is getting married right after high school too young?

Question

my girlfriend and i plan to get married after high school and people tell us its too soon and were too young. what do you think? what age (if married) did you get married?

Answer 1

I got married when I was 21 and I think that was too young! People need to realize what a marriage means and what it takes to have a successful marriage. The kind that last 4ever when your sitting on your front porch swing with your great gran kids talking about how great life has been to you.

Besides these days its not frowned upon to live together without being married. SO my suggestion would be to live together for at least one year. Plus what's the rush go to college get your degree
start a career get experience behind you make some cash to support a family . Then think about getting married once you've covered some basis of starting a family and being able to support them properly.

Answer 2

If you and your girlfriend truly are in love your love could stand to wait a little while (even six months or so) before marrying. If you both feel adamantly about getting married right after high school, seek couples counselling beforehand. It will give you the tools needed to really make a marriage work long term. Dating is mostly about the fun aspects of life (going to the movies, go out to eat, just hanging around). Marriage is the every day daily grind. You wake up and see each other look like actors in a horror movie, you see the bad side of each other when you are in a bad mood, you have to deal with other issues every day (the rent, job, friends, family, house cleaning, chores, etc.) along with each other, please be prepared. Good luck to you and God Bless.
P.S. I got married at 19 and have been married 25 years. It hasn't always been easy. I always say marriage is the hardest job anyone will ever have but the one with the best benefits. Talk to other people you know and trust (grandparents, aunts, the pastor of your church, neighbors, boss) who are married for some tips and advice.

Answer 3

If you think you are ready then nothing can stop you, but let me tell you this. When I graduated from high school I was dating a guy and we talked about getting married all the time. Then I went to college and he cheated on my. Now I am planning a wedding to an amazing guy I would have never met if I had married my high school sweetheart.

If you are sure that this is the right person for you then give it a few years. If it is meant to be then the timing will be even more perfect when you are older and more mature.

Answer 4

yes, that is way too young. i was 26 when i got married. i think the older you are the better because you are more mature and you have had more life experiences. 18/19 even 20/21 is too young. why would you want to rush in to things, anyways? don't grow up too fast. most young marriages do not last long. if you two are meant for each other you will still be together in a couple of years. i would wait.

Answer 5

Yes - absolutely too young.

I am going to be 33 when I get married for the first time this August. We dated back in High School, but went separate ways. If we had stayed together and not had these other experiences in life, we might not be able to respect each other as much as we do now. I went to college, he went to the Marines. During the time we were apart (12 years), I learned how I should be treated, what a "bad" relationship feels like, etc. And he is definitely a "Prince".

A few of my friends married right out of high school. Here's their brief stories

1 - Now divorced.

2 - still married, but the wife goes out to the bars every weekend and cheats on her husband because in her mind, she never got to "live" when she was younger. And I'll tell ya, she has a GREAT husband - she just can't see it cuz she never had a bad relationship - just that one.

3 - still married, but they never do stuff together and she goes out from time to time and like to flaunt her "stuff" and get attention from other guys.

I went out as a single woman, no attachments and got it all out of my system. Now I have no desire or curiosity of what else is out there. I already know. Been there, done that. And I treasure the relationship I have and will never do anything to jeapordize that.

There are a lot of experiences to have out there before you marry. If you are meant to be - then waiting won't change that.

Answer 6

I believe it's too young. I'm not saying it can't work, but it'll be hard. What's the rush. When you graduate from high school your not even established yet financially, let alone into adulthood. You haven't even experienced life yet. I am 22, so I am not much older than you. I once believe that it was a good idea, until I actually lived a little, went to college. The real world is no joke, and neither is marriage. I think you two really need to give it a few more years. If it's meant to be it'll be. I hope you make the right decision.

Answer 7

After high school is too early. All those who I went to school with who got married, is now divorced and either single with kids, divorced and re married or going through a divorce right now. I only know 1 person so far who has been in a good relationship and they are not married yet.

My middle/high school sweetheart and I just got married Sat (26th of Feb), originally suppose to be next year, but changed it to renewal vows in Maui as he is going back to Iraq in 4 weeks. we been out of high school almost 5 years now, and even at age 21 and almost 22, we are still a bit young ourselves.

If you two are ment for eachother, it is best to wait and see where the relationship goes in adult lives. Adulthood out of high school is way different than in high school; seriously. Put it off at least a year or two.

Answer 8

I was 20, in my second year of collage. Right out of school is too soon. May I ask if both of you come from a happy homes. I see a lot of people want to get married to get away from an unhappy home life. If you do get married please make sure there are no babies for four years. You two still have a lot of growing to do. Growing up together may seem nice but growing up can really only been done from the inside out.

Answer 9

No one can really tell you the right thing to do, only give you their opinions, but at such a young age I would really hope that you are mature enough to listen to ones who have been down this road!
Why anyone would want to marry right after high school is beyond my comprehension in the world today. Education is such an important priority in today's life!!! Without the proper education you stand the chance of never having the things you really want out of life because you chose not to apply yourself.
You're young, you have the world by the tail so to speak and there shouldn't be a rush to settle down and start a marriage so quick! Sow your oats now or later down the road you'll regret it, believe me, I know! See what life has to offer before tying yourself down, enjoy it, see it, do it!!
You're only young once!
Good luck in your decision!!

Answer 10

I got married young (21) and came to regret it. There is so much you learn as you mature into an adult. The most important thing is to make sure that the two of you have the same goals. And hope that those goals stay the same. Unfortunately most all of the marriages of my friends and accquantances that began shortly after high school have fallen apart. That is not to say that all of them have or that you can't make it work, but at the same time there is no need to rush into anything.