Here is the short version. My ex and I broke up 4 months ago. She broke up with me, I was devastated, it ended badly with her telling me not to call/write anymore. Nothing major, just that I think it was her way of wanting to distance herself from the relationship. We haven't spoken or seen each other in two months and what I was wondering is that her birthday is next week. I have been thinking of her lately, do you think I should email and just write to say happy birthday and see how things are? Just a short email and will keep it light. If she responds great, if not that is fine also, but just a short not to say I have been thinking of her and wanted to wish her a happy b-day. Would this be fine? From a woman's perspective, do you think I should? Thanks!
2007-02-28 01:56:16 · 21 answers · asked by justinhanks2000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That would be nice.
Who knows, maybe that's just what she needs to know you still care about her.
You're sweet, and I wish you the best! ♥
2007-02-28 01:59:32 · answer #1 · answered by ♥LadyC♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough situation.
Most women pull away just as much as men do so she for sure wanted her space...do you know if she had/has another man in her life?
That will make a difference.
She wanted space then but now it might be nice and endearing to her for you to email her with a Happy Birthday...
or....
If she was truly serious about you not writing and calling she will think you're pathetic and get annoyed by it...
tough call but women are nuts and we think differently in every situation...
I'd say if she was single write her an email that just states...
Just wanted to say Happy Birthday hope you get want you want...have a good day and thats it
If she has a bf leave it alone.
Good Luck and hope that helps!
2007-02-28 02:16:28 · answer #2 · answered by colie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she would appreciate the thoughtfulness. I wouldn't send an email though. I would go to the store and buy a card, for a friend's birthday. Sign it and say that you were thinking of her and hope she enjoys her birthday. Also say you hope to hear from her. If she has a heart, she should at least call you.
2007-02-28 02:01:41 · answer #3 · answered by Teddy Bear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, ask urself if u really like her or love her and if u do then just mail a short letter explaining even though she said not to contact, u just had to wish her 4 her bday. a short note of missing her and wishes should be fine if she's trying to get away from you or else if she's testing u she'll like u better.
2007-02-28 02:06:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
might b there was a miss understanding between u 2 which coz this situation .To give a try just send a birthday greetings(passion up.com)in this site u can get good greetings with nice poem where u can express ur feelings without words.
But dont write much else she will feel u r hanging on her.Lets close our eyes n wish happy birthday...................Best of luck.
2007-02-28 02:06:52 · answer #5 · answered by sherry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would be nice of you, but leave it at that. If she does not respond that means it is time to let go, but at least you made a final attempt and let her know you are still thinking about her. You never though, she may feel the same way!
2007-02-28 02:03:05 · answer #6 · answered by Sabrina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello friend.
1. pls make sure of ur feelings first. try anything only if there are feelings.
2. from a woman's perspective: He who cannot charm on birthdays, cannot charm at all, is a big time loser, blah blah...got the msg?
3. be sure to be the first one to wish her, midnight sharp.
4. if you behave too casually, she wont take you too seriously and you will be giving her wrong/confusing signals.
cheer up!!!
2007-02-28 02:09:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldnt. only from the fact that she specifically asked you not to write so it probably only annoy her, even if it's light its the fact that you wrote that she won't like.
sorry you were hurt but it's a new beginning and i'm confident you will find someone else in time and the pain will disappear.
move on and try to look to the future not the past.
2007-02-28 02:01:41 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what I read it sounds like it's her loss for having let you go. It is so sweet of you to want to do that. Because she told you not to call, write, I would recommend respecting her wishes and not do it. Eventually any feelings for her will dissipate over time.
2007-02-28 02:04:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not send the email, b/c you will show that you are still thinking about her, let her go and try to move on. It is hard, very hard specially when you are the one who gave everything, but just think about you! You need to think of you first, you need to love yourself first, dont waste your time. If in two months she didn't conctact you means that she doesnt think of you..
But.................. remember, listen to your heart, do what you think will help/relieve your soul.
2007-02-28 02:09:04 · answer #10 · answered by Ays 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I don't know. It would depend on why we broke up. You say it ended badly and she said not to contact her. If I said that to someone it would be for a reason and I would have meant it. So I wouldn't be too happy if he e-mailed me.
2007-02-28 02:01:43 · answer #11 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋