I am getting married, but I am not bothered about a big fancy ceremony. I just want a huge party with all my friends and family around me. I am not bothered about fancy flowers and expensive dresses. Some of my friends cannot understand this. Do you think if I have a ceremony on the cheap, I will regret it in years to come?
2007-02-27 23:54:44 · 19 answers · asked by monkienutz 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Regret getting married? or the ceremony? You could spend a fortune and have a rubbish time! Money doesn't always = more fun! are 10 pink roses on every pew and a £3000 dress really going to make your day special, no, its the people there who make it special..............and the cake!
2007-02-28 02:33:38 · answer #1 · answered by flying ladybug 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is your wedding..do what you want to do...in years down the road, if you start to regret not having a more elaborate ceremony, remind yourself...it was what I wanted. It doesn't really matter how many flowers or how expensive the dress....in the end you will still be married. I had a very simple wedding ceremony, the only flowers at my wedding was the bouquet I was carrying...but to tell you the truth, my best memory of my wedding is when my husband looked into my eyes as we said our vows to one another...extra flowers would not have made that any more special because for that moment, I was lost in his eyes, I didn't notice what was around me anyway. Now, we've been married a little over 11 years, and I have watched my sisters and friends have fancy weddings, and yes they were nice....but they will never compare to my wedding....
2007-02-28 00:02:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely the ceremony matters more and the party is the fun bit. The ceremony is after all the reason for the party and what a wedding is all about. However, this doesn't mean you have to have a big fancy ceremony. Just sepate the two things whatever way you wish.
2007-02-28 05:31:42 · answer #3 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The vows, the actual union of marriage, is THE most important part of a wedding. Without it, there is no wedding. After that, the most important thing is to have your friends and family celebrating with you.
Now, you can do both of these things quite well without spending lots of money on flowers and dresses. But do not neglect the vows/ceremony for the party.
2007-02-28 04:58:20 · answer #4 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Do what is special for you and your fiance, not your friends or family.
A wedding is a celebration for two people in love coming together to make a new family. It is not to see who can spend the most on flowers or what Vera Wang dress you can afford.
Do your wedding like you want to and ignore the others. They can plan their own wedding.
I eloped the first time my husband and I married, and when we had the "real" wedding, we had a small, traditional ceremony at a historic site with a lovely garden, and then we partied. Did it all myself and including the dress, it cost 2K. Best wedding ever. :)
2007-02-27 23:59:14 · answer #5 · answered by scarfyrre 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ceremony doesn't cost much anyway, it's cheap to marry in a registry office or a church, but the ceremony is the most important part because without it you wouldn't actually be married, so in that sense it is the most important part. If you choose to spend the majority of your budget on the party then what's wrong with that, that's pretty normal seeing as the cost of the church or registry is minimal anyway.
2007-02-28 01:38:29 · answer #6 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you keep your focus only on what really matters, the meaning behind it, the VOWS, the commitment your are taking, then what will be the true priorities will become apparent to you.
Of course you want no regrets years down the road. Who would?
YOU get to decide what YOU want, but don't you think the Hubby to be should have a say? It's his day also.
Remember, it isn't YOUR party, it is BOTH of yours. I sure would not neglect or forget him, especially there...it would be like forgetting what the whole purpose is about. I know. Been there.
2007-02-28 00:03:38 · answer #7 · answered by Jed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay the ceremony is about you and him/her so a long length ceremony makes guest bored and up tight this your day though and the reception is the big deal to your guest and something the remember. Hope that helps above all it's your day.
2007-02-28 01:45:44 · answer #8 · answered by Toni V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, the whole ritual is pretty meaningless to me. Do what you want! I'm doing it all traditional simply because it's important to our families and their happiness is important to me. The church ceremony is going to be a total bore and the reception? At least our families will be happy! It's an excuse for the inlaws to get together that isn't a funeral.
2007-02-28 00:11:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wedding is what you make it. At the end of the day it's about two people getting married. Do it the way you want it and don't be pressured into something you're not happy with by other people. It's the pair of you should remember and enjoy for all the right reasons. Stick to your guns and do what the pair of you want! Good luck and remember ENJOY!
2007-02-27 23:57:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋