teens in a home with one or more parent smoker????!!!!?

Question

both my parents smoke and i have asthma...i wanted to know two things:

1) why would it be that when i ask my mom, "why dont u just soke outside?", she always says she doesnt have to answer and treats my question as a threat?

2) why is it that they smoke in the house if they know how bad it is for them and their children?

i know my parents love me to death...but i dont understand...

help!

Answer 1

This is touchy situation.
Smokers have a right to smoke in their own home. They are not breaking any laws as tobacco and the use of tobacco are legal.
However non-smokers have a right to not breath the toxins that the act of smoking releases into the air.
As a former smoker, I can empathise with both sides.
As a smoker I hated the fact that I couldn't break the habit and it made me angry with myself. When someone would comment about my smoking as in reminding me that it was bad--I would get defensive and angry with the person as well as myself. And I knew what they were saying was the truth! I resented them for reminding me of my addiction and myself for being weak.
I knew that it was bad for me as well as anyone around me.
As a child of a smoker you are in the midst of all that anger and resentment-even if it is not an obvious emotion.
A lot of parents will view this as, "my house, my body, my money, and I will do what I want".
You didn't say how old you are but I am inferring by the maturity of your post that you are at least 13 years old. So my advise is:
Talk to your parents when you are all doing something together-when you are all in pleasant moods.
Do not criticize their habit.
Just tell them that you have something to discuss.
Tell them that the smoke and smell bothers you.
Ask if they could make certain rooms smoke-free with air cleaners/ionizers if they are not willing to smoke outdoors.
If tempers flare, apologize for bringing it up then drop it. Arguing will only make them dig in their heals.
Believe me, your parents will think about your maturity and will also start thinking about at the very least your comfort and health when they smoke.
Good luck sweetie,

Answer 2

I stopped smoking in the house and car when my kids were born. My daughter also has asthma. I wont smoke anywhere around her. Its a terrible thing that they are doing. If you have a hard time breathing or you are using your albuterol more than usual start going to the school nurse and she can record the visits. Will your parents take you to the doctor? It should not even be a question. My kids dont even see their grandparents that often, because they smoke in the house. Maybe they can alteast stand by an open window, or designate an area of the house where they will smoke. it wont totally help you because it is still in the house, but atleast maybe you can go to a room with an air purifier and that will help. Smoking is a hard addiction to quit. take care of yourself

Answer 3

I can not tell you that they do not love you because I do not know them, but for a fact there are many parents that do not realize how much harm they can cause do their children by their acts, parents are not perfect, they make mistakes too; but is very obiouse that if a child has asthma the worst thing to do is smoke inside home or expose a child to it, I think that the best thing you can do if ask your doctor infront of your parents how much harm can be done to you by being exposed to it, have the doctor explaining it to them so they can see how serious it is, you can also do some search over the internet and show them the consequences on this.

Answer 4

You need to sit down with both of your parents and just ask them to listen to you. Let them know that you know that they love you but that their smoking in the house is affecting your asthma. Maybe you can find another solution besides them going outdoors. You can have a designated smoking room or invest in those air purifier machines.

They may argue with you and say that its their home and they can do what they want to in it, but if they understand how this affects you and truely care they will try to compromise and figure out how to make things a little easier on you.

Answer 5

good question! touchy subject.... but good question!


I am sorry..... it is most likely.....laziness.... for the reason why they probably do not go outside often lately huh.... or, do they usually and you have noticed that over winter they have not? still selfish either way......

that one that says do not be a brat when it comes to the way you ask? you might want to take that advise.... bet your mom would take it outside more often if you approached her correctly to make her see anything you say.... or ask them to take it to another room, again watch the manner..... one you agree to avoid.....

air purifier? and other gadgets your mother may have.....

and stop asking in front of other family members, kids for heaven's sake sweetie ;> then you would not be shut down out of sheer embarrassment of answering to my child in front of other children..... when in theory, I should not be questioned.... did not raise you that way, did I.... hmmmm

I hate myself for smoking... I have been trying to quit now for more years than you know or remember... I did not smoke while pregnant with you or three years almost after.... it is embarrassing, humilating that a habit like this... one that is deadly and costs (although it is cheap here @ 4.00 or less) that even though I have cut down.....? I can not quit..... and when asked about it? I do at times get upset.... for all those reasons.... and more..... and no, won't discuss this in front of the younger kids.... so please, pick your times better.... hmmmm

at 37yrs old I felt and feel my home is where I am allowed to be comfortable.... not a valid or good one I know.... but, true

though I am in the wrong.... and will do what I can to self correct....

okay self edit here:
just read some of the answers..... hon, some of these people have it right...not the guy who says one day you will have an attack.... not the one who says that second hand is not harmful.... but the one who used to smoke and sees the sides.... not the one who says wear a mask...lol... the ones who valiantly would not and have not smoked around the kids? great! kudos to you.... and yes...love her to pieces... just like she says..... ;)
father quit smoking two months ago...... it is just mommy who is the bad one here.....

Answer 6

Asthma in people can have all different kinds of trigger factors. I know a boy who has asthma that isn't affected by smoke, but cold air can trigger his asthma bad. The more you hound your parents, the more apt it is going to make them resentful. It's almost rebellious, like in kids. It's also an addiction. They say that cigarette smoking is harder to quit than heroin. That's a pretty strong addiction. Maybe they could invest in some air purifiers for you, or limit their smoking to one area of the house.

Answer 7

If my child had asthma I would definitely smoke outside. I would never smoke around children period. I have a friend that has a child with asthma and her and her husband both smoke in the house. They will not listen to what anyone has to say about it. I think your parents are selfish and should consider your health. My children are #1 in my life. Maybe you could tell your parents that your going to live with a friend, grandparent, aunt or uncle. Then maybe they'd think about what they are doing and how they are hurting you. Good Luck :)

Answer 8

You people must be young to be so stupid and brain-washed!!!! Second-hand smoke does not cause cancer, don't believe it for a frigging second! Where are the stats on this? They don't exist!

My parents smoked when I was growing up, in fact, my mother smoked throughout ALL 5 of her pregnancies. Not ONE of us has cancer or asthma and the oldest is almost 50 years old now.

This young generation is so INTOLERANT!

Don't believe everything they shove down your throat, MOST of it is untrue.

Answer 9

They are lazy and just don't care. Ask them to buy an air purifier for your room. It will help a bit.

You should go outside when they smoke. It will not help much but they should start to get the picture.

For extra credit, calculate how much they spend on cigarettes a year. It could have funded most of your college savings account instead.

Answer 10

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