Ok, bit long this one, hope you can give a suitable answer. My aunt lived her whole life looking after her mam and dad. Working inthe family shop, and helping my nan when she was very ill until my nan died about 6 years ago.
She never married, had a boyfriend and loved the church, she was a minister of the eucharist, and never harmed a fly.
About a month ago she was in the bathroom - after spending a regular afternoon with some family - and collapsed and hit her head, she had a stroke.
She died a few days later.
There is so much bad in this world, bad people etc why did he pick her, she had done nothing wrong in her whole god dam life. i was/am catholic but to be honest cant see the popint anymore as god obviosuly doesnt care. he just picks and chooses and we could all go at any time. it is so unfair, why did he do this?
2007-02-28 02:42:20 · 35 answers · asked by lisaviduka 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
thank you for your answers - well most of you anyway!!
im also 29 weeks pregnant and its so sad that my baby will never know this lady.
2007-02-28 02:51:52 · update #1
My dad was a pastor and was good to everyone and lived a good life. He died a terrible death after suffering for several months. He's been gone a year and I have asked that question so many times of God. Why???? We all miss him so much and he did so much good and he had so many wonderful things going on at the church. He had a gym being built for our kids at church and he helped so many people. The only way I get through it is I know he's in heaven. He is not suffering. He is happy. He is safe. He lived his life well and is getting his reward. Maybe you could think of your aunt in this way. That she lived a good life and is getting her reward now in heaven. She is not hurting. People have told me that God needed my dad for something important. I would think, yeah, but we needed him here too!! I don't think there's an easy answer to death or abuse or hunger or war. It's just life and we'll know the answer in heaven one day.
2007-02-28 02:50:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about your Aunt. I can understand why you are asking this question, sometimes things are hard to understand.
It's ok for you to be 'cross' with God. He understands how you feel.
First of all, looking at what you have said about your aunt, you have a lot to be thankful for, although it may not seem it at the moment.
OK, she lived her life caring for others, that's good and probably she was very happy doing that. She loved the church, that's brilliant, she was obviously happy with that too. She had a boyfriend though never married, maybe that was her choice, I don't know.
She died quite suddenly. This is a shock for those who loved and knew her. I'm sure she will be greatly missed. Please be thankful that she didn't suffer too long, as many people do suffer terribly before dying. She sounds a very active person, a stroke could have left her completely reliant upon others for quite some time.
She is now in heaven. You know, that is a great place to be. I'm sure she is very happy there.
This world is full of bad people doing bad things. The Lord will deal with those people in His own way, in His own time.
God does care. God is love. God is merciful and also a great comforter. God gave us all freewill. Please work through your emotions at this time, it may take a while. Be angry with God if that is how you feel. God does give and take away. You loved your aunt, so does He.
Yes, any of us can go at any time, you're right. Life does seem unfair at times.
You could maybe have a chat with your aunt's friends that knew her in her church.
God did not promise us an easy life, but He does promise to be with us and help us through. He will never leave, nor forsake those who trust the Lord.
I hope you will find great comfort in knowing that people who read your question will most certainly be praying for you.
2007-02-28 03:14:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
God doesn't LET good people die. The way I perceive it is, he gave her a wonderful blessing. On this earth there is crime, fear, pain, hate, pollution and all sorts of illnesses and diseases. He didn't make her suffer through some terrible illness or suffer with old age and someone having to take care of her day in and day out, I think she received a wonderful blessing and she must have been a wonderful, religious lady. She is not suffering any of the tings here on earth that could have been her future. My Aunt passed away almost a year ago. She raised 5 of her nieces and nephews, quit college to work, cared for her parents until they passed, never married or had a boyfriend, she was dedicated to the children. She suffered greatly and we have faith that the lessons we all learned from her pain helped us all be better people and care for her like she should be cared for. It is a blessing when someone passes even if we don't understand or find it hard to live without them. This Aunt, I always wished I were her child and always wanted to be just like her, I loved her very much and I have faith in God that he did the right thing even though I can't see her any longer. Pray for strength and understanding, I will do the same for you and God will be there for you, please look for God's answer and not necessarily what you might want. He knows best, I promise.
2007-02-28 03:01:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Death was something that entered the world with Adam & Eve's choice to sin. It was not God's choice that we die, but death is what sin brings.
Maybe looking at the big picture of what is going on will help you not lay the blame on God. There is a great controversy going on between God & Satan over who is the rightful ruler: God the Creator or Satan the Usurper. God is letting Satan show his true self in this world so no one will ever choose sin again after this world is destroyed and a new one created. The battle is almost at it's end. There is one last deception Satan will try to control the world, but we know he will be defeated. However he is so full of hate he'll try anyway to deceive as many as possible.
Do not give up on God. He's sorry your Aunt died, too. But, sin has dictated that we all must die some time. You need to trust in God that it was best for your Aunt to go at this time whatever reason He had and trust that she will live again in His glorious kingdom!
I'm sorry for your loss. Death is a hard thing to deal with.
2007-02-28 02:55:45 · answer #4 · answered by V 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He did not. I am so sorry for your loss. I understand your dismay at something like this happening to a good person. I will give you some comforting scriptures but first I must make clear how I know that God did not cause what happened to your aunt. Hebrews 2:14 says Therefore, since the “young children” are sharers of blood and flesh, he also similarly partook of the same things, that through his death he might bring to nothing the one having the means to cause death, that is, the Devil. (Notice that the bible says the devil has the means or ability to cause death) However, by means of Christs ransom sacrifice, all have an opportunity to gain everlasting life, even those who have already died. Acts 24:15 says:and I have hope toward God, which hope these [men] themselves also entertain, that there is going to be a resurrection of both the righteous and the unrighteous and at John 5:25-29 we read Jesus' words 25 “Most truly I say to YOU, The hour is coming, and it is now, when the dead will hear the voice of the Son of God and those who have given heed will live. 26 For just as the Father has life in himself, so he has granted also to the Son to have life in himself. 27 And he has given him authority to do judging, because Son of man he is. 28 Do not marvel at this, because the hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tombs will hear his voice 29 and come out, those who did good things to a resurrection of life, those who practiced vile things to a resurrection of judgment.
2007-02-28 02:51:21 · answer #5 · answered by babydoll 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The Best Answer for me to give is, "I don't know."
Yet I will attempt to explain with my feeble mind. My brother was 17 and fell asleep at the wheel and was killed. He was by far the most intellegent of our family. Had won numerous awards.
I am so sorry about your loss. Before I do anything I should pause and ask for a prayer both on your behalf and your families. May God give you comfort during this time when it seems impossible to be comforted...
Why did God take her? I answer that question with a question. Why do you think it was God's choice to take her? Why do you think God is responsible for taking her? Yes God has a purpose for you Aunt and your Aunt was living that purpose out in her life, whether she was conscious of it or not.
But your Aunt had an accident. A terrible, terrible accident. The natural results of that accident lead to her body failing to sustain her life vitality. This is a true tradegy.
God never promised life would be easy. Death has been a part of our experience of Earth Life from the beginning. God did promise that he would be with us during these times.
Why did God create a world with suffering? Ultimately again, I do not know. I do know from experience, and from the Bible. That we can persevere through suffering. That good can come out of suffering. That we can grow after a period of suffering.
Does that make suffering really worth it? I really don't know. I know I am a changed person because of my brothers death. I was only 9 years old when it happened. I know I am a better person, a more mature person, a person better equipped to handle life. But was it worth it? I can't put a limited value neither on what has become of it nor on my brothers life. Maybe I will know in the end.
I would encourage you to listen to the song "Held" by Natalie Grant. It is profoundly true and comforting as your realize this truth. God Bless.
Feel free to EMAIL me if you have followup questions or would like to have someone to talk to.
2007-02-28 02:59:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The way I look at it is that God takes them because they have done good here on earth and have served Him well and that their time here is finished and He has other plans for them with Him. Our lives were written when God created the world, some lives only last an hour, or a day or many decades. God has His reasons of why some live short lives and why some live long lives. Live every day as if it is your last, cause we never know when that last day will be. For we are not promised tomorrow, so live for today. God Bless and may you find peace and comfort in the Lord at this time.
2007-02-28 02:49:39 · answer #7 · answered by tebone0315 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Death is a curse the evelopes us all due to our sin.
That is so much a huge misconception that God takes people. If God chooses someone to die, it is either a righteous punishment (like Aaron w/Moses) or it is his wrath on unbelievers. Otherwise unless specifically exercised, God stays out of the death process and lets it occur how its going to occur dictated by nature or the will of evil men. That is why time is so precious on this earth and we need to use our time wisely to serve God.
But definately Satan wants you to do exactly what youre doing, question God, dont have faith, and call him uncaring and unfair. But if you dont want Satan and his fate, youll want to have faith in God and serve him for as long as nature and fate grants you time.
And on a personal note I would just encourage you to read the Bible and find a non-denominational Christian Church. You seem like a good caring person that can do a lot for the Lord and Catholicism has a way of draining people with their empty theology and ritualistic worship.
2007-02-28 03:00:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is simple, god had no part in it. God was created by man as a way to answer questions that we could not but this has been taken too far by too many people. The reason people die is because humanity is flawed, there will always be people out there willing and wanting to hurt or kill, nothing else can be said about it. It is just unfortunate that it happened to your relative. It is like the evil lottery in a sense.
2007-02-28 08:03:21 · answer #9 · answered by DRATION 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad people die too. All people die. When and why? We simply dont have that wisdom.
My mom commited suicide the day after my wedding. It was terrible for our family for a long time. But it was an end to her suffering and it opened a new chapter for our family in the end. It has been 10 years and things are beautiful again. That doesnt mean I didn't miss her (esp when having children) but God opened many new doors.
He can work through all things. Every life has an end, it helps us value the time we are here. remember he even let his own son die a physical death.
2007-02-28 02:47:56 · answer #10 · answered by G's Random Thoughts 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋