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my husband is about to file for divorce today. he has been planning and getting all of his affairs in order for the last 3 months to prepare for his well being after the divorce. he stopped the joint account and has only given me 150 dollars this year. he claims that he can't afford to give me money because times are hard, but he is buying all the things he wants and needs. he buys a little food here and there and does the bare minimum to keep from getting in trouble. I know that the kids and i will have to move out of housing in June or July. I haven't worked in 5 years and i need childcare, a place to live and to be able to have help getting back on my feet with 4 kids one of which is mine from another relationship. i havwe talked to everyone on post, but he has gotten there before me and made me out to ber a crazy woman. please help.

2007-02-28 03:11:32 · 10 answers · asked by uadoreme4 1 in Politics & Government Military

TO THE PERSON THAT ASKED. I AM A MILITARTY SPOUSE SO IT WOULD ONLY BE FITTING THAT I ASK FOR ADVICE FROM THOSE WHO ARE FAMILIAR WITH MILITARY LAWS.

2007-02-28 03:21:29 · update #1

10 answers

If your husband is in the military you need to go to JAG now. State the facts not your feelings or opinions - they will help you out - go now and don't just talk about it. Also do not tell your husband what you are doing to do as he might cut you off at the pass. You need to go talk to a chaplain also. They don't care that you are their religion or not they are there to help.

2007-02-28 03:23:12 · answer #1 · answered by terri d 3 · 2 0

i know it's hard because you don't know how you'll cope with looking after your children and are scared that they'll end up on the streets, but u shouldnt be. taking this matter to court would only make things worse for you, but if u get a good result in the end, it's worth it. im sorry to say, but 150 dollars is ridiculous. im pretty sure he would earn more than that in a week. i think he's the one that needs to take responsibility as a father, but the more u keep pushing him, the more he'll make u out to be a crazy woman out to get money out of him. it's not right. if u cant find a suitable childcare that's affordable, the only other option is to let one of your family members look after your kids while you're out there looking for work. going to college certainly improves your chances of getting a job out there. dont let your ex get the better of you. you're better than that. prepare yourself for what's to come. and if things dont work out, u can always move sumwhere else where it may. and hopefully one day u will find that someone who wont treat u like your ex and actually love you and your kids. good luck with everything

2007-02-28 03:26:18 · answer #2 · answered by kristyb872001 6 · 1 0

First of all don't sign any paper work until you and your lawyer read over it, the next step that you have to do is find a job to take care of your kids, you cant depend on people to take of you because they might just let you down. You can start taking care of these issues by going out there and trying to find the things that your going to need. It's hard for every one to start over, but I promise that it going to get better for you if you go out there to get it. And this sounds a lot similar to what I went threw and now I'm making as much as he is. God bless you

2007-02-28 03:35:22 · answer #3 · answered by keshh23 2 · 0 0

Go to JAG, and file for child support. They are lawyers and will help you out. IF that fails (doubt it), then seek out a civilian lawyer that deals with Military law, there are always some around military bases.

2007-02-28 04:01:38 · answer #4 · answered by John B 4 · 1 0

Look for resources in your community. Also he still has an obligation to any of the children that are his. This means they are still eligible for all of his military benefits. If you live on or near base there should be a military subsidized childcare facility. (I work in Navy daycare)

2007-02-28 03:19:34 · answer #5 · answered by sassypants_911 2 · 0 0

If he's "about" to file for divorce...beat him to the "punch."

Get yourself a good attorney who practices in "family law" and that will consider the welfare of your children. The law is very specific when it comes to child support.

Additionally, you've not stated how long you were married...but...you MAY be eligible to a certain percentage of his retirement pay.

Be sure to look to the future as far as that is concerned.

Best wishes!

2007-02-28 03:16:25 · answer #6 · answered by KC V ™ 7 · 0 0

Get a Lawyer, get a job and file first.
What did this have to do with the Military????

2007-02-28 03:18:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Get a Lawyer and fast

2007-02-28 03:16:33 · answer #8 · answered by nalla 3 · 0 0

go to legal aid. they will force him to pay child care and you will prob get half of everthing he owns legal aid is free for people who can't afford it good luck

2007-02-28 03:15:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

Take care of them.

2007-02-28 03:18:28 · answer #10 · answered by RodneyRowland 5 · 0 0

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