I met a girl last year, but didnt get to talk to her until 5 months ago. We used to talk alot and be very passionate about each other. Then on Christmas break, she went on a vacation to her parents place and when she returned back, she didnt seem as passionate as before. We stopped talking that often, and now she even stopped initiating conversation. Strangly enough, she seems to enjoy our conversations when I start them. On this valentine, we exchanged chocolates and i managed to kiss her on her cheek, but I couldnt let her know of my feelings yet. Regardless, I still see her in class twice a week. Whenever I see her, she seem distant, dull and tired so we dont get to talk alot, yet when her girl friend shows up - all the negative signs disappear and they start talking alot. The hell? It makes me feel neglected. This is confusing me alot. Should I keep talking to her? Should I ignore her for a bit? I am so confused. Or am I thinking too much over silly details?
2007-02-28 03:20:08 · 13 answers · asked by conan_forever 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
relax as you are your own worst enemy..you are getting worked up and all nervous over something that is very simple.
Just give the relationship some time to work out the kinks in it and don't make every day a battle ground...young people worry about stuff that 90% they should not even be thinking about...you are to close to the forest to see the trees...don't be so uptight and try to take the big picure.
2007-02-28 03:24:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since it seems that she is losing interest in having as much to do with you and the conversations are becoming less, maybe you should think about having a conversation with her about the problem. It sounds like you like this girl and maybe you should tell her how much she means to you. Even if she rejects you it's not like you would be losing the friendship that you had before she went home. Also maybe something is bothering her in her personal life and she doesn't know how to deal with it. I learned over my years that women tend to take out their problems on the ones closest to them. Maybe that's why she acts happy and cheerful when the girls show up(not sad like she truly feels). Anyway stop wasting your time and tell her how you feel and don't be timid.
2007-02-28 03:32:52 · answer #2 · answered by Timberland 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to be direct and and tell her your feelings or else the situation will imprison you and leave you confused with the mixed signs that she gives you. At least this way if she feels the same way you know and you can do something about it and if she doesnt feel the same way then you can move on and not live with uncertain hope.
I think the girl above is right, she most likely has met someone else. So its even more of a reason to ask her
2007-02-28 03:25:38 · answer #3 · answered by ibs 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sounds to me as if she may have met someone else while vacationing with her parents. she is being standoffish because she is no longer interested or is bored with you. you should definately ignore her for quite a while - until she makes contact at least. even if she does make contact, tell her you have a date - this will drive her nuts and hopefully make her feel like she is missing out. Make her work for it a bit. DON'T even make eye contact with her. She is shunning you and you need to respect yourself (and not be happy about her shunning you) if you expect her to respect/want you. good luck brother....
2007-02-28 03:25:06 · answer #4 · answered by in2one 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think she has another love in her life. She likes the attention you give her and she thinks your charming, but not boyfriend material. I suspect that her "coldness" is a sign that she isn't interested in you romantically. Let this one go...as hard as that is to do.
2007-02-28 03:24:20 · answer #5 · answered by AmandaHugNKiss 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hi conan,
try to tell her what u feel about her in clear words. dont beat the bush around. if possible give a letter to her. try to meet her in secluded place. if she responses then well. if she is not, forget and forgive her. try for a new venture. all the best and enjoy the life!
2007-02-28 03:27:40 · answer #6 · answered by amarnath 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you should call her and tell her how you feel and that you are confused and really treasure your relationship and that you don't want to lose it ask her how she feels and ask her what you did wrong----make sure this is in a private place where it is just you and her think of your first romantic encounter where was that if you remember take her there and respect her don't tell her you love her because she is beautiful---well you can add that tell her that you think she is ----think of all her wonderful traits and put them here-----and tell her you really like her . . .I hope this helps
2007-02-28 03:26:39 · answer #7 · answered by sam_roxmysox 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yo, I'd stop it for a while...just wait if she comes 'n starts a convo... I mean, for me it sounds like she isn't interested 'nemore...so I'd wait a while...or use a good situation, when it is necessary or sth like that.... and think bout what ur sayin ...!
2007-02-28 03:27:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just try being friends. Don't push it or she'll see it as desperation.
If she fails to respond to your friendship chances are she's not for you. There's a million girls out there, find one who'll accept you for who you are, and for Gods sake, be yourself.
2007-02-28 03:24:33 · answer #9 · answered by Thozz 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you've known her for a year and you;ve only kissed her on the cheek...
no damn wonder she is bored with you
2007-02-28 03:23:35 · answer #10 · answered by Grin Reeper 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋