You can't swtich off love... you can change your attitude towards it:
I still love my son's dad... after seven years of parting, I always will... and he, through Asperger Syndrome behaviour, was pretty evil towards me, almost killed me three times... I could have switched off if it wasn't for the AS, if I could have called him bad... but I know he isn't, he's an emotionally trapped child inside a man's mind and body...
We were torgether 23 years, it isn't possible to delete all that.
the move on and forget them culture of our time, is damaging long term, it will return to hurt us later down the line if we listen to those who peddle it.
Let yourself grieve... if he'd died, others would be kinder, let you keep his pictures out and let you speak about him. For some strange reason, it aint the same when they leave your for another. And you have no focal point like a grave to visit and place flowers. And your kids are hurt much more than if he'd died, because they can't flick througgh picture memories either, out of personal pain anddisloyal feelings to the spouse who was left behind.
Divorce, or partings from a person you had family with, lived with over many years, is a living hell for those who're left behind, since we either follow the advice and coldness of the times, or allow oour love to haunt and hurt and to die off slowly, and not try to rush at with replacements.
One day... it gets easier to bear... one day, you will love and laugh again, your time is when you are ready... not to suit society!
And if you could switch off as easily as your lover did, you'd be no better than he was!
It's to your credit that you can't... it's your strength and not your weakness... it shows you are a loyal and sincere person.
Turn the move on merchants on their heads and take your time... be you, do whatever feels rights, mourn and talk and remember, until one day the tears will end and you will still love him, but you'll also know, you no longer need him, nor would you take him back. Then you've grown.
Oldie... in hurry.. spell checker not working:-)
Good luck and trust yourself... you know best and you will be happy again one day!
2007-02-28 00:05:10
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answered by Anonymous
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Its crazy that you're asking this question because my boyfriend and I just broke up last night for the same reason. I just decided that I cant control my feelings but i can control whether I see him or speak to him. I'm going to focus on things like finding a job and my school work (im in college) and if he wants me in his life he'll make an effort and truly prove to me that he needs me in his life. Just have you time, thats what I plan on doing. As a matter of fact I'm planning on going to a bar with my friends tonight and celebrate my new singleness instead of me sitting at home and wallowing. Good luck!
2007-02-27 23:57:03
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answered by HeatherSue452 2
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Once you start getting out there again and enjoying yourself, you will realise that you didnt need him. You are an independant woman, having a bloke is great but dont rely on them. Do you think he is sitting there worring about you? probably not. Take yourself on holiday, have some 'you' time. Meet new people. He will always be in your mind somewhere but you need to turn it on and off when you wish.
2007-02-27 23:59:41
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answered by rose 3
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as you no it hurts and it will do for a while but don't giv up hope. You will find someone else and forget about this guy but u have to let go. He doesnt deserve u, and if he cant see that then he must need his head read!!!
Take a hol wiv girly m8s, sun, sea, sand and booze!!! shopping and maybe a few tanned lads to occupy you. pamper yourself, get new hair, nails.... make yourself feel great. U need to boost your confidence and prove to the world your one hot chik!!!
2007-02-28 00:17:57
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answered by R.L.L 2
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I would go on a few dates, see how other men treat you. You will be happy you did. In no time you will realize that your b*stard is not worth remebering.
2007-02-27 23:57:06
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answered by mlock123 3
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you know, love and sex are just chemical reactions in the body?
I lived with the same guy 3 times..he's an emotional retard and cant show his emotions. I was obsessed with him for a long time, but i finally got over him...
keep your self busy and dont have anything to remind u of him at all is best..."out of sight, out of mind.."
good friends help too..; )
2007-02-28 00:02:15
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answered by jipsyleo1967 2
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Tell him you a have a horrible and very easy to catch disease quote lots of names of Ladies inside parts to him(think up a good Latin name how about Ridous creepous, and that you carry this disease you are 100% well, and it does no harm to a lady, but if he comes near you his willy will go green and fall off.Guarantee you will never have to put up with him again.Then find you self a nice man, what about that nice chap that lives at number 48?
2007-02-28 00:03:43
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answered by Anonymous
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you're bound to feel this way - no matter how crap they treat us theres going to be an emotional bond there and its not just a matter of out with the old and in with the new!
however going out and having fun with your mates is a great help - you dont have to be on the pull - just out of the house and having fun!
Try to remove anything that reminds you of him - photos - memoribilia that kinda thing and Im sure in no time you'll be totally over him!
xx
2007-02-27 23:55:48
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answered by Anonymous
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just tell the truth
that you really dont want to move on
that you have no committment to yourself
or your life
and you accept s h i t instead of quality
this will give you the space to choose and create something else
just be 100% honest
2007-02-27 23:57:37
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answered by lowroad 2
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I know it sounds like a cliche - but time does wonders.
Try catching up with friends and socialising more, spend time on yourself or with family, new hobby.
It really does work given time.
2007-02-27 23:56:13
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answered by luz2loz 3
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