to spend more time with me. I have not done anything to her mother but her mother will not allow it. Any advice on what to tell my grand daughter without saying anything bad about her mother. I do not want my grand daughter thinking that I do not want to spend time with her.
Thanks and please only serius answers.
2007-02-28 01:01:02 · 12 answers · asked by reginasob 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have the same situation but its a daughter in law...the problem is they don't want the grandaughter loving you more than them, which is silly, when ever she asks to come over say "of course" but ask your Mom first. this way she will know it isn't anything your doing. just be there for her and speak nicely to her, and calmly in time she will see what is truly happening...is she permitted to go to lunch with you? or shopping?
2007-02-28 01:09:11 · answer #1 · answered by brown eyes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the Mother and let her know that she has been asking to spend time with you.Also let your Grand daughter know that you do want to spend time with her also but that until you get the ok it is up to her Mom.However if the Mom decides to say no I would contact a lawyer to help you reserve you Grandparents rights to see her.Good luck I do hope that she lets you spend time with her I was really close to my Grandmother and I am so glad I spent as much time with her before it was to late
2007-02-28 01:26:24 · answer #2 · answered by Heather T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your granddaughter know that she needs to discuss this with her mom. If she asks why let her know that it is a decision that her parents need to make. Even though your daughter won't allow her to visit, maybe you could also call your daughter and let her know that your graddaughter is very upset that she cannot visit you and you would like to know why she cannot come visit you.
Maybe plan a trip to go visit her and your daughter and go from there. I am sorry to hear about what is going on. I am not a grandmother, but I am an aunt and my sister has things that need to be done before my nephew can come stay at our house.
Always let your granddaughter know that you still love her and that hopefully things will work out.
Good luck.
2007-02-28 01:13:27 · answer #3 · answered by Important 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give your daughter a call, and let her know that your grand daughter, wants to spend time with you, and say, "I would like to spend time with her, and that I hope and pray that you will allow it. Now if she will not take your call, then buy her a card, and tell her that same thing, that you would like to spend time with your grand daughter. Now if she does not answer, then you write your grand daughter a card, and tell her that you miss her also. and that you do want to see her. and to ask her mom or dad it they will let her see you. Some states they have Grand parents rights!
2007-02-28 01:09:34 · answer #4 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak to her mom. Find out why her mother feels like this and see if you can come to a compromise. I think maybe some mothers don't allow a lot of interaction with grandparents because they don't want it thrown back in their faces that Gran let me do this and oh mom, you're mean etc. Her mother does need to realise that you are important to her daughter and her child's feelings SHOULD come first in this case. My children's grandmother doesn't even acknowledge my kids, I know I and my children would love it if she wanted to spend time with them! Good luck hun.
2007-02-28 01:09:18 · answer #5 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take this woman to court. I assume its your daughter in law and not your daughter, but never the less take this matter to family court. You should have the right to see your grand daughter a grandmother has rights. Good luck. Shame on her mother.
2007-02-28 01:20:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 00:27:20 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply tell her that you love her and you would love to spend more time with her but that she will have to ask her mother if it is ok,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
this will reassure your grandchild and put to problem right on her mother's shoulders where it belongs.
You might also consider talking with your daughter and see if she can tell you why she does not want you to be able to enjoy your grandchild and maybe express the idea that she is being shelfish and neglectful of both your and your grandchilds needs.
2007-02-28 01:09:09 · answer #8 · answered by darkehawk_1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi-
well, consider having a one on one discussion with your daugther asking her why spending time isnt as frequent as you would like.It might be a timing thing, transportation, whatever.
Or, consider doing an activity with both of them. Maybe taking them to a movie or out to lunch as "girls day out". This may help ease the transition a bit, spending time with both.
Personally, I love grandparent time for my child, so there may be something going on that you arent aware of. Its best to talk to your daughter in a non confrontational way to figure out why she isnt letting you spend as much time as you want.
2007-02-28 01:08:37 · answer #9 · answered by stellabella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her mother why she is denying time spent with you. If there is no valid reason, and she still doesn't agree, then tell your daughter you are going to tell your granddaughter why you can't see her.
2007-02-28 01:05:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋