pls!! i need help?

Question

i met this girl at work and we got really close and was flirting and having a laugh with each other but the problem is she is 32 and im 17 we got together about 3 months ago and we kept it from everyone because she was scared of what people would think of her, after a few weeks she told her friends and they went mad calling her names and telling her it was wrong so she split up wit me, its bin 2 months since we split up i still really like her and i know she likes me but she will never come to me and say that she wants me back coz she would feel bad because of my age, should i talk to her and ask for anohter try or should i just leave it even tho im mad about this woman? and is the age differnce too much? thanks

Answer 1

Look I don't know if this helps at all sweetheart but I'm 51 now & my husband is 27...we've been together for nearly 8 years & yes I lost a couple of friends over the relationship to begin with but all those that had something to say ended up with younger guys too after a while....my husband was just 19 when I very first met him although I had known him slightly when he was 17.......I waited til he was 20 before we went ahead even though I knew he'd liked me long before that....We're perfectly suited & both really happy together...all those that had something to say at the start now say we're so well suited & look so cool together.
This lady that you're interseted in will have to decide whether she's going to be strong enough to fight against all the b*tches out there. younger ones are the worst actually for b*tching...younger females I mean....after that it's the older guys that seem to have a problem...obviously both sides are pissed that here is this age gap that's working against all the odds.....if you think you & she have what it takes to stay together regardless then hell Honey, go & find her & tell her how you feel. you can have her email me if it helps any.....I'll be happy to put her mind at rest if I can....Trust me it's not long before everyone starts on someone else & leaves you guys alone......
The only thing I would say is take it slowly....people will have all sorts of opinions about you both, claiming that you've got a lot of growing up to do etc....the fact is some are more mature than others of their own age anyway....heck! people of the same age groups are splitting up every day, it's not age that keeps us together or breaks us apart....you won't know til you try. I often think age gaps have more success because they have to try harder to prove to everyone & themselves.
All I know is my man & me are really happy together...yes we've had our problems but we get over them the same as others do......don't believe the crap that when she's a bit older she'll want to stay in & you'll want to go out....my man would sooner stay at home actually...it's me that's the night owl here & the party goer, so you never can tell. Hey, I've seen 25 yr olds that are as old as my granny...lol
Ask your friend if her mates would change their lives for her....I bet they wouldn't, their probably just jealous anyway.......

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Answer 2

With an age gap as big as that, people do tend to lok down on it but in my opinion age is only a number and its the heart that is more important! If you really like this woman and she really likes you then you both should go for it and not care what anyone else thinks, no mater how hard it will be. My parents have an age gap of eight years and people thought that was bad and they have been married for 22 years now, my mum is 40 and my dad is 48 now so they got married when they wer really young. Just do what feel right in your heart

Answer 3

WOW DUDE!!!I think splitting up wit dat "grandma" of yoz was de best thing u have ever done in yo life.Yes i do know dat age is nothing but a number BUT in this case it is a big problem,i mean a DECAY 'N A HALF?THAT'S A LOT BOY!OK ur working ening a living for yoself ,yo can get any kind of "GIRL" u like of yo age or littlebid older than u.U CAN AFORD!

Answer 4

I would forget about it mate... you'll only hurt yourself hoping she'll get back with you. You seem like a nice bloke and i guess she saw good qualities in you she could relate to. Her friends probably gave her a kick in the backside and she realised what she was doing and decided its not fair for you, as your young you need to see more things. I think she has done you a favour and i would suggest you move on and make use of what you learnt from her. Hope this helps you mate!

Answer 5

I would say to talk to her, and try to convince her to give you another chance, but this time she needs to keep her trap closed, because some women don't like to see other women happy with there mate no matter, what age, so just talk to her, and if she still wants to act like she can't think for herself, then leave her alone and find someone else.

Answer 6

Take the hint....I think that stretch in age is a little wrong but age is really just a number. If the women is still childish that she worries bout what her friends say, than your best bet is just to move on.

Answer 7

whilst age is only a number and all that - its IS a pretty significant age gap and really whilst you'll be considered a stud for pulling a woman her age - she'll be accused of being a cradle snatcher etc etc - I think you need to see this from her point of view - maybe she cant handle being slagged off and getting abuse from her friends - I think if she wants you back enough she'll let you know - til then Id leave things alone though.
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Answer 8

leave it for a while. i know it might be hard especially because you work with her etc and you see her often, but wait till youre at least 18 or even off your teen years, it is a bit of an age gap but it shouldnt hold you back if you both have feelings for each other, just wait till you get a bit more maturity and she knows how she feels exactly, its not going to work for you both if shes embarassed/ashamed with you.. good luck.

Answer 9

you shouldn't let anyone get in the way of this relationship i have always says that age doesn't matter its just a number, if you like each other then don't hold back, you are the only two that are goin to be in this relationship why should other people care and get mixed up in something that doesn't involve them. talk to her, don't let it go. good luck.

Answer 10

Strange,isn't it,how the older woman younger man thing always seems frowned upon but the other way around always appears ok with everyone...If she's important to you,go for it,if it isn't hurting anyone ofcourse..This isn't a practice run,you only live once..