do long distance relationships ever work??

Question

i need to no has anyone ever had one that actually worked out or lasted??

Answer 1

Not for me, it didn't! And we were in the same town, too!! He didn't travel, except when his job would make him go and get a person from out of town, to take them to the doctor's, otherwise, he'd only call me about twice a week!! And I was living with my mother at that time, because I wanted to get my own place after an "Ugly Devorce" my Ex & I had been seperated for two years before the devorce, and so this was my third year of being single at the time while I dated this man (I never saw)!!! It was really hard for me, too, because I felt like he didn't care much for kids..I mean he was cool to my kids and everything but he wasn't like wanting to get to know them or anything! He acted like he could 'Care-less" about them!! And actually acted like they were a "Burden" to him, more than apart of me! So, between him acting that way towards them and him only calling me a couple times a week... Plus, the fact that I knew we'd never live together as a "Couple" because where he owned his own home, was in a really bad part of town, and I was ready to move into my own apartment within a couple of months, because it was within the school limit's to where my kids were already going, so there would never be any way I was going to allow my children to live in his neighborhood... I even asked him one time, why would he buy in "Birdland"? (all the streets were named after birds, so everyone called it "Birdland) And his response was, I bought the house before all of the "Meth-Heads" moved over here!!! So the neighborhood changed after he had already been living there !0 or 15 years!! So, between that and his enthusiasm about seeing me, (us), never changed so, I moved on, and eventually so did he! We just went our seperate ways!! And come to find out, he had two seperate girlfriends within a four-five months of us splitting up!!! How sad is that?!! The guy just couldn't live without a woman!! And another thing I didn't like about our relationship was he'd hand me a pound of hamburger, and tell me to cook dinner, when I was over at his place, and I compared notes one time with his new girlfriend after me, and she said he'd do the same thing to her... She said my kids are all grown-up, but he acts like he doesn't like kids, and she said alls he wants me to do is keep his house clean, and cook for him as if we were married but he wants "No Commitment's"!! And then he walked in as she & I had already spoken for an hour on the phone!! He was not happy! And told me never to call there again!! Believe me, I wouldn't have even called then, except I'd heard he'd been in a really bad motorcycle accident, and I wanted to make sure he had someone to take care of him... turns out it was just a "roomer" about the accident.. he wasn't hurt as bad, as everyone made it out to sound... but she dumped him shortly after we spoke on the phone... And now he's with this other chick who says, she "Keeps him in line" she told a "Mutual friend of our's this!!" I can't see anyone keeping him in line, so she has a "Wake-up" call coming very soon, trust me on this one!! So, I'll never do a long distance relationship again! Its just too hard to get attached, when you know you can't be together-Together!! You know what I mean?! I dont want to be with someone I cant live with, should we get serious! So, unless my kids are grown in 4 & 6 years, I'm just going to wait, to date, anyone.. And even then, I just simply want a "Companion" someone, who just want's to do things with me, but doesn't want to be committed,, you know... So, in retrospect, I just want a "Male-Buddy" to do things with, without any strings attached!!! Smile!!!! And Good Luck to you, hun!!!

Answer 2

Not really, its rare that one can work. Its hard to maintain a relationship when you are not involved in thier everyday life. Most Long Distance relationships are nothing but an escape from the persons current reality, soon one or both people will need the someone that is near and that is usually when a long distance relationship stops.

Answer 3

this really depends if the 2 of you have committed to / prepared for all the uncertainties that might happen while you 2 can't see / talk to each other as a much as ordinary bf/gf, living in the same place / country.

Back to your question, is not my case, yet my friend's. She and her boyfriend have to takes 3 hours flight to see other. The 2 of them eventually got married in 2005 after 3 years of long distance relationship.

Is works, if the 2 are meant for each other. Is was really a blessing to them.

Answer 4

I'm in a long-distance relationship for almost 2yrs and it's really tough. But handling one is not as different as handling a normal relationship because both requires maturity, trust and understanding. Only frustrating part there is you don't get to see your partner as much as you want (or depending on the distance) but then, distance can make the heart grow fonder.

Answer 5

Not personally no. But a friend of mine fell in love with a Danish girl and they have been together for about 4 years now. She has lived in Belgium for a year and now he lives in Denmark. But before that they just traveled a lot to see each other as much as possible.
So yes, long distance relationships can work.

Answer 6

They can work, but very rarely. There needs to be an incredible amount of trust between the people in that relationship. This is not from personal experience, but I have know people who long-distance relationships have worked for.

Answer 7

I was with someone for 6 years. He was from Australia and I am from the US. I met him when he came over to play hockey and went to my high school. We were together for 3 years and then he had to go back to Australia when I stayed home. It worked out for about 2 1/2 more years and then we broke it off. If we were able to be together after about 2 years, it may have been able to work out, but it was just taking way too long to see each other, and we didn't know when we would be able to again.

Answer 8

They work if you do see eachother form time to time. Just make an effort to see eachother and it will you can get what you ned from the thang. If you see eachother everyday people get tired of eachother. Long distance is the best way if one of you guys are telling the truth to eachother. be aware cause some guys are floaters and Dont want anything in life but to float around dipping and dabbing. If the guyis worth keeping you will see it if you pay attention.

Answer 9

I am in a long distance relationship now. We do get to see each other on the weekend but not mon-fri. For me it works out great I can get the things done during the week, meet my friends and keep in contact with them, then I'm his on the weekend.

Answer 10

Yes they do, but you have to work hard at them. i had a holiday romance and then a long distance relationship for 18 months. We then had to decide what to do, either split up or one of us had to make the move. I had less to sacrifice so I moved abroad to be with my man. We are now married and expecting our first child.

I miss my family like mad but I am happy, if I hadn't made the move my life would be one big "what if?""

It's hard work and you may have to make sacrifices, but it can be worth it, don't give up on a good thing xx

Answer 11

Relationships are all very unique. I think if you both are very dedicated and committed to each other, there is a very good chance it will work out.

Remember there are LOTS of men and women serving this country that are away from their loved ones with GREAT relationships. It all depends on what you and your significant other want.