what do you think about having a backstreet relationship? should you hold on or not.?

Question

my parents are totaly disagree with my boyfriend because we have different religion..and we really2 love each other, but sometimes i just think there are no future for us,also sometimes i sacrifice much more than him, like he doesn't do nothing,but i can't imagine my life without him.. what should i do?

Answer 1

You can't imagine your life without someone that
gives NOTHING to your relationship?

You may want to re-think that one......You sure said a mouthful.

Answer 2

The first thing that you should do is figure out what the real problem in the relationship is. Why can't you see the two of you having a future together if you "really love each other?" Is it because of your parents' disapproval or because of the lack of responsibility displayed on his part?

Personally, I feel that if you sincerely feel that you love him and vice versa then this relationship should be worth saving. However, if you feel like you're the one making all the effort and sacrifices to keep it going then by all means take the time to consider seeing other people. A relationship takes two willing players and if he's not willing to play the game, you need to move on. But you should certainly sit down and let him know how you're feeling first. Talk things through and then make your decision.

Answer 3

I've had this problem before and know how hard it can be. I think it can work but only if BOTH of you are prepared to compromise. If you do everything and he won't budge you will become resentful and it will drive a wedge between you. This is probably partly what your parents are scared of. Try to understand their concerns too - they probably only want the best for you and, believe it or not, parents sometimes know us better than we know ourselves! Almost like they can see into the future. The most important thing is to talk about it with this guy and if you decide to go for it, you'll have to tell your parents at some point so do it from the beginning (with your boyf) and explain that you're not just being rebellious, but that you love each other and see a future together. Religion should unite people not drive them apart or cause hatred...

Answer 4

I also have no idea what a 'backstreet relationship' is, but it must be something secretive that you aren't disclosing to your parents due to the religious beliefs of your respective families. It may be that the relationship is one-sided and that you're the only one making an effort. That could be a problem. It takes two willing participants to maintain a good relationship. It's hard to accept that our parents have our best interest at heart and can see things that we are too blind or caught up to see for ourselves. This may turn out to be one of those things that you tell your parents later that you wish you had listened to them. If you proceed with the 'backstreet relationship' be cautious, try to be more objective, be observant, and evaluate whether this guy is also willing to make a sacrifice. And life would go on even if you lost him (through seperation or death) and you'd realize that you were stronger than you ever imagined. We're all wired that way, but it takes time and maturity to realize it. Good Luck

Answer 5

trust you parents.

forbidden fruit is always tastier - but you'll gain much more int eh long run by building a long term trusting relationship with your parents.

put your hormones on hold.

Answer 6

first off, Grow Up and leave him. your going down a one way street. parents always know best trust me on that one. DON'T HOLD ON

Answer 7

What the f*** is a backstreet relationship

Answer 8

If you love him stay with him....Love knows no color, race, religion and has no boundaries....It you're life to. so live it! hes your world. don't let your parent take your world away.

Answer 9

turn him loose.. If he does nothing for you why waste your time...