Is there any comforting words out there......?

Question

I have just had to have my beloved cat put to sleep today,Ive had her for 13 yrs,she had cancer of the liver.It was such a shock as she showed no signs of being ill except for last night.Is there any kind people out there that can give me any kind words to help me through this ,as i feel absolutly gutted and miss her so much.Thanks to all that answer x

thankyou so much to everybody that has taken the time to write such lovely messages i have read every single one through at least twice...davetaps or should it be davetwat you are an @rsehole...

Answer 1

i really feel for you, i too had to have my 17 yr old cat put to sleep on sunday, i wasnt truly prepared for the level of grief i felt or the level of support i got on here when i posted a very similar question to yours.

the first few days you are raw and i just cried and felt guilty like id let her down although i knew rationally that it was the kindest thing to do.

i rang a pet bereavment counsellor at the blue cross( see their website) she was fantastic.

also i needed to do something so i bought a little angel holding a cat and a memory box the same which i put her collar in with some spiritual things that i hope and believe will protect her ... i put some crystals and my nannas wedding ring in and asked her to look after her( obviously this depends on your beliefs)

someone who answered my post suggested i try to visualise her and see if she would communicate with me.. i was sceptical but desperate to feel she was ok... i got images of her in a sunny woodland chasing butterflies..again sounds a bit daft but it brought me comfort.

also someone posted me this verse which though it made me sob again after a few days makes me think of her in a bittersweet kind of way.

Weep not for me though I am gone
into that gentle night.
Grieve if you will, but not for long
upon my soul's sweet flight.

I am at peace, my soul's at rest
there is no need for tears.
For with your love I was so blessed
for all those many years.

There is no pain, I suffer not
the fear now all is gone.
Put now these things out of your thoughts
in your memory I live on.

Remember not my fight for breath
remember not the strife
Please do not dwell upon my death,
but celebrate my life.

i hope you find some comfort, just take it as it comes, its hard but does get better, i miss her and keep being suprised that shes not here but after only 5 days i can finally think of her without crying my eyes out. i hope ive helped.xxx

Answer 2

Hi, I am so very sorry to hear your sad news. It must have been a terrible shock. So now you are in shock and need to acknowledge that it will take time and a lot of questions until you can get a handle on it and grieve.

I have three senior pets and know that I shall be experiencing what you are any time. You cannot prepare but you can know that your cat apparently did not suffer a great deal, nor did you have to go through some of the terrible decision-making that comes with prolonged illness of elderly animals. That is a meagre blessing, I am sure.

We love our pets and, if they stay a long time, as yours did, there is an incredible bond that survives death. Eventually it lingers peacefully as a wonderful support and a memory for the rest of your life.

Peace

Answer 3

So sorry for your loss. WE lost our poodle to cancer after 11 yrs. You were a very caring & loving pet owner. You did what you had to do for the comfort of your beloved cat. Laying her to rest was also a sign of selflessness giving her peace without harm or pain. You did the right thing. Each pet is so unique. Their personalities are so different. Knowing you were such a special pet owner (seldom do cats find such a great mommy), I really hope you'll give another kitten or cat a home it can feel safe & in turn give you all the love you deserve! My sympathy to you and all who will be missing your beloved cat. :-(

Answer 4

Oh you poor thing,it's a horrible decision to make but I'm sure it was the best thing to do.I had to have my cat put down about 9 years ago and it was the worst feeling, Monty was such a character that I didn't think I would ever manage to find another.However last year I decided that I wanted another and so bought a Bengal kitten named Shah and he is just sooooo gorgeous....I have no regrets.
Of course you are going to feel desperately sad,just because it's an animal doesn't make the grief any less.
Am thinking of you xxxxxx

Answer 5

I'm sorry to hear your sad news. I had to have my nineteen year old cat down two years ago and can fully understand how devastated you must be feeling.

I had moved overseas and was new to the area. I'd taken my cat to the vets for a routine check up and blood test. When I collected her in the afternoon, they told me they'd had to sedate her because she became a bit aggressive when they tried to take her blood. (My cat was so gentle, there's no way that could have been true). To cut a long story short, they had over-sedated her and she never fully regained consciousness. The original vet refused to see my cat again even though I rang to say how ill she was and I ended up having to find another vet willing to give me an emergency appointment. This second vet immediately, diagnosed that my cat had gone into the final stages of kidney failure and that the kindest thing was to put her to sleep. I knew that this was the best thing for my cat, but I couldn't get over my feelings of guilt in taking her to the original vet in the first place and making her last day on earth so miserable.

For a long time, I couldn't speak about her to people without getting all choked up. I cried a lot during the first year after she died and was seriously beginning to consider counselling to get over my grief. I had even adopted two stray cats, but they were so opposite in personality to my old cat, that they made me miss her even more. I was surfing the net one night and I came across an article that helped me so much.

http://rainbowsbridge.com/stories/Lynn-BreakingThePowerofGuilt-632963483160948750.aspx

You clearly loved your cat and will miss her for a long time. How long depends on the individual. I know it won't seem possible now, but believe me, one day you will think of your cat without feeling sad. You will begin to remember more of the good times that you shared than the sad ones.

I wish you well, as I'm sure do all the other pet lovers out there.

Answer 6

I am very sorry about your cat and it is alright to cry and miss her as if she was a friend or a relative - because she is. Some animals are as close to us as friends and family.

Take the time to mourn her properly before you get a new cat, so that you don't constantly compare your new cat with the one that has passed on. A new cat can never and will never be a 'replacement' for your cat because animals, like humans, are each unique and different.

Your 13 year old cat will always have a place in your heart no matter how many pets you'll come to love in the future and she will wait for you at the Rainbow Bridge when the time comes for you to be together.

Best of luck

Answer 7

I'm so sorry to hear about your cat, Honey.

Like you, I had to have a cat put down probably with cancer shortly after New Year's. I had raised this kitty from the time she was a little teacup-sized ball of fluff, so letting go was hard.

I won't say something trite like 'At least she didn't suffer', or stupid like 'You'll get another kitty'. That's tripe: No cat can replace your special friend.

You had 13 years with your furry friend, 13 wonderful years in which she was your companion. Grieve as long as you must. But remember the love you shared together.

Feel better, Honey.

Answer 8

I am so sorry to hear this, but I want you to know I know exactly how you feel and no matter how many people say, 'it is just a cat.' It isn't, losing an animal can feel like losing a child if you are close enough to it. It will take time, but soon you will feel better. Let me tell you a little about what happened to me, so you know that someone else out there knows what pain you are feeling. When I was about 5 my cat had kittens, one of which was calico, and I LOVED HER. I wanted to name her the colorful kitten. Anyway, I ended up naming her Callie, and she was my baby. I carried her around with me everywhere, it was to the point of where I think she actually thought I was her mother, because she would follow me everywhere. I would walk outside, she would walk right beside me, she would lay on me whenever I sat down, I was very close to her. I had a bad home life, neither of my parents were good to me, so this cat meant the world to me. Anyway, just a few years ago from now, my dad ran Callie over with his truck. She died right away, and I was SOOO heart broken. I couldn't eat, sleep, and I was very depressed. So me and my Mom drove to the vet to get Callie cremated, and the WHOLE time were were driving there, it was so weird, whenever we switched the radio station, the same song kept coming on, I hope you dance by Le Anne Womack. So now that is my 'Callie song.' I seriously think she was playing that song for me to make me feel better.
So anyhow, I don't know if my story helped you, bored you to tears, or whatever, but I know how painful this can be. You just need to think now that any suffering your cat had with it's cancer, is over. In a few weeks I think you should go and buy a new kitten, it isn't replacing your old one, but gaining a new little furry friend! Good luck and keep your head high!

Answer 9

I am so sorry for your loss. Pets are just as much part of the family as anyone else. I'm sure your pet departed this world feeling very loved. Cats don't show pain like other animals do and I it must have seemed sudden for you. The good thing is that she didn't have to suffer. I work with a pet adoption/foster system and have lost many of my furry friends over the years. It takes time to heal, just remember all of the wonderful things about your kitty and she will always be in your memories.

Answer 10

Your cat thanks you for all the love and kindness you showed her for those years. She went to sleep peacefully and perhaps even gladly!
At 13 she was an old lady at the end of a long and happy life!
When the thoughts of her not being there get too much Try and picture the good times and remember her however you feel comfortable with, but don't be afraid of your feelings. All who've loved an animal and lost it share your sadness. Have a good cry and feel the hugs we all would like to send!