I met this guy and we hit it off the same time I really like him but he is in a relationship with his childmother and he says he wants to leave but He does not react like he wants to go. he says they are together because of the kids but i cannot take the constant sneaking around I dont know what to do. I cannot take it no more and it has me very miserable. Should I end our friendship or not because it is hurting me mentally and physically. If yes how should I end it.
2007-02-28 00:08:58 · 8 answers · asked by jangel6715 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi, well that's a messed up situation . I would just tell him your sorry for even putting him and yourself through this . Then I would continue to tell him that you don't want to break his family up , so you are going to be the better person and move on . You need to let him know the problem isn't him it just that you don't want to be so secretive and ruin a family . Let him know you wouldn't want anyone to do that to you and you are truly sorry for even getting involved in the first place . GOOD LUCK ! Best wishes !
2007-02-28 00:19:02 · answer #1 · answered by Me777 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
End it now, it is not a good friendship or relationship if your hurting. You need to put yourself first, he sure is. Why would he break it off with the childs mother when he's got the best of both worlds? You and her whenever he wants. You need to drop him and move on, life is too short to waste it on someone who is not worthy of your friendship or love. If he's playing you this way he's probably got more than one "friend" on the side of his relationship with his childs mother. If someone makes you feel bad about yourself, how can it be beneficial to you? You have to take care of yourself first, no one else. You said this was hurting you emotionally and physically? Get out now before it's too late. Tell him over the phone not to call you or come over anymore, your fed up and can't live this way, no matter what he says hold your ground. If he shows up at your door, call the police and have him removed and tell him your prepared to do this during your phone call with him. Wish him the best of luck but tell him you are worth more than this relationship is giving you.
Pick your head up and move on......today!
2007-02-28 08:19:31 · answer #2 · answered by BARBARA R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has kids, you should go for your own sake. Friendship looks okay but not recommended in this situation as it will break you and bring you a lot of physical and mental harm.
You should save your energy for a good relationship. Why get involved with other people's lives where you can find single people who appreciate the fact that you are also not in a relationship.
Take the first step and save yourself a lot of trouble.
You deserve it! :)
GoodLuck
2007-02-28 08:15:46 · answer #3 · answered by Holmes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you will get hurt, a man very rarely leaves the mother of his child. he wants to have his cake and eat it. DONT let him, meet a single guy with not such a complicated past.
Good luck
2007-02-28 08:13:37 · answer #4 · answered by wonder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put down a proposition for him. Either he breaks it for real or you leave him.
You need to put your foot down, because you dont deserve that kind of pain and suffering.
2007-02-28 08:12:28 · answer #5 · answered by Rhythm Nation 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi.... Love does not hurt. he should be showing you off not trying to hide your relationship.
Time to be with some one who appreciates you.
2007-02-28 08:14:01 · answer #6 · answered by MsJacqui 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, u must tell him ur problem, if he still same.. You better avoid yourself see him again, forget him & start new life...
2007-02-28 08:16:22 · answer #7 · answered by babyga1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just end it
2007-02-28 08:12:24 · answer #8 · answered by lilmed4ever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋