He said he wasn't looking for a relationship and we could kick it now and then and he asked if I would want to hook up with him. I haven't been with anyone since my long-term boyfriend passed away unexpectedly 2 yrs. ago. I told him that I was fine with everything because I'm not looking for anything serious either. We have been seeing each other at least once a week, but he has called me to meet up at other times. I never made it out to be more than it is, but he always spends the night with me (I tell him he can leave- he says he doesn't want to and even asks me to cuddle with him when going to sleep). My friend told me that his best friend said that this guy really likes me and being with me, but he likes the hook up too. I told them that I knew this and am fine with the arrangement. Now, he is tripping on me- saying that I am in love with him, that I don't like being alone, that I need to watch my back with my friends (he won't elaborate on this comment), etc. What happened? Help!
2007-02-28 02:28:17 · 11 answers · asked by niknac31 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He probably likes you a little more than he is letting on. Sounds like he is redirecting some sort of internal angst. Maybe he is getting jealous thinking that you are seeing other people. Just tell him that you are fine with the arrangement you already have. If he is still freaking out that you must decide either to talk to him to see if he wants a relationship or for you just to move on. He might just be unstable. who knows?
2007-02-28 02:34:29 · answer #1 · answered by tobcol 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to tell you something you already know, were just humans and our feeling can change at any time. It sounds like this guy was fine just hang out and having a booty call from time to time but sometime things grown on their own and you find yourself right where you thought you wouldn't be.
And from the sound of it you fine with this, if you telling a guy he can leave after sex he doesn’t have to stay, and he say oh that's ok come over here and cuddle with me, he just put the ball back in your court, and that's ok if you like him your both are adults so you made a pack and now maybe you both want to go back on it, love will walk up on you when your not looking. Two lonely and single people get together? what is this world coming to?
And as for what the friends are saying don't listen to second hand stories because they aren't but half true anyway, the hard part is to fig out what parts or true. Remember believe half of what you hear and half of what you see, but what half are you going to believe? There’s only one way to find out, talk to him.
I say if he makes you happy then go for it,
I wish you good luck.
2007-02-28 10:51:40 · answer #2 · answered by choiceav 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone always says oh we are just kicking it. But to be truthful about the matter, one person in the party always ends up liking the other party more. Why? because sex is an emotional connection between two people. And the best thing that you can do is just end it before it turns into something you might not want
2007-02-28 10:40:51 · answer #3 · answered by Shawnese D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just distance yourself from him a bit at least a month. And then after a month dialogue with him so that you will know more about him. Don't easily give yourself to him. You are a person and you are worth more than what the guy wants from you.
2007-02-28 10:47:16 · answer #4 · answered by lui 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this guy is going way too fast. To like someone and to hang with them, is one thing, but it sounds like the beggning of a stalking. I would get away from him as fast as you can.
2007-02-28 10:33:04 · answer #5 · answered by di12381 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of your friends 1. Is trying to screw him, or 2. Is telling him stuff to try and break you up. His failure to elaborate on the comment indicates he is protecting the other person....RED FLAG.
2007-02-28 10:33:39 · answer #6 · answered by mikey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn, dude might be one of those crazy stalker types. You might want to watch that dude. It's a little too early to be THAT possesive. I'm not thinking you'd want that kind of thing in your life, I think you should distance yourself from him.
2007-02-28 10:33:50 · answer #7 · answered by mixedup 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don know
sounds like he's been kicked out of his apt n needs a place to stay
2007-02-28 10:31:43 · answer #8 · answered by willow 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go ahead and have sex with him, and both of you will find out where you are at.
2007-02-28 10:33:39 · answer #9 · answered by European in IN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im guessing someone told him something, you need to sit him down and ask him
2007-02-28 10:33:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋