate his earth in happiness"...

But know this, though I live a thousand forevers, and experience all the bliss, deep down, I have eternally a seed of bitterness and hatred for the God who controls and forces this upon me. Though it be for all the good in the world, and feel better than anything, yet will I continue to eternally hate GOD till I am set free from my bondage to his will to do as I please, on my own, being unbound by his will that doth choke the joy out of all that I do, think, or say.

Though he force me to be with a woman, yet will I slay him were it ever possible, for forcing his will upon me, instead of allowing me to have choice.

Were I to choose, I am born without sex organs so I may live free

One of you were asking why I hate God so much, I hate him so much for making it so hard to do what I want to do because of the conflict inside with what he wants to do.

Were I to have my way, God would not exist, and I will never feel, nor see, nor talk to him again, due to the way of his nature of forcing the thought, want, and desire of having a wife upon my life, despite my dead set desire against it.

I want a free life, I do not appreciate God intervening his will over mine, yeah, I rather that God were eternally dead and rotting in the billows of hell, than so much as try to usurp my will for his, no matter how good or divine. I cannot explain is but this, I want what I want because I want it, and I cannot help that my spirit wars against his. I cannot help wanting what I want. I cannot help but hate him for the way he is. He is seemingly an overbearing tyrant, howbeit, although intending good, yet I care not for his desire.

Andrew, I am not saying I want to live with a woman without marriage, I am saying, I just want to be free of the awful curse of feeling like I need one in my life. Period. At all.

Really makes me angry that God can't respect me enough to honor my wishes.

Answer 1

Wanting to have sex with a female is totally natural. Every single species on the planet is this way. That's how we all came to be. You seeing it as something unnatural, that you can "rise above" is sad. I think you should talk to a counsellor about it and get another opinion.

Answer 2

For a start you might stop being sorry for yourself and begin to think of serving others.

Everybody has problems and tensions, but the happy people are those who can direct their energy into things which are creative and beautiful, such as composing music or painting pictures, and people who work off their energy by laboring to help others.

Find a patch of soil where you can cultivate a garden and grow vegetables which you can then give away at the nearest homeless shelter. Work up a sweat and tire those muscles in service to those less fortunate than yourself. Then you will find that your self-absorption and self-pity will go away and you will be a stronger, more balanced and happier person.

Answer 3

If this is this much of a problem for you, you need to find a girl and get married. St. Paul even talks about this. It is quite possible to live a perfectly celibate life but, it doesn't sound like you have been given the grace to do that and it is a gift that is given. Perhaps the Lord wants you to have children given your piety you could pass it on and have very holy children. The union between husband and wife is not sin and it is a very beautiful thing. Do not worry --- go wife shopping!

Answer 4

Since Adam and Eve disobeyed God , sin entered the world. Satan is the king of sin .In the bible the book of Romans 3:23 " For all have sinned and come short of the glory of God ". Satan is prince of the world , and he wants everyone to disobey and go against God and his word.In Matthew 5:28 " But I say unto you, that whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart ". I have done it in the past .Getting to know the Lord as savior,he then will help you. Why do you want to live with a woman with out marriage ? That will add to your sins that you will have to answer to.Being Born again will help you with a new resurrected soul, but you still have a body that will like to sin .That is why we need Jesus to be our Sheppard to help guide and teach us in his ways.Hope this will help.

Answer 5

I think you are on a Holy path. You have come to a stage in a life that you have realised that the things of this world are vanity.

I'd like to know if you are Catholic, if you are I would suggest you read about some of the great Ascetic Saints like Saint Anthony of Egypt, Saint Francis of Asisi, Saint John the Baptist,etc
These people can be a great inspiration to you.

Another suggestion will be a more prayerful life. Sometimes our subconscious tells us that we can do something with our strenght but this is not true. We have to keep relying on God. The most powerful devotional prayer I've ever known is the most Holy Rosary, it brings you very close to Christ. Trust me on this.

Its NOT everyday that you see great people like you on Yahoo! Answers who are trying to please God. Don't loose heart and keep trying.

PRAY PRAY and read. This life is but temporary.

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God Bless

Answer 6

well I was on your side and was going to try to give you some advise but once you said you hate God.... you lost me - if you hate God you are not in line with Him and no matter how hard you try to beat this you wont b/c you are trying to do it under your own power - get right with God first - ie. not to hate Him and His will - and He will help you - until you do that anything else I suggest will be pointless

Answer 7

Please get some help.
And realize that there are factions of every religion, believeing in every god, that honor sex and family as blessings, as holy, and as things without which we SHOULD NOT live!
Please find some better choices, some better people, and a really good therapist.

Answer 8

If you hate God that much - what is keeping you back from sinning? There shouldn't be any boundaries...you have no one to answer to.

Answer 9

Loneliness is Not a perfect life....i dont recommend it...and this isnt dating here!!

Answer 10

Lust is not a sin?