is the single life scary?

Question

I have never actually been single before. I had all rebound girlfriends.Rebound girlfriend:one woman substituted for another woman in a break up. Except my last girlfriend, she told me I never had time to get to know myself because as soo as I jump out of an relationship I would jump right back into one.I took time to think about what she said and she was right.

Answer 1

I totally agree with your ex also. You have to get to know yourself so that you can make better judgement on the decisions you make for yourself.being single is not scary. it is a form of learning how to gain patience. because if you can't deal with yourself alone how how can someone else tolerate you?

Answer 2

Most of us do the same thing when we're young. I recall telling an older sister that I'd always have a boyfriend b/c I didn't plan to be alone. Life has changed now that I'm middle aged, I'm single through no fault of my own, and now that I've gotten use to it I can't imagine not having the freedom to do exactly as I please. So, the idea of being single is scary I agree, but the reality is way too cool. And those 'middle aged never married' guys are so appealing! Your last girlfriend is right--take some time to get to know yourself. You'll be that much better of a partner to your next girlfriend. good Luck

Answer 3

Both possibilities are the ways to know yourself from the different aspects. The single life and a relationship. Since you have never experienced a single life, your girlfriend might be right. Try it. Use your freedom to enjoy the things you couldn't before (I am not thinking about sexual freedoms only, but about many other things you can learn) and take a deep breath before you enter in another relation. Single life could be very exciting if you accept that you are not alone but free.

Answer 4

no in fact its alot better then being in a relationship after all u need some time to figure out who u really are and decide what u want in life. I use to jump from one guy to the next thinking that being single was the worse thing that could happend and i finally realized that it isn't. I love being single. U should try it u might like it as well. good luck

Answer 5

yes, she's right. You have to get to know yourself. And be totally sure that you are "over" all of your ex's.
Yes, the single life is scary. But what is scarier, is actually being in a relationship that you know deep down is not the right person for you and being more and more "stuck" as time goes on because you dont have the where-with-all with in yourself to call it over with.

Answer 6

There is nothing wrong being single. However, I don't think you'll even need to worry about being single for the rest of your life given your past historical records. Since you agree that you don't know much about yourself, it time you do some soul searching before you plunged into another relationship.

Answer 7

She is right you know and you know that too. Single life is not scary. You really need to spend time to get to know yourself. You can never settle down for real if you do not know yourself well enough to know what you really want. Now, being single does not mean you are alone - you have yourself for company. What's scary about that? It can be very liberating.

Answer 8

I've always been single and only recenlty started dating someone and in fact I feel more stressed now that I might be in a relationship than when I was single, haha. So being single isn't so bad.

Answer 9

The single life isn't scary, but being in an abusive relationship is.
The single life isn't scary, but being in a relationship with a schitzophrenic is.
So the single life is pretty ok

Answer 10

The single life can be scary and great at the same time. you should try to enjoy it, once you are tied down you will wish you had taken the time to get to know yourself!