i need help?!?

Question

i need help because i don't know if i want to brake up with my boyfriend because i love him with all me heart but i can't ever see him because hes 18 and i am not trying to act like his mother or trying to tell him how to live his life its just that i know i am hyurting him by not able to see him and i have too many problems i don't want him to worry about me and i am not taking my anger out on him either its just that i is so hard because my mom is abusing me my school work isn't getting done because my mom is always telling me to do chores and i can't make time to call him all the time. and i love him so so so much i really do we think we are ment to be toghether because everything we like are the same everything. but yeah what should i do........ i really love him more then anything in the whole world and when ever i think about braking up with him it feels like a part of me is dieing and i want him to be with some one who can be there with him because i can't what should i do?!

Answer 1

First off, find out what a run-on sentence is.

Tell him what your situation is, if its meant to be, he'll understand.

Answer 2

I think...

There are ways You can keep your boyfriend, do your schoolwork, AND do your chores.

1) When you think about breaking up with him and it feels like a part of you is dying, then... listen to your feelings. If you think you Love and have so much in common, Don't break up right now.

2) If your mom is abusing you (physically or psychologically?) and always telling you to do chores, then.... you have to NEGOTIATE!!! Tell her that you Want to HELP, but that you can't Help all the time or do ALL the chores, because you don't have time to do your schoolwork. Ask & Tell her that you will do Agreed Upon chores at Agreed Upon times. You need A SCHEDULE that you BOTH can agree on, for example:

If she wants you to do the dishes, the laundry, clean the house, and go shopping, then:

You say: "OK, I'll do the dishes right after dinner. I'll do the laundry every day between 530-6PM. I'll help you clean the house between 6-7PM. If you need me to go out and buy something, I can only do that at 5PM, or you can tell me what you need the day before, so that I can pick it up after school. Outside of these times, I need to do my homework."

Tell her that is the only way you can ORGANIZE YOUR TIME. She can decide what you have to do, and she can tell you how many hours (not more than 1.5-2), but YOU can tell her WHEN it is most convenient for you.

3) You do your Schoolwork the same way: When you are NOT doing chores, you SCHEDULE your schoolwork & do it. For example, Schoolwork: 3-430PM + 8-12AM. This will make you work harder and faster during these times.

4) If you want to call or talk with your BF, you also need to SCHEDULE a time!!! For example, after you do your schoolwork at 12AM. Remember to LIMIT the time to say, 30min., because you need to go to sleep. OR, if he can only talk before 12AM, tell him that you can only talk for 15min between 930-945PM (a study break!!!). And ONLY 15min., because you have to do schoolwork. So he can call, or you can call. Your BF or You can choose which times to call, between 930-945PM, or from 12-1230AM. On weekends, you can talk more. If your BF really Cares and Likes you, he WILL ACCEPT this!!! And make time to call you at these times.

NO talking outside of these times, because you are so busy and have so much to do! If you can't control yourself, everything will FALL APART and be a BIG MESS... just like it sounds right now. So STAY with the SCHEDULE.

5) Tell your BF that if after 3 months or so, everything GOES OK and you have more time, that you can make more time to talk. But NOT RIGHT NOW, because you need to Organize your Life and Solve Your Problems First. Then you can be FREER & HAPPIER with him.

6) DON'T tell your BF how to live his life right now, because it sounds like it is already very Hard for you to live your own Life. If you can't see him that often right now for the next couple months, he HAS to accept that. If he wants to wait, OK - you know he Loves You. If he doesn't want to wait, that's OK too - you know he doesn't Love You. Right now, you HAVE to Organize Your Life! That is #1.

When you have a Better Life, then you can share a Better Life with someone else.

I wish you the best -

Answer 3

if you really did love him the last thing on your mind would be breaking up.and if he loves you back he should understand why you cant call him or why you cant be in contact with him all the time