The sad thing is it took one man to lie to me to make it hard for me to trust them all. He seemed to sweet and I thought he'd never lie so now I doubt all men. How do I learn to trust guys again?
2007-02-28 01:57:35 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You've just got to go in there with your guard up, and gradually let it down.
I had the same experience. One guy does the trick!
When I met my husband, it took me about 2 years to actually trust him. Guys to me were just not to be trusted - period! But he proved his trustworthiness on numerous occassions, and I'm glad I decided to trust him.
You just have to give a guy a chance to prove he's not gonn do wrong. But one slip, and cut him loose!
Hope this helped! ♥
2007-02-28 02:03:52 · answer #1 · answered by ♥LadyC♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the most cynical untrusting person in the world, of guys in general. I was so disgusted by the time i got to my 30s that i remained single by choice for 4 years and became happy in my independence. i came to the conclusion that men and women were not compatible. Then i met a guy so trustworthy that you wouldnt believe it if I told you. he has been honest with me with the tiniest of things and he has stuck by me through everything. he is also a bad liar, even if he's saying something untrue as a silly joke he blushes! I think you should just guard your heart very well until you find a man who is open, honest, moral etc. There are very few good guys out there but they are out there. the trick is not to search for them, but take your own sweet time and don't settle for anything less. i think it's better to be single than to be with someone you can't trust. don't assume all men are untrustworthy but don't assume you can trust all men either. just take a guy one step at a time being careful to take care of yourself.
2007-02-28 02:06:04 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey im going through the exact same thing!!! I havent been able to trust anyone, nt just men but anyone since my mom lied to me about how bad her cancer really was before she died!!!! See, she told me that her cancer wasnt terminal and I believed her!! So when she told me that she was in remmission I believed her!!!! But I found out after she died, that her cancer was actually terminal and when she told us that she was in remmission she was lied. What had actually happened, was that the doctor couldnt do anything for her!!! And I feel if the person that means the most to me would lie to me and make me feel like I cant trust her, then everyone would be taht way!! If you figure out how to trust again lwt me!!! Know b/c I am in love with a really great guy, but I am always scard he's gonna leave me or cheat on me!! Hes never made me feel like he would I just cant trust you know!!! good luck!!! Im sorry you feel that way!!!
2007-02-28 02:05:42 · answer #3 · answered by JessieRae07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was something that he did. U can't hold it against all guys. It's like me saying my girlfriend cheated on me so all girls are h*s and bi%c#es. Of course some are but not all. U shouldn't put all your trust into someone until thay have earned it. Go ahead and find someone else when u r ready and don't hold that against him. If u keep thinking like that, u will never find someone who wants to be with u because of the accusations.
2007-02-28 02:07:33 · answer #4 · answered by Vince R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 00:28:26 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not all men lie theres a few that r sweet take me for example if i mess up i tell the girl. thats it some guys are really buttholes but theres a few that r nice>
2007-02-28 02:12:50 · answer #6 · answered by Bryce 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust comes with love...
But i believe since you were hurt...you should learn to discern a person`s true intentions before trusting them
2007-02-28 02:02:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
some guys can be totally A** holes. just take your time in gettin back to trustin guys. talk to him and find out why he lied to you he may of had a good reason., not sayin that he should have lied to you in the first palce. but like i said it may have been for a good reason.
Good Luck!!!
2007-02-28 02:04:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't trust any man as far as I can throw one. Every man I have ever come into contact with has hurt me in some way. No thanks, I'll just stay single!!
2007-02-28 02:02:13 · answer #9 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would like to know also, because I loved a guy so much and he betrayed me know I love my partner who has been faithful, but I always think negative and he's getting tired of it. Good Luck and if you get a really good answer let me know. Thanks
2007-02-28 02:02:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋