every time my self- esteem goes down i get closer and more needy of my bf he takes care of me and all until i feel good, but after he brings me up i find myself with confidence and the next thing i know i'm fklirting with a guy but he didn't or doesn;'t know that.
2007-02-28 01:24:25 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow that's so wrong stop it don't do that to your boyfriend he is by your side when you need him
2007-02-28 01:29:41 · answer #1 · answered by delmonticoman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you've gotten used to the fact that you have someone who is there for you only when you feel down. It's okay to flirt lightly with other people (I'm sure it's natural) but from what you wrote is sounds like you're only using your boyfriend to make you feel better and when you feel better you're directing you attentiosn to others. If that truley is the case, it's really unfair to your boyfriend and you should decide if you really want to be with him or should end it before you hurt his feelings.
2007-02-28 09:31:04 · answer #2 · answered by someonehasalreadychosenthisname1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like you didn't have a healthy childhood. your need for your bf is what is questionable. where are your parents, girlfriends, your family? they are missing. why?
flirting in my opinion is a normal everyday occurrence, unavoidable. he probably does his own flirting, just not necessarily in front of you. one more question you can add in your comment details: does your bf yell, control, give you money or do u live with him. my guess, you feel sorry for your bf for some reason because you do not know how to love someone else. you have to love yourself before you can love another.
2007-02-28 09:34:12 · answer #3 · answered by REALLY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its because you have low self worth and you are codependent. you should try and do things to boost your own confindence, like things that make you happy and that your good at. try doing affirmations in the morning and thoughout the day. (repeating something to yourself while you look in the mirror, such as i am a beautiful, confident woman.) saying things like that to yourself enough times and you will eventually believe it.
2007-02-28 09:30:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your co-dependant. I suggest reading the book Co-Dependant No More.
2007-02-28 09:28:30 · answer #5 · answered by MJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry your boyfriend is a sap...just like Forrest Gump and you know things his momma said..
Life is like a box of chocolates.....you get a lot of nuts..?
Just take advantage of him but have a spare tire to have fun with on the side...as the sweetest fruit is at the end of the limb...
yummmo
2007-02-28 09:30:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
cos you ave self esteem issues
2007-02-28 09:28:50 · answer #7 · answered by cynnie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't help it ,you are a normal flaky,goofy female.
2007-02-28 09:30:32 · answer #8 · answered by dcam47 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do it because you may think its not cheating.but really its not being honest with your boyfriend
2007-02-28 09:29:42 · answer #9 · answered by annjilena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you deserve your boyfriend? I think not.
2007-02-28 09:28:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋