A painter (who I thought was a friend ) gave me a bid 2 1/2 times more than two other bids on my home. I know some people highball bids if they don't want the job. But this was insulting . Should I ask him why so high or just let it go ?
2007-02-28 02:27:10 · 14 answers · asked by westhighland 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Let it go, in the form of, give the person the job who you feel will do the job you want, for the price you want. Do not address the subject with your friend and if he brings it up, simply say you made the decision to go another way.
2007-02-28 03:14:56 · answer #1 · answered by danashelchan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Golden Rule for home improvements: "Never have a close friend do anything if there are charges involved". Free help is great and is becoming a rare quality these days.
The best way to lose close friends is if they charge for their services.
Don't belittle yourself by asking why he is high. Let it go, and tell him that you have someone else for the project.
Don't take his bid as insulting or personal. It's business. I would hope that you told him that you were getting other bids. That would be the fair thing to do.
2007-02-28 10:42:50 · answer #2 · answered by bob P11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps its time to separate the friendship from the task at hand. He seems to have already done so. So if he thinks his service is far Superior than ask him what does he offer they don't for the kind of money he is asking. If he is a true honest business man he will answer it, as the friendship rule and he pulls the ace card, .... I thought we were friends why would you ask that! Then its time to let it or him go.
2007-02-28 11:02:17 · answer #3 · answered by Kill_Me_Now! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the skill set is comparable to the othe painters, I find this a little odd.
However, this is a business transaction and you select whom ever you wish. Your friend ought to understand this.
Its your money.
2007-02-28 11:15:56 · answer #4 · answered by Pacifica 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go - Your first mistake was asking a friend to do work for you. I never mix friends and jobs - it never ends up well.
2007-02-28 17:08:20 · answer #5 · answered by abby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would just explain to your friend that you've gotten lower offers and you can't turn them down. If he wants to explain why he's so much more expensive he will, otherwise, let it go. It's not worth ending the friendship over, is it?
2007-02-28 10:30:57 · answer #6 · answered by OhKatie! 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You definately need to ask him. He might not really think of you as a friend and he might be using you. You don't need "friends" like that. And why would you even consider paying more? It's your money; why should you throw it away because you feel obliged to your friend?
2007-02-28 10:37:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give someone else the job, and when he brings it up, say its done, your price was 3 times higher than the other 2 quotes, why ?
2007-02-28 10:31:10 · answer #8 · answered by leigha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is never deserved or it wouldn't be forgiveness. Forgive your friend and never even bring it up. If he continues to mistreat you than separate from him but forgive always.
2007-02-28 10:32:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
never do business with friends, thats how to loose them.
2007-02-28 10:32:26 · answer #10 · answered by eightieschick70 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋