My boyfriend & I had an arguement last night because when he went to open the door for me when I got to his house I didn't come in right away because I was on the phone with my sister. Then when I did come in I checked my voicemail at which point I wasn't saying anything but just holding the phone to my ear & listening & then I hung up. He automatically starts to get an attitude & ignores me & won't tell me what the problem is. So I started to get my coat & was about to leave. Then he went into all these issues but wouldn't say what the problem was. I know it had to do with me being on the phone but why was he acting like that because I was on the phone? He would never tell me why his mood changed. Are these trust issues or what's up with that?
2007-02-28 02:32:39 · 6 answers · asked by geminig 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it could be several things. Maybe he had a bad day? Or wanted your undivided attention? Or there could be trust issues? I would just chill out a bit, and make plans with ONLY him. Turn off that phone! and listen to what he has to say. Only then will you know...............
2007-02-28 02:37:42 · answer #1 · answered by big mommasweeta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds to me like he may have trust issues but it could be a number of other things too!! First of all how long have you all been together? If it hasn't been long than he is probably still insecure and not sure if you are really into him. If you have been together long enough for him to know that then I would say that he is having some type of issue. And honestly you need to say to him look if something is wrong than you need to say it and stop acting like a child!! Because nothing is going to change and believe me if he is getting mad about small stuff like this now and you dint stop it or call him out on it than things will only get worse!!! Just ask him flat out were you upset because I was on the phone and if he doesn't answer than say I was talking to my sister and checking my voice mails while I was waiting for you. If he has any problem with that than that is his problem because really it is His problem not yours if he is insecure or having problems trusting you (and you ha vent given him a reason not to trust you) than that is something he has to work on!!! Let me know if this helps!!!
2007-02-28 02:45:01 · answer #2 · answered by luvlylale 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever his problem was, the real problem is that he doesn't communicate. How can he expect you to try to please him if he doesn't tell you what he wants?? He's controlling you with his behavior, and you're allowing it.
Tell him that you want to make things work, but you can't do so if he won't be clear about what is bothering him. Then, when something like this happens, ask him what is the problem. If he behaves the same way, tell him that you'll be glad to discuss it with him when he is ready to tell you what is bothering him - then leave. If he doesn't come around and offer to discuss it, you DON'T want this relationship, believe me.
2007-02-28 02:43:09 · answer #3 · answered by Terri J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it was rude of you to be on the phone, with someone else, when you went to see him. I can understand why he felt "put out". He may have felt that your cell phone was more important to you, then he was. Sit down and talk with him, and try to come to an understanding regarding courtesy for each other. I don't think it was an issue of trust, just rudeness.
2007-02-28 02:38:26 · answer #4 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
communication is very important in any relationship,but it how it's communicated, and to whom,. verbally or written,.,.((( that's why i don't recommend cell phones on a date,, it's distracting from the real attention related issues at times,))..,
good luck,..,.keep talking,..,...,
2007-02-28 07:31:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he's jealous and controling.
2007-02-28 02:36:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋