My boyfriend and I have been together for more than a year. We were engaged for 6 months, but he decided to call the wedding off due to family stress, the quickness of our engagment, and he's trying to change careers and move after moving me here from out of state. He feels guilty about moving me again, but stated he wants to just date to see if we can move at a more normal pace. But here's the thing. He says he needs time to think about what he wants to do career wise and about our relationship, yet he continues to call everyday and hangs out with me on the weekends...When we talk about it he says, I still haven't taken time to think, but I want to make sure you're okay...I've told him to take time, I don't call him at all...but he still calls and I don't want to say no to him when he wants to hang out, cause I want to spend time with him...I'm so confused. I don't know how long I can do this back and forth..He also said he's not sure how we can make it as gf/bf after being engaged
2007-02-28 00:14:24 · 8 answers · asked by concerned24 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It means you are nowhere near the top of his priority list.
You've been dumped, my dear. He just doesn't have the balls to say it.
2007-02-28 00:17:50 · answer #1 · answered by Guncrazy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am a guy and I have been in a relationship now for over 2 years. I think that he is probably stressed right now and is not sure about how to handle the relationship you have at this tough time. Most likely he does not want to hurt you and take a break (this explains why he still calls and hangs out with you) and is trying to figure out what is best for him while he searches for a career. I do not think that he is exploring other options as far as women. In my experience, this is not the purpose of his unconfidence in your relationship's strength and/or direction for the future. He probably does not want to rush something because of all the emotions of the things that you stated that he's going through. My advice is to try to talk to him about it and get a feel for exactly what he's thinking and feeling on the subject. If you still like/love him, let him know he's loved and appreciated and try to enjoy the time you spend with him. If you do not feel the same about him, you might need to let him know that you need someone more devoted and sure of what they want in their life and in a relationship with you. I hope that helps. Good luck!
2007-02-28 00:25:35 · answer #2 · answered by keithsfca84kg 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guy: I need time.
Girl: Let's just be friends.
Those two go hand in hand....(the same meaning.)
He's hanging out with you and making those comments (normal pace...etc..)
because he realizes that you could be the one he "let get away."
He's got cold feet. He's scared, unsure and confused.......
so he does need time.......be happy......he's getting "time"
and spending it on you.
2007-02-28 00:29:30 · answer #3 · answered by Bonnie Lynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lord only knows they all about the BS i hate it. thats why i dont let their stupid saying interfer with my life .they want to go then go if u need some helpe u know where moma is they usly come back they only get 2 chancese coz i dont need all that bs in my life yah i love men like other girls but i dont sufercate them
2007-02-28 00:20:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he wants out of the relasionship and doesnt know how to tell you without hurting you.
2007-02-28 00:23:04 · answer #5 · answered by whiskywildcard 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes he is exploring other options. you already know this in your heart so refuse his calls and move on
2007-02-28 00:16:28 · answer #6 · answered by theartisttwin 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hes just fuckn other people. doesnt mean i doesnt love u it just tells me he does desearve u.;get some one better
2007-02-28 00:30:10 · answer #7 · answered by butterfingers72000@yahoo.com 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes, he wants to have more pussy before he is ready to commit.
2007-02-28 00:16:26 · answer #8 · answered by wonder 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋