i have been with a girl for 18months, im 23 and she is 19. amonth ago she broke up with me, because she said i put her in a box. we also broke up beacause in a week she met someone, who is now pressuring her into sex....she has an addictive personality...and is having trouble with dieet pills. and selfesteem issues. she cries with me but goes back to him because she is dependant on him....socially, and transportation wise, he works with her....she has a problem with rejection....her father left when she was a baby...shes depressed but keeps on a mask when other people are near...how can i help her before she goes overboard with this guy and messes up her self? i want to help, not be her boyfriend right now, she has to find herself first. but is getting stuck in a cycle.i know she needs to make the choices. but she doesnt know the negative effect such things can have...how can i empower(by making it her decision, not mine)her to make the right decision for herself before it is too late?
2007-02-28 02:32:29 · 6 answers · asked by Huawei 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tough love. I think you should break off contact until she gets a little more on track. It sounds like she's using you.
I can understand that you care for her and want to be there for her, but as you said, it's going to continue to be a cycle until SHE decides it's time to shape up. And I think you should let her PROVE to you that she's shaping up BEFORE you offer to help. She can SAY she needs help all she wants, but she's just going to keep draining you and going back and starting all over...
Good luck.
2007-02-28 02:38:59 · answer #1 · answered by doggiemom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think this is something a professional should answer. I would say, maybe she should go to one of those doctors that gives you advice and helps you make good decisions with your life. If she refuses to do that, then I think you should see that doctor, and ask them what you should do to help. It's something that you kind of need to get involved in and help your ex-girlfriend get the help she needs. You should also not lower her self-esteem, tell her how much of a great person she is, and tell her that she can make better decisions than that, and all she needs is some good support.
Good luck.
2007-02-28 02:39:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
probable only a form. I wager maximum ppl, in the experience that they offer the effect of being back, can discover similarities between a number of their exes. might want to be personality features or seems that are a similar, yet ppl do not replace many times, highly such issues as what draws them to somebody else. in case you don't know her, that is difficult to say in the experience that your personalities are similar, yet when she's highly, merely take it as, hey, your guy has sturdy style:0) i might want to say there is no longer something to fret about. He probable did not do it deliberately. wish that enables:0)
2016-10-17 09:29:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's still very young, as long as her life isn't in jeapordy I say that this is a decision that she has to make on her own.
2007-02-28 02:37:42 · answer #4 · answered by geminig 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry but you need her to make those maistakes and to learn from them
2007-02-28 02:38:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should tell
2007-02-28 02:38:30 · answer #6 · answered by are you Mirror? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋