Am I cursed in the game of love?

Question

Lately I've been worried that I'll spend the rest of my days alone and unloved. In my brief time on this planet (23 years), I've tried to have relationships with a wide variety of men since I was 17, but it always turns to s**t after about 6 months.

My last boyfriend left me on Jan 2nd to go back to his so-called ex girlfriend and I really did love him. I miss his company everyday and sometimes I'm overwhelmed by these feelings of loneliness, hopelessness and despair - even when I'm in the company of others.

I'm attractive, have a great job, nice home, fantastic friends and family, but I feel as though I'll never meet someone who can do right by me. It feels as though everyone around me is coupled up and happy - making plans for holidays and such, yet night after night I go home to my empty flat, eat my dinner for one and feel totally unwanted/unloved.

I may seem melodramatic, but I wonder if/when it will happen for me? One person can't be so unlucky in love can they?

Thanks for all the answers peeps, I appreciate all the supportive comments. Please understand that I don't sit in my flat drinking red wine and listening to Celine Dion. I lead a busy life and do bar work at weekends which is fun, but I miss the companionship, the conversations, the hugs and all the other stuff that comes from being in a relationship.

In spite of my history, I don't do singledom very well, and I'm very picky about suitors. My ex had to wait 3 months before I even agreed to a date!

Thanks again all!

Answer 1

easy girl...easy...u r only 23 too young to be worried.its just time...u have only tried for 6 yrs...there are pips who have gone out with the wrong person for over 7 yrs.u will soon find one just dont rush ibeg of you love..takeheart.being single is good coz u get to do your own stuff n above all really get to know yourself which other women let me even say alot of women have failed to do.geting 2 know yourself will atleast prevent you from ending up with time wasters

Answer 2

The best way to get back your ex is https://tr.im/YWAdd

Here's the hard part: Pretend she never existed, like it was all a dream, don't call her, that will make you the smaller person, be the bigger person since you deserve better, what she did to you on Valentines Day was immature, especially after dating for four years. This person wasted allot of your time and through it out the window. Go out tonight, even it it is only yourself, don't drink and call or feel sorry for yourself, this will only cause you embarrassment! I know your hurting..This will eventually will go away in time. Today is not a good day for you and your emotions are spinning all over the place.

Please, whatever you do, don't answer her calls and don't call her. If she keeps calling, which she pro bally won't, don't return her call for 5 days. Make her sweat and DO Not get back together right away if you discuss this in 5 days. Tell her since she Broke up with you, you have done allot of thinking, and had the taste of "being single again" and you would like more time being "friends" for now, so you are sure you are making the right decision. Remember "She decided she didn't want to be with you" so the door is open for you to get out and see what you have been missing for four years. You honestly need to do this for yourself.

She doesn't know, but what she did was give you the best valentines day present you will ever get! A new start and a new beginning, use it to your advantage. You will look back on this and Thank God this happened now instead of 4 more wasted years of YOUR life. Today does suck, stay Strong and I promise you your life is going to be so much more exciting and you are going to be happy. If you continue to call and call her, she will think of you as needy and won't want you. She is going to rethink what she did to you today and will be hurt, if you act like you could care less. Girls always want the ones they can't have. That is who you are now to her. Let her suffer,realizing what a mistake she made. This will drive her crazy. Right now she is on cloud 9 thinking you will take her back, OH, is she stupid!

Your life isn't ruined, hers is..She lost someone special, and gave you a gift to let to live life and find someone you deserve. You are not getting back at her, your teaching her what an idiot she is and what she lost and what you gained without her. SO when You eventually talk to her, tell her thank you for what she did...
She will be hurt and you will be happy!

Answer 3

Hello Luv
I dont think you are unlucky - I had a few girlfriends , but only found my soulmate at the age of 55 and married her . I was not even looking at the time . You sound like a nice girl and i am convinced that Mr Right will turn up - Y ou dont want to get married this young either . Just keep going and i'm sure that it will come out right in the end - At your age i was a mess and glad that i did not marry as it would have been a disaster - do not dispair and all the best xxx

Answer 4

I'm sorry you feel that way. There are a lot of people that have the same problem, and it's not really something you can fix it overnight. These kinda things take time. Plus, you're only 23. There is no rush. This might sound corny, but...the right person will come along at the right time. Don't think too much about being lonely and such, coz trust me, you're gonna drive yourself crazy.
Hope this helps....

Best of luck

Answer 5

I really do feel for you. I feel like this sometimes and I have four kids to take care of, but no one to support me or love me besides them. Keep doing what you are doing. One day, that special guy will come that will melt everything together. You don't want to get desperate at this point, you are still young. I did that and ended up marrying a guy I did not love because I was 28 and all my friends were married. Big mistake. It ended in a divorce. Point being, don't give up. Join a fitness gym or take a part time job in the evening waitressing or a church group, you never know who you will meet. Good luck to you!

Answer 6

Try the law of attraction. Start thinking that you'll bump into Mr. Right very soon and that he will sweep you off your feet! It'll happen just after you change your train of thought! Be positive, you have everything to be positive about! As you said you have a great job, friends and family and when you start thinking a great man, a great man will come! Honestly just try!

Answer 7

Want to know how to get your ex back? Change yourself. Don't worry about changing other people, worry about changing yourself. Go to https://tr.im/GDCSv

Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.

The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.

Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.

Answer 8

Enjoy being single for a while. There is nothing wrong with that. What I did was, I just stopped looking for a relationship all together. Before I knew it, I started dating my fiance and we are getting married next year. There is someone out there for you, stop searching for now and the person will be there when you least expect it. Good Luck.

Answer 9

Stop looking for love it will find you. don't look at the first fella you see and think oh great. let them come to you.. try to relax when you go out because other wise you will look desperate and that freaks fella's out big time. just go out thinking I am going to enjoy this night no matter who or where I end up. Chill out a bit and live a bit before you go out with a fella again.

Answer 10

my god, your only 23 (I'm 18), you should be enjoying life to the limits, not worrying about whether you have a bf or not. if you really don't like going home to an empty flat get a dog or something, they will show you as much love as any bloke will and he wont brake your heart on purpose!! lol
xxx