He was working away at the time and we were having problems...he did not forget, he said that because of the problems we were having it didnt seem right??? Also he is back now and still hasnt got me anything, because he needs his money for a deposit on a house he is buying...yet he has gone on a course for a week and is out on the booze with his workmates???
2007-02-28 02:41:24 · 29 answers · asked by lisa l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Lisa love he is selfish and spiteful and full of lame excuses.Put your foot down,tell what you expect from your relationship and if there is no improvement dump the swine.A card only costs pennies but it sounds like this was a deliberate act to hurt you.Some people are so egotistic when there are problems in thier relationship that they only think of themselves.This goes for males and females.
2007-02-28 02:59:54 · answer #1 · answered by Niamh 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what do you want our advice for? Dump him ASAP ... he's not worth the trouble!
Even if you were having problems, you're his girlfriend and he should have sent a card and a present - that was a pretty lame excuse he used!!
Presumably the course and all expenses are being paid for by his company? In which case, he's not actually spending his own money ...
Either way, he's just not for you so get out and find yourself someone who is!! If only I wasn't married, was 30 years younger, had more money, was better looking .... oh well, such is life! lol ;-)
2007-02-28 03:06:52 · answer #2 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a bf that didn't get me anything for my bday or St V Day once... He had a job and always went out drinking with his mates on the wkends so there was no reason why he couldn't get me a lil token of his love for me. When I asked him about it, he said he was broke (spent all his money going out 2 weeks after payday).
However, I later realised that he was selfish and wasn't ready to commit fully. If your bf really cared he would've set aside as little as £10 just to get you a card and some flowers maybe. The fact that he got you nothing speaks volumes and suggests that perhaps he's not looking to settle down fully.
Talk to him, cos I think that's unacceptable.
2007-02-28 02:49:39 · answer #3 · answered by rachel e 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most of the above answers are just theoretical!
You have the ans in yo head. what do you think?
Does he have aright to be angry after quarelling wz u or he MUST remain calm?
Is he human, made of blood and flesh and blood, wz capacity to be annoyed wiz you? what did you do to him? Was it fair and reasonable?
If you abandone him how much will it cost you? Is there a perfect man out there who will never dissappoint you?
Are men available lining up for you so that when you dump him another one will automatically fall for you and never hurt you?
Are you perfect? Is the issue of not buying you a BD gift so heavy and hence unforgivable, deserving a quit? (is it the worst he could do to you?).
Are there some who have experienced worse treament and persisted, and got fairer rships?
How many more BFs are you willing to enlist befoere you expire to guys? Were they wrong who said a rolling stone gathers no moss?
What exactly do you want him to do now as a reconciliatory step? can you ask him to do that and is it realistic. how would you behave if you were in his shoes and him in yours?
Is buying a house important, comapred to a bd gift?
Have you ever done a thing that he should have dumped you for?
Is there a friend who can teach you "cost -benefit analysis in a rship?"
how long will you take to forget this guy.
Is it possible for anyone to ultimately get tired of GFs / BFs because of recurrent breakages, and end up never commiting to anyone?
Have you broken with anyone before - and would one be wrong to say you have been a common factor in previous broken r/ships, hence there could be an element of you in this case as wel?
If you reconcile after this fix what are you going to strive never to do or to always do? What if you were him? how would be the way forward?
Move on.
Print this list of answeres and read it with him, or for now if you cant, pass it on to him and assure him you got it from anonymous respondents; ask him for the best of the answeres or a combination of their selcted aspects.
Good luck, mine dumped me on her last BD but Ii raelly had forgotten. She reminded me and immeditely I went to a supermarket, bought her a cake but I never even got a thank you after delivering it in a heavy midnight rain. I am to find out whether she was worth the trouble- if she couldnt forgive a mere forgetting, would she forgive cheating - which almost all men do given a chance? Remember to men cheating doesnt mean he doesnt love you, there is more to sex for men than love, some times).
2007-02-28 04:00:56 · answer #4 · answered by Gilbert M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can afford to go out on the booze then he could have afforded a pressie or at the very least a card.
maybe he wasn't sure what to get you or maybe he just couldn't be bothered!!!
i think the latter is more likely especially if he was annoyed with you. May have used that to upset you.
2007-02-28 02:51:45 · answer #5 · answered by laplandfan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Classical excuses...Well ,well.. You were having problems and he was too busy to send you a card. In my opinion a gift doesn't need to be expensive. It can be a red rose or a birthday card. When a man needs you lovew you and wants you he never forgets or avoids buying you a present in your birthday no matter his problems. i don't want to disapoint you , discuss this matter with him but I just think he's not that into you.
2007-02-28 02:49:00 · answer #6 · answered by Sissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think very carefully about this relationship. If this is his attitude now I hate to imagine what will happen when you are a couple. He sounds selfish and self-centred and to be avoided at all costs. Go off an find a kind and considerate mate.
2007-02-28 02:45:32 · answer #7 · answered by SYJ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you still with him?If he cant be bothered to send you a card then hes not worth it and the excuse that you were having problems is just stupid!!!He sounds very selfish and you deserve better.
2007-02-28 02:56:00 · answer #8 · answered by alithebimbo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUMP HIM!!!! if you were having problems shouldnt he have tried even more because it was your birthday than not bothering and that is absolute bullc**p about not having the money because its not even about the money it should be the thought that counts.
He is treating you like a doormat and you should stand up to him.
2007-02-28 02:50:37 · answer #9 · answered by Lady Claire - Hates Bigotry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the hint I think. He is either extremely stupid, or he was planning to end your relationship.
Maybe he has decided to think it over this week while he is away, and maybe absence will make him realise he does love you after all.
Get yourself out with your friends this week and try to take your mind off it.
Hope it works out for you.
2007-02-28 03:11:18 · answer #10 · answered by Take me to Venice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋