I am 54 years old and my wife died when she was 51 years old. She loved me so much. I did not have any feelings for her. We have been together for at least 30+ years. I never had children with her but I did started having sex with her since I was 28 years old. She died from an accident. I didn't kill her. I told her "I love you" countless times. My feelings for her weren't that deep. If I left her, I wouldn't have anymore sex and she'd be heartbroken and I would start paying for child support if she did got pregnant. I never fell in love with her. If I did fell in love with her, I know I would be very sad right now, but good thing I didn't fell in love with her. I can imagine myself leaving her and not being sad. I don't feel bad at all for her death. I had to pretend to be crying on her funeral to let her family think that I was sad. To be honest, I am not sad. Before she died, she said, "I am very happy to have met you in my life." When she was alive, I treated her like a queen.
2007-02-28 02:30:18 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I did not have any feelings for her. I was only using her for sex. I treated her like a queen so she can have sex with me. not that I love her or anything. I got married with her so she can be happy, not me loving her. I don't even have any feelings for her nor like her.
2007-02-28 02:30:31 · update #1
I am very loyal to her and didn't cheat on her once while she was alive.
2007-02-28 02:33:11 · update #2
hmmm...yes you are wrong. You should have given her the opportunity in life to have found the person who truly loved her. Even if you treated her like a queen there is a difference and she knew it. You wasted her whole life. She could have found someone who loved her and truly gave a damn when she died. You are so selfish. All you cared about was your needs. You are a rotten person. I hope you fall in love and the women steps on your heart.
Also, in reading other question you have asked I noticed you said you were 19 on one question and on another you were talking about your girfriend. Why waste our time with your childish games???
2007-02-28 02:35:50 · answer #1 · answered by Miriah 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, you were wrong. I guess your question is was it wrong that you basically lied to her for 30 some odd years? Yeah, it was. You probably should've let her go and allowed her to find someone who truly cared for her. Hindsight is 20/20 so there's nothing you can do about that. It's kinda sick that you kept that lie up for 30+ years so why are you so concerned now? She's gone and you're free to sleep with other people.
You were more concerned with money than this woman's emotions and you really didn't care so there's no reason to start pretending to care now. You may have treated her well but your intentions weren't true and that's horrible. You should probably learn to just leave people alone in general. No one needs to be used and no one likes it. Karma is a funny thing. At some point, you'll get back what you put out.
I honestly can't believe you posted this. It's pretty sickening that you faked cried at the woman's funeral. The sad part is, you probably did love her in your own egotisical way but you'd never admit it. I'm glad to hear you didn't kill her. I'm also glad this woman is hopefully resting in peace and isn't being lied to anymore. I feel sorry for her, not you. You need some serious thearpy and people skills. People aren't on this planet to serve you. At 54, you'd think you'd know that by now. Oh well, I suppose being foolish has no cut off point.
2007-02-28 10:41:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES you WERE wrong. She is dead so let it go and get on with life. The good is that you treated her good (like a queen) as you put it. I'm not saying you should have told her but you should not have married her with the feelings you DIDN'T have. If she told you she was happy to have met you in life she obviously loved you. Just let it go and ask for forgiveness. I would also suggest that should you meet someone else don't do them the same way. If you DON'T love them then don't get married to them. As a matter of fact if sex is the only reason for seeing them go see a ho.
2007-02-28 10:38:01 · answer #3 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you were good and faithful to her, I suppose there was no harm done. It sounds like the only person who lost out was you for spending so much time with someone you didn't really care that much about.
Now if you treated her like a queen and were a dog on the side... then yea, you were wrong. That'll NEVER be right.
Otherwise, move on happily. Good luck.
2007-02-28 10:35:10 · answer #4 · answered by doggiemom 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes u was wrong bcoz u have just used her 4 sex.Y not u went somewhere n pay 4 sex??Atleast this poor women would have came to know d truth.We women dont want much 4m our husband ,we dont want to be queen but we want little truthful ,honest love from our husband is it too much??? if u had divorce her ,may be she would find her real love.But its to late now ,to kill d devil nside ur heart just cry 4 her once but real.
2007-02-28 10:43:35 · answer #5 · answered by sherry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sincerely it`s the first time i`ve heard this...you spent almost half of your life not living the wonderful feeling of love...it`s as though you overlook a very important thing..i can`t judge you by saying you were wrong but waht i know is that you missed something great
2007-02-28 10:38:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are confused about what "love" really is.. love is reflected in one's actions and from the sound of it, your actions demonstrated love.. people think love is something we're a victim of, but love is a conscious choice.. you made the decision to keep loving her even though you may not have had romantic feelings for her.. I think that was the right thing to do..
2007-02-28 10:35:49 · answer #7 · answered by Byakuya 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does it even matter if you were wrong to mislead her? You obviously didn't have any feelings for her, so why do you even care? What a loser you are. Who is with someone for 30 years just to have sex? You could've gotten sex from anyone. That doesn't even make sense.
2007-02-28 10:37:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
jerk!!! that is called useing people and it is wrong. you cheated her out of the chance to find someone who really loved her.
no matter how well you say you treated her if you did not love her then you were not giveing her what she needed. also you were not giving her the chance to find someone who would. you and people like you are the reason i won't let myself get close to anyone i will not be used and will not use other people.
2007-02-28 10:38:20 · answer #9 · answered by nbatch2006 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you might be mentally ill after seeing that you posted this question 10 times with the exact same words.
2007-03-08 00:20:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋