There was this sweet and intelligent girl whom I love and she stays in USA(already committed to someone)., and now I am married too!! But I can't stop thinking about her, it was probably staying and making her career in US which made her choice; sadly in my case it will work out a few years later but by then she would have been living with her man for almost 3-4 years, should I still pursue or forget about love of my life?? and that too, why me?? a goodlooking, intelligent and career oriented man?? I have asked this question several times to GOD and am also turning into a kind of a 'flirt' because of my 'hurt' EGO, Will you all help resolve this question??
Take Care, Love and Regards,
Anshuman Dave(Gujarat, India)
2007-02-28 03:12:27 · 20 answers · asked by anshuman d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
get her back
2007-02-28 03:14:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boss...now that you're married. It's not only about you. Besides you don't know what that girls feels for you. She never tried to contact you perhaps that explains the best. And, if you had loved her so very much you should not have married in the first case. Turning to god...hah! What you wanna prove? That he has done wrong, oh come on....the best thing for you is start loving your wife and if you can't then don't tormentise her anymore. Perhaps you need to do some soul searching....you turning into 'flirt' amuses me. Who're you playing with? How many souls. Take time off from your work and take your wife to some amazing place, spend time with her, tell her all this, perhaps she will understand and make you 2 .
2007-02-28 03:22:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same boat you are. Let me tell you somthing. There are 8 billion people in this world. Whos to day one is right for you or for me. I'm with my fieance now from Bombay but I never really knew how much i loved him untill I tracked down the man I though I love. You see life has a funny way of sticking it to you. We alway wonder about the what if and the maybes that we forget that the people that are around us woul ir for out happiness. When i went to see the man I loved and I looked at him. I relized that if he TRUELY was the one than he woul have felt that too. They say tht ignorance is bliss. That someones excuse is never knowing if they wee in love with each other. The heart always knows. It knows form the first time you see someone. I think that if you look deep down inside yourself. You will realize that you are not in love with her or you would have went after her a long time ago. I think you need to let it go your in love with the fact you lost someone. When the woman whos with you now loves you. You just have to look beyond the surface to relize you got all you ever wanted.
2007-02-28 03:22:00 · answer #3 · answered by cassie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should call her one dy and tell her how you feel your wife or w/e doesn't have to know but if she feels the same don't rish tell her to work things out with her hus.band and then work things out with your wife tell your wife that you have feeling for someone else and that it would be unfasir to her to stay with you because you do not return her feelings and that you are sorry then once everything is settled with your wife and her husband then you should make sure that you feel the same way about her and then don't get married right away date for at least(AT LEAST!) 5 MONTHS sooner and that would be rushing it . . Please note that before making the call sit down and think about how you feel about your wife your love and evrybody else forget your emotions for them while you do this so that you can deside
hope this helps!
2007-02-28 03:19:54 · answer #4 · answered by sam_roxmysox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
assalam o alikum,
i m so sorry to hear all this, but it is in ur luck.
sometimes things happen to us which we dont want them to happen, but whatever happen to us its for our good. our Creator knows better than we know, so He give us those things which r good for us, and n take those which might harmful for us.
in my opinion u should forget her, and let her live her life. and u should also try to take interest in ur own life with ur wife, there must b some good points in ur wife which u can love them. remember ur wife is ur life partner, and being a husband u have some duties towards her.
i wish u all the best happy life with ur wife.
also ask (dua) Allah (God) to give u strength and help u to forget that girl which is now belongs to someone else.
2007-02-28 03:35:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all If you still have feelings for that person why did you get married to begin with and if that girl love her husband you should totally leave them alone.
2007-02-28 03:17:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough one.... if your married and she's married shouldn't your love of your life be your wife? first of all don't get confused about whats truly love and whats infatuation. you should not worry about her and care about your wife just like she is with her husband. you can always be close Friends.some times in friendship you can have love towards each other but not push behind the one you vowed to. hope it all works out!
2007-02-28 03:29:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to write her a snail mail letter and explain your feeling you never know she might feel the same way about you Good luck!
Best of wishes and god bless
2007-02-28 03:16:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never forget her, but think twice: you are married, think that your wife loves you and probably someone loves your ex-gf. I know is hard, but try to love your wife. Why are you married?
2007-02-28 03:19:42 · answer #9 · answered by BRIANA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you artwork at it in simple terms like each and every dating. It takes time for romance to enhance, love isn't in basic terms a actual dating yet one in line with understand, believe and friendship. the stable intercourse comes plenty later.
2016-10-02 02:53:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u really miss her that much, try to get her back in a comfortable situation for everyone involved in this complication. All e best to you.
2007-02-28 03:18:29 · answer #11 · answered by ChocGlico 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋