ok so im 19 yrs old and my mom basically tries to control every aspect of my life i mean i dot complain becuase i do live under her roof but its come so annoying to the point where she still hits me like its gonna do something. my boyfriend asked me to move in with him and i really want to but i dont know if its the right thing to do....HELP!?
2007-02-28 01:40:33 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my older brother went away to school for this same reason buut when he comes home he still gets controlled and hes 21...me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 yrs now but even though my parents are so agressiive i still want to make them proud and not just leave without thier approval..IM SOOO CONFUSED!!
2007-02-28 01:55:48 · update #1
Move in with with him if are u physically, emotionally and financially wise. And I would also go to say if doesn't add anymore constraint with ur parents as well. If they are cool with u moving out or if u just dont care because u think u are old enough to do w/e u want to now.. then go for it- move out!
2007-02-28 01:45:08 · answer #1 · answered by Ichigo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiancee is in the same boat. I am going to tell you like I tell him. You are 19 years old & if you want to move out & live your own life, do it. When you get married, you main aspect in life will be your husband & kids, not your mom/dad or any other family member. You need to get out because she is hitting you & she is verbally abusing you. Get up & move out. If she is upset, oh well? You are an ADULT, live like one. Do your OWN thing & when she does it, call her on it. Don't let her attack you or anything like that, just call her on what she is doing or push her a lil'. When she goes to hit you, say something like.., "yeah Mom, hit me again since you don't know what communication is" & stuff like that. Parents hate to be called out by their kids so do it. Be the better person & do it!
Good luck!
2007-02-28 10:09:28 · answer #2 · answered by xjalyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok im not going to preach to you but you have to realize your mom loves you and god wants you to be obedient to your parents. And MOST of the time, they restrict you because they love you and dont want you to get into trouble. So in that case, just obey your parents ( its one of the commandments anyway). About moving in with your boyfriend, i wouldn't. Chances are, and i hate to tell you this, that you both will not last to the point of marriage. So for the benefit of your future spouse and a healthy marriage, make smart choices. Think with your head not you heart. It works in tough decisions like this. I'll pray for you and God bless.
2007-02-28 09:49:33 · answer #3 · answered by texcjb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if shes still hitting you at 19 you need to get out. She does love you cause she your mother but there is no need for her to still be hitting you.
2007-02-28 09:44:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not that I know the right thing to do but if your bf doesn't abuse you, why do you stay where you are abused??? NO ONE deserves to be abused and maybe your mom neds help but until she faces some consequences for her behavior she wi;ll probably continue this treatment of you.Good luck sweetie, and I'll pray for you
2007-02-28 09:48:31 · answer #5 · answered by Master Ang Gi Guong 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she hits you, you should move in with your boyfriend. Don't let her hit you anymore. Call the police next time she does. I say, stay with your boyfriend because you are probably safe with him.
2007-02-28 09:44:47 · answer #6 · answered by amberlynne_2007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a place of your own.In the meantime,speak to your Mum and tell her hitting you is not going to resolve anything.
2007-02-28 09:49:48 · answer #7 · answered by RAINBOW 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what you think is the best, if you are sick with staying with your mum then move in with your boy friend but make sure it is what you want because it is a big commitment.
2007-02-28 09:49:30 · answer #8 · answered by nickywatson081273 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea u should do it because u are 19 and old enough to be out on your own
2007-02-28 09:44:05 · answer #9 · answered by kimmie kub 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well talk to your mom about how you feel and if she does not want to change then maybe you should move on and move out
Good luck :)
2007-02-28 09:44:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋