i went to check my email last night and when i went to log in my boyfriend was still loged into his (but he wasnt home) i got nosie and ive been suspisous lately. so i looked , but now i wish i had not i found half naked pictures of hisso called "friends", a very emotional letter to his ex sayin he will always care for her and he misses her. im flipping out i dont know what to do i love him we have been together for over a year and we just moved into an apartment together. it get hard to trust him he works the graveyard shift(11pm-7am) so there is plenty of ways he can cheat without me really knowing....but now my problem is do i confront him? and if i do how can i tell him i know without telling him i ws snooping? or should i wait a few days and see how i feel?? i REALLY dont know what to do right now ive never been cheated on b4 so i dont really know how to handle this HELP!?!
2007-02-28 03:11:30 · 5 answers · asked by shauna g 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You must remember now, he is the one in the wrong. You cannot accept his cheating behaviour however much you love him. He must prove himself worthy of you and so you should break up with him for now and see if he changes over a new leaf. If he doesn't, then he's not worth it.
2007-03-08 02:41:55 · answer #1 · answered by HopeGrace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be open and tell him what happened. Expect him to be very sorry but he won’t really give you an opportunity again to find something like this out.
There is no explanation that would make you happy. You have to decide if you can live with an apology no matter how heartfelt and move forward. Understanding that it will require him earning your trust again.
Why does he need to be reminded of how great you are? Does he have to almost loose you to see this? Or is this his way of letting you know he wants out? You need some real answers and be prepared for bad news. Sorry!
2007-03-08 09:00:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you two share a computer? And it was on and his account was open? It's not that bad of a snoop especially finding what you did. I would confront him because you will not feel better until you do. Porn is one thing but porn of girls that are friends, HECK NO!!!! What was the ex letter like, when was it sent? Maybe it was a good bye letter, like he's moving on. I would be very weary to stay living with him and get his side of the story. Be careful.
2007-03-07 20:51:27 · answer #3 · answered by Rhode Island Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go ahead and tell him the account was still up and you decided to be nosy, tell him your sorry for that BUT he obviously has some explaining to do. In my opinion, What you see in those emails are probably just a fraction of what he's actually been doing, God knows what hes been doing with these So called "friends" away from the computer.
2007-02-28 18:41:01 · answer #4 · answered by ♡♥ !Ð3ΔL ♡♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to mend his ways
2007-03-07 22:55:34 · answer #5 · answered by Goldman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋