My boyfriends sister and kids moved into my house this summer.At the end of the summer she moved out of the city and left her son to live with his father.Where they are living now is a very small space,1 little room with3 chaires and a t.v, the kitchen with a fridge and a stove that doesn't work then a bedroom that him and his dad share and a very small bathroom.His father does have a good head on his shoulders but can't keep a job.They live off welfare and go to soup kitchens when they can.I don't care bout what people have,He comes here 1 weekend of every month for a sleepover at our home, but now my son was invited out this weekend to sleep there.Their plan is to order out for dinner,go sledding,visiting,play games etc.My son has his own little spiderman couch that he brings to sleepovers.Would you let your child go if u were in my shoes?I dont want to offend them by saying NO! ....what would you think if someone sent their child for a sleepover in these conditions?
2007-02-28 03:07:50 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I think that maybe the benefits(socializing, learning,playing)
might outway the negatives(small apt. little stuff,poor) You
can have fun and keep busy even without money. It sounds
like your boyfriends sisters son is similar age as your son
and that they're friends? Does she still see her son? If you
can maybe the boys father needs some help getting motivated
to find work and better himself, for his sons sake, if you know
and trust him, why not? Europeans, asiians, and russians
all lived, many to a dwelling, and they survived...
Tell him you're a bit nervous leaving him away from home,
you'd like to hear from them or check in on them...
2007-03-01 14:51:30 · answer #1 · answered by Uncle rvk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I trusted the parents and was confident that my child would be safe I don't think that the conditions would be a huge deal, in fact it might be good for your child to see that not everyone has it as good as you do. I, personally, am not a big fan of sleepovers - my children's friends can sleep over here but I don't like my kids to sleep over any where unless it's their grandparents house - there are too many wacky people out there!!
2007-03-01 00:49:07 · answer #2 · answered by Zabes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can I just get this straight? The father of your son's friend is your boyfriend's sister's ex? So the kid is your boyfriend's nephew and the father is kind of related. What I mean is that there is a connection - he's not just some random guy.
And it sounds like you feel okay about the guy, so why not let your son go over there? He's obviously not bothered by his friend's lack of material goods and that's a really good thing. It's great that you've raised a kid who doesn't judge people by what they have but by who they are.
2007-02-28 04:03:30 · answer #3 · answered by Skidoo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it boils down to whether or not you trust them. and do you feel like you child would be safe with them? if no then you might need to meet with the boy's father and discus the situation. he can provide you with a sense of trustworthiness. if you feel like you do not want your child in that environment then don't let him go, but find a nice way to tell them.
2007-02-28 03:47:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope.
2007-02-28 04:33:31 · answer #5 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him go sleep overs are great it is somehing new.If he doesn't like it then he wont go back
2007-02-28 07:38:18 · answer #6 · answered by ronswelty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him go and have fun...it could be worth his while, send him packing BTW
2007-02-28 03:48:24 · answer #7 · answered by Joe Capo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋