Why do moms not want to stay home once the kids are in school?.?

Question

Please do not write about sitting and watching soaps. I am addressing women with homes and garden and ones who participate in their childrens lives. I'm talking about the ones who clean, cook, iron, run errands and help kids with school work, who are actively involved in life and the community.. Is the reason for this that it is not well respected so women do not stay home?. I think for me this is the reason.. I have a baby and think I do not see myself being just a homemaker like my mother but I think it is because ppl look down on the role... I am looking for insight here.

Answer 1

Hi, I love to be at work or just out and about when my kids are at school,it sucks to be in the home all the time. I got tired of just sitting at home doing nothing all day, yes errands, cleaning things like that needed to be done as well but there's more to life than just sitting at home. My thing is I love to be out around people you just feel more independent.

Well have a good day.

Answer 2

It used to be in the 70s women didnt dare say they are just a homemaker and that pretty much carried on into alot of the 80s. Women felt that they needed more of a title. Now women have realized that they have the most important job ever. Raising a child to a loving, giving, intelligent and respectful adult is very important. You are taking part in the mindset and ability of a human being. A mothers love is the most important love you will ever experience. Not that mothers that have to work do not love not at all. Its just if you are lucky enough to not HAVE to work then count yourself blessed. children. We have become a latch key society. The other problem with working for the sake of boredom is I would say the majority of women increase their workload, they work all day then come home and work all night at home, making meals tending to the kids etc. So women end up piling on too much and they are exhausted...so count yourself lucky if you can stay home trust me.

Answer 3

I was a stay at home mum, but after a while i felt alone as most of my friends had full time jobs, so i went and got myself a part time job i didnt get a job for the money it was for the social side that came with having a job and since the job is only 20 hours a week i can still run the home and im always at home when the kids come in from school. Hope this helps.

Answer 4

My mom & I have this discussion all the time.
The fact is, I'd need at least two husbands to be able to afford to do this! We even went into serious debt so I could stay home for 3 years with our youngest because he had serious medical issues.
As for people who can afford do differently, I assume these women are terrified of becoming "obsolete" in the business world, and not being able to pull down a living wage if they found themselves suddenly single as some of us do, or if their husbands were suddenly laid-off.

And let's face it if you have a good job, where you are an appreciated part of the team, it can be great. You get raises and promotions and you may get to travel. All those things are rewarding.
No one has ever given me recogition for the heroic amount laundry I do, or the way I get 3 meals on the table EVERY day!
So while I'd rather stay home myself - I can certainly understand why people go back to work.

Answer 5

Raising my son is more important to me than proving myself to other people. Helping a child become a strong person as they grow beats any job in the world. Not to judge other's decisions, but I don't see how a child can be nutured when both parents work 50-60 hours a week.

If you don't feel fulfilled being a SAHM, then don't do it. Just don't be surprised at what happens. Ultimately, it's your choice, and you shouldn't allow others to make you conform. If you feel you can give your child everything he/she wants, doesn't mind daycare raising them, and you want to work, then do it.

I think being a SAHM is the best job I've ever had, and when my son comes home from school, hugs me, and tells me he's glad I'm here because all of his friends have to go to the babysitters then I feel I made the right choice.

Answer 6

Personally, it has nothing to do with the way people perceive me. I still want to be a part of my kids lives, but once they are in school, I see going back to work as my reward. I love my children with everything in me, but It's really hard being home and having nobody to talk to. Everything I do all day long is about everyone else in the house (including my husband). I think after they are in school, I am entitled to do something for me. I may only get a part time job or a full time job, I haven't decided yet. My youngest will start kindergarten this September. I am actually thinking about going back to school myself. So for me it's all about taking care of me, because as much as I love my family, if I don't take care of me, I know nobody else will either. Call me selfish, but after 8 years, I think I'm deserving.

Answer 7

It's not something everyone can do. If a woman wants to, and can afford to, be a sahm she doesn't give a damn what anyone else thinks.
I know I did it and the ONLY thing I cared about was what my husband and I felt. As long as we were all happy (kids too) I stayed home.

Answer 8

It is not that people look down on it. A lot of times the second income helps alot. It is not as easy now a days to live off of one income as it was fifty years ago.

Answer 9

Maybe moms used the time to spend their favourite activities or go to the grocery/market?

Answer 10

MOST women cant AFFORD to stay home, myself included... i couldnt even when my kids were small... if you can afford to be home and raise your children, then do it!