i have a problem im not sure if i love my man but every time we do things together i get happy but we are always arguing about stupid things what should i do?
2007-02-28 03:31:35 · 20 answers · asked by puertoricanchula23 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i identify with this. When i was with my ex i always told ma best friend i can never have a serious relationship with this one; my reason being that we were always arguing. Anytime he was with me we argued for the best part of it. Surprisingly, we lasted for 4 years and we parted; he left for another country and now we both have a child each and still keep in touch and find ourselves wanting to be together again.
He always makes me laugh and happy to have him; i guess that's what is important.
2007-02-28 03:51:53 · answer #1 · answered by Naughty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arguing is sometimes good because you can find out what each others likes and dislikes are about. But if you keep arguing about the same old things that has no relevance than it's definitely not worth arguing about. You both are just wasting time and energy. Either one of you should not have the last word because it just makes the other want to argu more. Instead of arguing come to a compromise of some kind to make things better for the two of you. And don't be afraid to admit your own faults.
MJ
2007-02-28 11:34:27 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Jeff - It is what it is ☺ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you argue a lot over stupid petty stuff then you don't need him. Men say they will change and the arguing stops for a while but the real problem is that you and him are just not compatible enough for each other. No matter how much you like him, believe me when you find the right guy there will be no question in your mind about him. Don't deny yourself happiness and him too, find the right person for you.
2007-02-28 11:37:28 · answer #3 · answered by everythingszenidontthinkso 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similiar situation where I felt I was always arguing about petty stupid things that got in between us and had us mad at each others and broke up twice for stupid reasons.The ablity to compromise, to forgive (let go certain things),have understanding and patience more; if not already is something both of ya'll have to do in order for it to work out.You prolly love him to death but emotional part of the relationship is leading you to question whether he loves you or not or ever did.
2007-02-28 11:47:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first thing is that arguing about stupid things shows ur immaturity not lesser love... and the second thing is that its better that u ask him does he like this silly argument? does he think its a part of ur love... if he does. then well its ok.. there is nothing wrong in it. bu tif he does not.. then u should think about the things before u speak about them and try not to argue or fight with him verbally... slowly u both will adjust with each other..all the best...
2007-02-28 11:46:14 · answer #5 · answered by Ishq 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats how it is in some relationships, time spent together is time away from worries of the world and stress, but when they return, they hit hard. I'm sure u love him, be reasonable and ready to compromise. Spend enough time to be happy, and less to give some space
2007-02-28 11:34:48 · answer #6 · answered by XgothXminsterXchildX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both have to want to work on not sweating the small stuff. Choose your battles. Think to yourself: is it worth getting in an argument over? Is it worth ruining my day? If it isn't, then try to diffuse any situation by asking questions and not pointing the finger at him. Try to remain humble.
2007-02-28 11:35:25 · answer #7 · answered by AmandaHugNKiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the things you say are stupid then why waste the time arguing about it.Tell him that.
2007-02-28 11:37:09 · answer #8 · answered by Goodfellar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him win the arguments. If they're stupid things, let them go. He should see these things as stupid too. You can't just let him win though, you have to really let it go, or else he will know you're just tired of bikering.
2007-02-28 11:34:55 · answer #9 · answered by Cody Skinwalker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CHANCES ARE YOU ARE ATTRACTED TO HIM BUT HE IS NOT YOUR SOULMATE, ARGUEMENTS ARE PART OF A STRONG RELATIONSHIP JUST AS LONG AS YOU FEEL EQUAL IN THE ARGUEMENT (NOT INTIMIDATED,OR SCARED).CAN YOU SEE YOURSELF HAVING HIS KIDS? IF YES YOUR OK IF NO MOVE ON, IS HE ATTRACTIVE IN YOUR OPINION OR IS HE MORE OF THE FRIEND WHO WAS THERE FOR YOU BOYFRIEND?
SOMETHING I HAVE SEEN TO GET THE SPARK BACK IN THE RELATIONSHIP IS ROLE PLAY DO THE WHOLE FIRST DATE THING AGAIN ,STAY AT A GIRLFRIENDS HOUSE FOR A DAY OR TWO AND GET HIM GAGGING FOR IT BY PRETENDING ITS YOUR FIRST DATE AND IT WILL GET YOU HORNY GET HIM TO WINE AND DINE YOU TELL YOU WHY HE LOVES YOU AND GET KINKY...ALSO IT WILL INDICATE TO YOU YOUR FELLINGS FOR HIM AS THE FIRST DATE GETS CLOSER
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2007-02-28 11:46:16 · answer #10 · answered by Ben Macca 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋