ok, so my wife is training to become a cop and im incrediably jealous because she is working with mainly men..

Question

she is incredibly sexy, and young, not just sexy in my eyes, but A LOT of guys think she is very very pretty lets say.. on top of it she has an awesome and sweet but sexy devil attitude. Now, she is training to be a cop, and works with pretty much all men and a couple women, but she is by far the sexiest personality and looks wise. and im freaking jealous and cant stand her having this career, what do i do , or how in the world do i get over it.... my career is about 99% all men too, so... its not even like anything is fair here.

ive treated her poorly in the past, so yes, i am worried she would stray, on top of all the guys just LOVE her down there she tells me.

Answer 1

I was married to a Police Officer for many years now we are divorced. it is a well known fact in Police circles that 90% of Police Officers marriages fail and that is an official statistic. When Officers are paired together they are expected to 'bond' it appears that the 'bonding' between male and female Officers are alot closer than Officers that are crewed with the same sex!
Good Luck

Answer 2

My other half is better looking than me and works with women and this is all down to trust honey. I get insanely jealous sometimes because the women he works with can sometimes be petite little things and I am quite clumsy and not very good at being sexy! Just let her know how much she means to you and do not be afraid to tell her how you feel about the whole situation, without sounding like you are simply moaning about it! You have to 100% trust her for this to work and if she has never strayed in past then I really think you have nothing to worry about! I settled down in my mind a long time ago and realised that moaning about it and obsessing about it just makes the situation worse and ends up causing argument between you both. Just relax, support her in her great career and enjoy your life with her. x

Answer 3

I am the same as your wife. I worked at a web hosting company, which yes, mainly consisted of men. My boyfriend/fiance of 2½ yrs was completely jealous because of that. You must trust her. If all you do is accuse, and let your imagination run loose with ideas of what guys are thinking of her and so forth, you are going to drive yourself crazy. You know how guys think of you, You thought of her the same way when you first saw her, and you married her. She Said "I DO". That means something... don't push those two important words aside.

At my job, Every single man hit on me, between ages of 17-45. I am a very friendly person, sometimes too friendly, I hug a lot so sometimes people can get the wrong idea - but as long as I know where to keep the "work relationship" status at, and I know when to say "No, that's not a good idea", then it's alright. I sure did go out to dinner with some of the guys, as groups, and even once just to go out because we were friends... did my boyfriend like it?.. Not at all - but he has to trust me.

She chose you - that's what's important. Give her a reason to keep you.

Answer 4

First, you have to recognize that this is YOUR problem. You need to sort out your own insecurities if you want this to work. She is following a career path, and you have no right to hold her back or make her feel jealous, simply because you feel threatened.

Jealousy is a useless emotion...it gets you NO WHERE! And if it continues, she WILL stray, or leave you. No one likes to be doubted or questioned.

If you have a strong relationship, that should be enough to sustain you. If you don't, you are in for a world of heartache.

My advice is that you talk to her, explaining how you feel. And also acknowledge that it is your problem, and that you are working on it. Ask for her patience. But make sure you DO work on it, cause lip service will only go so far...

Good luck..

Answer 5

Hello. While I am no relationship guru etc., I will share my thoughts with you alright? You should find the time to talk with her honestly, straightforwardly, sharing your fears with her. You need to get working BIG TIME on loving her, sharing more of your life and world with her, and meet her needs as best you can. No man can meet all the needs of a woman and the vice versa is true as well. You should learn from the book "The Five Love Languages". It'll tell you how to meet her love needs in which love language she speaks in. You need to tell her you love her, need her, and that you value her as a person. Love her for who she is not what she has. You also will have to love her enough to TRUST her as she works with those men. Be more concerned for HER needs than yours, and hopefully she'll get that and reciprocate. You've got to be the man and take care of her, minister to her, and when you two are apart send her off knowing she's loved by you. Love is a committment, and so work on your jealousy issues. I'd also recommend finding some online site perhaps to share and get help over it. Educate yourself. Ask yourself why you are afraid... look beyond the surface alright? Good luck.

Answer 6

I would say no, you should not be jelous, IF you start treating her better. You obviously seem to have feelings for her and you should use this as a wake up call. If you love her and don't want her to leave you then step it up =P Make her know that you are the only one for her and the other guys can try as they will but she will be yours. Also realize that she is in getting into a job where she is going to be close to the co-workers around her for support. When you are dealing with a job that you could possibly die at, you want to know you can trust and get along with those you work with. Just keep that in mind.

Answer 7

Matt A,

I feel your pain dude. I can tell that this is slightly tormentuous for you as well...because you treated her poorly in the past, you are afraid now.

First, relax. Breathe. Think. And in that order.

She will resent you something awful if you come on too strong here with your obvious dislike of her new profession. Right now, she needs your support. Period. Yeah, she's hot, beautiful, super sexy personality...yeah, I know that type (eh hem!.... LOST_N_DC is that type- LOL).

I think you should let her know (as subtle as possible)...your concerns...but please don't make it sound like fear. Make it sound more professional...like her job is a dangerous one, but do not use that to disable her.

A strong woman needs her man to uplift her, encourage her with enthusiasm, and be there when she needs him to be.

Dude, you can do this. Good Luck Matt!!

Answer 8

Jealous is as jealous does - you said yourself you haven't treated her well in the past. From what I can see, you're still not treating her well but not trusting her.

If you were working with 98% women, do you think your wife could trust you?

Don't measure other people by your own standards. It's not a given that she would behave the same way as you might.

Answer 9

I think that you are just insecure because you have treated her badly in the past so you think if someone shows her some nice attention she will be off with them.

Do you really think that she is that type of person that will throw away her marriage to have a fling with someone at work?? Have more faith in her she must love you a lot if she is willing to stick with you through the bad times.

Answer 10

I work with only men .. this is the 4 company Ive worked for that I am the only female.. the guys I work with are sexy and lovely and funny and I join them in the pub after work and we harmlessly flirt. My husband isn't bothered at all. Which is how you should be.. its your problem not hers.
Trust is a major part of a relationship, and flirting is part of human nature.
She will have a laugh with her collegues and hang out and flirt with them on occasion. you have to grow up! isn't that why you love her beacuse she is so sexy and driven??? you can't shut her away .