Me and my boyfriend of 2½ yrs (long distance relationship) I live in Arizona, he lives in Chicago, see each other, at least try to, once a month. (gets pricey!).
After 2 yrs, I went on a trip to Germany w/2 old best guy friends of mine, he of course is jealous and yells, screams and pushes me away because that's unattractive to me.
I kiss a guy while I was drunk over there b/c he I was so angry and knew there had to be someone out there better for me.. So I broke up w/him when I got back b/c I was mad at myself and thought he deserved better.
2 weeks later he then got w/one of his girl friends he's known for 3 yrs. This girl has always chased after every guy i've dated since I was 16 yrs old. If it was anyone else, I think i'd be okay... but because it's her ... it hurt me soo much.. I honestly think I lost the flame I had for him. .. did trust drive us apart?
2007-02-28 02:11:41 · 10 answers · asked by Gina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, you cheating on him and going to another country with two other men drove you apart. You have no right to blame him for anything. It is all your fault.
2007-02-28 02:16:15 · answer #1 · answered by in2one 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The trust was never there with you. You never trusted him from what you say. And you expected him to trust you despite the behaviour you displayed - kissing a guy while drunk and going on a trip to Germany with best guy friend of yours. And you say it was too pricey to visit him. I am not surprised that your bf ended up shouting at you over that.
You cannot expect trust from the behaviour you displayed. And you talk of being hurt so much. Think about how he feels.
You obviously think he deserves better which tells me how insecure you are. Well, leave then but don't blame it on him please. The flame you talk of losing is obviously not the kind of flame that was meant to last or will endure. Your actions were highly questionable.
2007-02-28 10:20:44 · answer #2 · answered by Bugsy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust and his jealousy to me pulled y'all apart. If you have no trust in a relationship what is there to have. he got back with that girl to make you jealous and hurt you. if he screams, yells, and pushes you away you need to talk to him and find out what is wrong. long distance relationships are hard to maintain because you are away from each other and you don't know what that person might be doing. Communication is lacking between you two about your relationship. Talk to him and tell him how you feel about the situation, you never know whats going to happen until you try.
2007-02-28 10:20:58 · answer #3 · answered by vanillaswril 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know what trust is? I mean the definition?
He could have been frustrated by the fact that you went away with other guys. From what I've read, you two only make the effort to go visit, but make no plans for one another.
...and then you kissed another guy. You cheated on him, frustrated/jealous/angry or not. You cheated.
THEN you broke it off with him. You have no right to be hurt with you he "got with"; you cheated and ended it.
Trust had nothing to do with it.
2007-02-28 10:21:33 · answer #4 · answered by Slimslimmer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say trust drove you apart.
#1 if he was jealous of a few friends, that was not trust! That was insecurity.
#2 If he had trusted you he would not have been jealous. Sad maybe that he didn't get to go. But not jealous!
Move on! Find someone close to home!
2007-02-28 10:19:29 · answer #5 · answered by Gramms 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called lack of trust. And yes, not trusting can drive people apart. It sounds like that was the best thing for both of you. Do yourself a favor and find someone closer.
2007-02-28 10:16:11 · answer #6 · answered by J F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well yeah...you go off kissin guys and he goes and gets with one of his girlfriends 2 weeks later...it probably wasnt really love...sorry. I dont care how drunk you are...you dont go off kissing othere guys! I guess you werent thinkin of him them huh...well trust is a huge, gigantic, major thing in a relationship! If you dont have that then it goes nowhere! Live with no regrets....lifes to short so live it up. Dont let anyone drag you down along the way, its your life...do whatever makes you happy!
2007-02-28 10:20:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think trust drove you apart i think his "jealous and yells, screams and pushes me away because that's unattractive to me"
Drove you apart.
2007-02-28 10:16:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So now you want to justify YOUR cheating? Is that what this question is? It DOES NOT matter if you know the other person....a cheat is a cheat, and YOU started it!!!
2007-02-28 10:18:20 · answer #9 · answered by Master Richard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i think so.
2007-02-28 10:19:11 · answer #10 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋