i've spoke 2 male friends and colleagues and they've told me a time when they were in love with a girl, is when the girl either didnt agree to have sex, or wanted to wait for sex...
so my question is, can a man love a woman even when there is not sex, or very little sex involved.
the question may sound niave, and i cant put all men into a catergory, but i had always assumed men needed sex to "love"
my boyf and i havent had sex for a while, yet during this period he seems to show more love with his actions and his words. were clser than ever, go out near enough everyday and enjoy a friendship aswell as juss kissing and hugging etc.
Hes told me i neeed sex more than him, and hes just shy of 30, could it be an age thing or a maturity thing. I'm 20...the sex we do have is 10/10 the best..for both of us..very spontanious..
why would a man feel more/show more love without the sex involved?
thanks!
2007-02-28 03:33:45 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Look at your question: "Can a man love a woman without sex?". If you aren't having sex, you don't even have to worry about this question. The man will love you (or not love you) depending on who you are, who he is, and what you are like as a couple. Sex is a significant aspect of an intimate relationship, but it isn't the determining factor.
Here's a good example of what love should look like. My aunt married a man who was incapable of having sex because he is paralyzed from the neck down. She cares for him because she loves him. And he loves her because of who she is.
What I'm saying is basically, yes. Men can love women without sex. And women shouldn't have to just give themselves to a man to make them love them. Sex doesn't make love any more (or less) real.
My advice to you would be to not have sex until marriage--it makes things soooo much less complicated because you see less of the physical and more of the emotional/spiritual connection you share with that person.
2007-02-28 03:52:22 · answer #1 · answered by Crystal B 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Many years ago I was involved with a woman. We were lovers for a while and then moved on a little where we were no longer having sex. We became better friends without sex, but we both still loved each other.
I think it is safe to say that men need sex if they are in love. But they don't need sex to love. You and your boy/f are tender friends and have grown in the dynamic of how you feel about each other. Your age difference is more a compliment than a problem. It is fairly well documented (with exceptions, I being one of them) that men reach their sexual peak at 18 and women much later.
I have found love easier than sex because it resonates so well with women. When you know that all women want are to be hugged and be listened to, you can see what I mean.
Don't get me wrong. Sex is the great leveler in relationships and that spark can raise the bar and make life so luminous that it pales the moon. Aside from that, it feels wonderful.
2007-02-28 04:12:48 · answer #2 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can love a women or a man with out sex. that is only part of a relationship.But not all. Yes you both have physical and emotional needs that need to be meet, though if your on an agreement you can see past through it
Though it's tough but if your strong willed and you truly love the person and willing ti give up a part of you and love them unconditionally then no it's not hard to love someone without the physical stuff.
If you cant live without the person and or go a day with out thinking or talking to that person. or more yet desire them the way you would want them to be desired then why ruin your love with giving it up just cause they don't put out. maybe it's just something you have to be willing to work on or work out.
best of luck .
Remember Love conquers all but doesn't mean it has to end in bed
2007-02-28 04:05:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! I had an experience where there was no sex involved at all and we both fell for each other. Men do not need sex to love. I think they respect and adore a woman more who can wait for it. They get to know her and appreciate her more instead of basing the relationship on sex.
I like how during this getting to know each other phase you develop this strong strong sense of closeness and longing. Your heart feels like a water balloon being filled up with water. It feels like it's about to explode because you love the person so much.
2007-02-28 03:41:32 · answer #4 · answered by AmandaHugNKiss 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Probably is a maturity thing. It depends though. For me, i like a woman more when she waits for sex cuz it tells me she is'nt easy and it puts my mind at ease that she does'nt give it up to every guy she has the hots for.
2007-02-28 03:42:29 · answer #5 · answered by Danny S 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a great guy! I think it depends on the maturity of the guy. As much as it is reported on most guys being purely physical in relationships, I think there are as many guys who actually have feelings and are mature enough to know that to have great sex with someone, you have to have as great or greater relationships with that person outside of the bedroom.
2007-02-28 03:49:24 · answer #6 · answered by Shirley T 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A man absolutely, positively does not E-v-e-r love or respect a woman who puts out before marriage. The woman has comprimised her integrity and no man will ever respect that. Get the ring and the " I do " before you stop saying "I Don't".
2007-02-28 03:44:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, because love means more than just sex. There is a big difference between love and lust. Lust satifies the bodily hunger, love does much more .
2007-02-28 03:42:46 · answer #8 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so because my fiance is a Marine and he doesn't get it all the time so when he does it seems like he falls more i love with me
2007-02-28 03:37:24 · answer #9 · answered by foreveraaliayh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mens sex drives peak at 19, women at 38. You are approaching your peak and he is long past his. It could be true.
2007-02-28 03:40:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋