i have a boyfriend, i want to tell my parents but im scared to death and i dont know how to tell them... help!

Question

my father is uptight and I'm really scared to tell him about my boyfriend... how should i tell him? in what manner? what should i say? should i talk to him alone? should my bf and i tell him together? how can i convince him that im reasponsible enough to get into a relationship? I can't sleep well because of this!

my bf and i are both 19 yrs old. thank you so much for all your advice. My father is a ship captain and he's staying with us for a couple of months...

Answer 1

The problem is you do not say how old you are. If you are old enough then I would say "Dad, I have someone special in my life Dad" Your opinion means alot to me and so I would like you to meet him. Dont have your bf meet him it sounds like you are going to tell him you are pregnant or going to get married. That would kind of freak me out if I was your dad. So Just say how your fathers opinion means alot (buttering up is good) and see what he says to that.

Answer 2

Is this a problem to do with your age? Does your Father
have a problem with his "little" girl becoming a mature
responsible adult?

Maybe if you have aunt you could confide in or know of a female friend
he trusts and respects they could help to put your case forward. Does he
worry you will get hurt in some way? Maybe a meeting with your Father b/f and
your-self on netural territory would help - say lunch at a restaurant or something.
It would be up to your b/f to project the best possible image and to reassure your
Father that you are being looked after and cared for by a responsible person.
Remember your Father has your best interests at heart, and whilst it may be difficult
to see past a controlling attitude this often indicates that the person themselves has issues
that need dealing with. You don't mention your mother - could this be the root of the problem?

Remember - fear stops is getting the most out of life so please don't be scared.

Best of luck x

Answer 3

You did not say how old you are. Do not tell you father, with your boyfriend. that will not work. Now you need your sleep, If you are old enough, and responsible, doing well in school, because you do not need too much distractions, such as this, until you get through school. You just say casual, one day to your dad, "how old am I suppose to be, to have a boyfriend?" This way you could be felling him out, to see where he is coming from.

Answer 4

I can't believe your 19 and are scared to introduce your boy friend to you parents, maybe their right and you’re not ready to be in a relationship.

Girl UP! And take the bull by the horns and bring him buy to meet them and let the chip fall where the lie.

Your old enough to vote and by in collage, little molly is growing up so at like it.

Good luck.

Commutation is the key to life with out what do we have? Talk to them :-0)

Answer 5

First i need to ask you wats ur age? what is he doing now..? and if at all u think u are matured enough and are in love with a decision .accepting your differences.. and still loving each other..and if getting married you can take care of yourself. then u can go ahead and ask your Dad.It is suggested that any issues, the boy should talk to the boys parents, the girl should talk to the girls parents.. other both the parents and u both would be hurt.. First u tell ur parents. .. or someone of your elder.. shuld tell that would be nice..U need to take courage and tell ur dad telling them how important they are and also how important ur boy friend is and how much serious u are about him.. All the best.........

Answer 6

Just tell him urself.B urself.Don't b scared.Just say dad i have a boyfriend now and i don't care how mad u get bcuz i am responsible and i luv him so much. If it makes u feel better u can even meet him. That should put him at ease.

Answer 7

control mind and tell them to marriage immediately

Answer 8

how old are you just tell him and go from there good luck