Base this off of your personal experiences...
2007-02-28 01:41:54 · 25 answers · asked by Love always, Kortnei 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes and No...if you have been cheated on by a certain person then that person more then likely will always cheat on you. But if he cheated in the past on someone else that doesn't mean he will do it to you.
2007-02-28 01:45:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
This is a good question and one that is widely debated. Personally, I feel that the "once a cheater, always a cheater" slogan depends on the person. Some people are just cheaters and being in a relationship with one person for too long scares them. And then some people just don't want to be tied down.
From my personal experiences, I have learned that when you get placed in a situation where your mate has been unfaithful you have to decide whether the emotions and connection are still there. Sometimes, there can be trust and honesty after cheating. Second chances can be a saving grace. However, if you try to work things out and you find yourself not being able to trust your mate then you should move on.
Relationships that are going to last involve a lot of trust. And if you do decide to stick it out for round two try some therapy. There maybe a serious issue behind his cheating. Fear of commitment is a big deal and most people do want help with that fear because they don't want to miss out being with the one.
2007-02-28 10:05:45 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although once a cheater is always a cheater for the most part is true....I have been proven wrong.
If one corrects the behavior, that leads them to cheat (because let's face it, while with some its about sex, there is something a little more meaningful below the surface that causes cheaters to cheat)...
If one can recognize that it may be a lack of self-confidence, abandonment issues, sexual promiscuity, etc.
So no....I will go on the record and say that once a cheater is NOT ALWAYS a cheater.
Great question!!!
2007-02-28 09:48:16 · answer #3 · answered by Bathroom Graffiti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...yes!!! Only loyal truthful honest people of character and integrity...are a welcome sight in my eyes. I've never cheated on anyone ever...and I'm darned certain I'm not gonna remotely even start now. People who cheat are the lowest form of life on the planet in my book. I heard the other day that 1/3rd of the population of the world has cheated on a partner. Allot of people are gonna be going to hell seriously. Cheaters will be at the top of the list. Everyone has a weak moment that crosses their mind occasionally...but leave it all to fantasy truthfully. It won't be a fantasy after the devil has his hand with you! Bad Karma is gonna catch up with all of the cheaters of the world eventually. Guess when that's gonna happen with no uncertainty? Yikes!!!
2007-02-28 09:54:06 · answer #4 · answered by scott s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally speaking, its true. But its always important to understand the circumstances of the cheating when it has occured. Was it a commited relationship? Sometimes, people don't see it as cheating if there is no commitment.
I do know of one fellow who changed his ways once he found the right woman. He saw the destruction from his previous cheating, and when he found the 'love of his life', he straightened up. He recognized the damage he did to others and himself in the past, and doesn't want that to happen again. Maturity is a big factor.
2007-02-28 09:47:38 · answer #5 · answered by Super Ruper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is something you would have to experience. My Fiancee did NOT cheat on me, but in a sense he did. He was talking to his ex-girlfriend behind my back for about 4 months maybe & when I found out, we brokeup. We are back together, but trust is a problem. He got a new cellphone number & he doesn't go into the store she works in anymore unless I am with him. He cut himself off from a lot of things 'cause he wanted me back. He is proving to me that he is loyal now. I trust him, but I don't trust him around her or her friends & he knows that. Depends on the person & situation. Now if he would have slept with her & all of that good stuff then he would not have gotten a second chance. But I think it depends on how look at the situation.
2007-02-28 09:58:38 · answer #6 · answered by xjalyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess it gets easier the more you do it. There are cheaters, and then there are "players". Some reasons for cheating are just that you are in a bad relationship, and dont know what to do about it. This type may not cheat again if in a good one. Those who get drunk and do stupid things, well, maybe if they quit drinking they may be good. The "players" though, unless they grow up, which is unlikely, dont fool yourself you arent gonna change them, steer clear they are proud of their ways.
2007-02-28 09:48:27 · answer #7 · answered by tomhale138 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex cheated on me. It wasn't until later that I learned from a mutal friend that she had cheated on every guy she'd ever dated. So, yeah, once a cheater always a cheater. Those who say things like: 'That was with her/him, not you.' or 'I was different person than' are just full of it. Watch out for yourself.
2007-02-28 09:47:29 · answer #8 · answered by land-pliskin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With most guys it is.....but there is hope that SOME will not do it again! But you must keep your gaurd up at all times! So you want to live with that wonder?...is he really where he says he is or is he out cheating? .....you will have to check up on him, go through the phone, etc.... but there is a chance that trust may be gained again. Other guys are just very slick and they do it over and over again! So, your call....just dont be naive, you must pay attention to detail! Keep tabs if you have to...But do what makes you happy with your life. You only get one, so live it up! And never let a man walk on you or take advantage of you! There are plenty of men who will respect you and give their right leg just to be with you...if yah know what i mean. So, live with no regrets. So just relax and enjoy the ride...with occasional bumps along the way!
2007-02-28 09:50:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well yes and no...it's really hard to tell...a lot of my past bfs have cheated on me.
One of my bfs cheated on me while I was in Europe for a month and we had been together like 8 months. We were both young and I think he was truly missing me and just needed that touch...he felt terrible and told me right away crying and all...I believe even though we're not together anymore that he learned his lesson and wouldn't do that to anyone else.
Now another man I dated for a long time and still am not over that issue yes he will always be.
He was dating someone before me barely broke up with her tried to start seeing me...things didn't work out at that time so he was hooking up with his ex and a new girl..
Then we finally got together and it got rocky well he cheated on me tons of times with the one girl he kind of hooked up with while he was with the ex...
Then he started dating her and cheated on her with his current gf to which they break up every month...
He is set in a pattern and I would never trust him again..I was dating his friend for 2 years and after we broke up the ex actually told me he was happy when he heard the news (and he was supposed to be good friends with my then bf)
So it is a case by case...you usually can tell when someone is remorseful and got caught up and learned their lesson and some just watch their movements and comments you'll be able to tell...
Whatever your gut says is usually true.
Hope that helps!
2007-02-28 09:49:13 · answer #10 · answered by colie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I used to cheat on all board games to beat my parents when I was little and I no longer cheat when playing games so I would have to say no
Oh yea I have no loyalty to people and I'll stab you in the front or the back whichevers the easiest... but dont worry my 4 girlfriends all say Im very loving
2007-02-28 09:46:14 · answer #11 · answered by Big Poppa Pump 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋