why would a man pick a girl he had dumped 3 months ago due to the 2 year relationship being awful which he was unhappy with didnt love anymore, for a girl he was happy with, made him laugh, but made him nervous and vunerable of getting hurt because he fell for her. His ex showed up begging him back he told his friend he didnt miss or love her but it bothered him that she was not over him. He went funny with my friend he had been out wih for a month backed off after telling her he loved her, sending her a dozen red roses etc etc. she told him maybe they should be friends if he didnt know what he wanted and he got back with his ex the day after he is still telling people his head is messed up though. but he has totally shut my mate out who he seemed so smitten with he has never acted with a girl as he did her worried she didnt like him where as his ex he cheated on her and didnt want to know her. Why pick her ??
2007-02-27 22:57:42 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the words he used to describe the ex were shes the biggest weirdo u cud meet, she would scream in public at him and cause a scene for no reason !!!!! i ha dto get out before i ended up stuck with her for good
2007-02-27 23:02:54 · update #1
THIS GUY OBVIOUSLY HAS SOME SELF ESTEEM ISSUES AND LITTLE SELF WORTH. HE OBVIOUSLY PICKED HER BECAUSE HE BELIEVES HE DOESNT DESRVE ANYTHING BETTER.
2007-02-27 23:16:42 · answer #1 · answered by cripplegraham 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This may sound awful... but it's true... With all this stuff of modernity, relation chips have become almost an Utopia... We are so world wide connected...still so fu...ing alone... we make a lot of different faces to show the world who we want people think we are, instead of just showing who we really are.. because one single horrible thing named... fear... We are afraid of been rejected, of been make fool, that we keep loosing good chances just because it's safely, for example this man... has the ensure that his ex (i don't know if love him) but it's not going to reject him.. He has the control of that relationship, but with the other girl he was so unsure of him self, so unsure of liking her that he prefer not to take the risk and stay with the same rotten relationship where he has the power, instead of taking the risk with this new great girl... unfortunately this is how we, most of the people are... so insecure, so afraid of been lonely, of been reject, so afraid of spend some time on our own and get to know our selves....
2007-02-28 07:17:01 · answer #2 · answered by ashura_y_yasha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I WOULD PICK UNHAPPY if it is safe/healthier/better in the long run.
FEELINGS come and go. HAPPY and SADNESS come and go. NON STOP.
but why not choose to be in better states of mind and body and SURROUND yourself with healthier people?????
feel all you want and ask all you want. THE MAIN thing is that MAN or what you are going through is just painful or rocky. it will pass. **** stinks. but the smell with leave. it if keeps smelling. MOVE it. if you still smell it. MOVE OUT.
stay in that moment..........or choose another option::change.
change the situation or changer your outlook.
BLESS be the heart of that girl and you too. WITHOUT her...youwouldn't know how WEAK in the flesh that fool is.
YOU KNOW what you are worth.
SO GO OUT AND GET IT. don't settle for MISTER RIGHT NOW. settle for MISTER RIGHT himself. don't go for knock off chanel cologne. SAVE up *timewise* for the real deal. something that smells good and makes you feel good and makes you smile. OKAy. don't like CHANEL no. 5? then get another brand. HONEy....GOD bless this earth with MORE peopel that than stinky individual. THEIR loss and YOUR GAIN.
change your outlook. you are worth more. SO GET MORE. more better. peacE
2007-02-28 07:06:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know his ex at all? My reason for asking is because you're hearing only his side of the story-and I doubt very seriously he'd go back to her just because he felt bad that she wasn't over him. Your friend should give him a wide berth to be honest,as it sounds like he really has no idea what he wants and will probably end up going back and forth between them.
2007-02-28 07:26:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
im still confused but he has to be seriously messed up if he wants a girl who makes him unhappy my bf had the same problem with his ex she was a nightmare we couldnt get rid of her for a year got a restraining order against her she waited outside his house all the time it was weird his gunna have to sort himself out theres nothin u can do now if hes bk with his ex
2007-02-28 07:04:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
who knows? Familiarity?? an easier option? no one can answer this question except the guy we're talking about - I agree it does sound messed up but Im sure the reasons he holds make sense!
It does sound like its gona end in heartache for him though!
xx
2007-02-28 07:53:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some times people like to stick to what they no and what they feel is safe! I sopose if he nos what she is like and what she is capable of then he wont have any nasty surprises!!
Some people prefer to feel safe rather than risk that to be truly happy x
2007-02-28 07:11:49 · answer #7 · answered by jo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally I wouldn't marry someone I don't know. You need to know what you are committing yourself to. After all we are talking about a life-long commitment. Like the author, I also don't believe that one should be in a relationship for five years before committing without a sound reason, whatever that means. The point is: five years is too long a time for two people to be involved without any progress.
They stay in relationships with hope. My advice to all the women is: Start from now and ask your long relationship partner what he thinks about you!
I am a man myself but I am sure that it will not take me years to marry a woman. Once I get a right woman with all the qualities or I need, I will get married immediately. It will not take years, a year will be too long, and a delay will be caused by arrangements. I also blame you women why don't you ask your partners?
There are plenty guys who are interested in you but you always tell them about your boyfriend that you have been involved for 4yrs and you are happy, my question is if you are happy why are you in relationship for so long (4yrs) without marriage. Women are not clever enough when it comes to do a feasibility study about men.
WAKE UP AND ASK HIM (boyfriend): What will be my future with you? Do not take excuses? Tell him your future plans. Enough is enough ask him what he is waiting for? If possible give him your parents' address and he must tell them what he wants from you. If he came to play around with you he will never come back. You must rather stay without a man rather than wasting your time with someone who will hurt you and leave you, for how long will you live like that? Once you are able to do that you will see the future you were dreaming of.
A RIGHT MAN WHO LOVES YOU WILL COME AND DO THAT. You ladies with
long-term relationships ask your boyfriends today, if he is mumbling,
leave him because you will be depressed one day if you find out that
he is getting married to someone whom he met within 4 months.
Imagine (4years = 4months) I am just picturing how your feeling will be? Ladies stay away from those relationships, they are 3% useful and 97% wasting your time. There could be someone out there who was going to marry you during this 4yrs maybe it was going to take him a year to marry you but you refused you wanted to stay in a relationship with no due date. We are all working according to time (Projects, Deliveries, Purchasing, Contracts, etc.) Why Not Love Affairs?
I have sisters I always tell them because I want the best for them.
Some of you might not agree but I am sure this can help some of you.
PLEASE REMEMBER THIS: "IF A MAN IS STABLE IN LIFE, IN A RELATIONSHIP, BUT NOT MARRIED, THEN IT IS BECAUSE HE IS NOT SURE ABOUT THE WOMAN THAT HE IS WITH."
He is not willing to commit to her and constantly has his eye open for something better or is waiting for her to become something better. Point blank. When he finds a woman that he is satisfied with, he will make her his wife. And ladies, sorry to tell some of you, but it doesn't take 4 or 5 years for that man to figure it out.
It doesn't take 2 or 3 years either.
The only reason that a man will get married after that long of a time is because he's tired of looking for something better. And trust me that was
Definitely what he was doing all of those years. So if you should
happen to find yourself in one of those "long term" relationships
then maybe you should step back, take a look at yourself and wonder
what it is that you're missing by doing favors for this man who is
not willing to fully commit.
Don't make excuses to yourself and your girlfriends saying things like
"Oh he's waiting 'till he gets a better job" or "he's waiting to finish school" or "he's waiting until he moves from his apartment to a house".
DON'T FOOL YOURSELF, IT'S NOT THAT COMPLICATED!!
Which one of those things can't be done with a wife or fiancee by your side? So ladies, when you read this think about your situation and that man that you are with Think about your "boyfriend". And definitely think twice before you brag on a relationship that's a couple of years long and you still have no commitment.
Like I've said before, I'm a man and I know the situation. I've been there and I know that we can come up with some extremely reasonable excuses, but... DON'T FOOL YOURSELF, IT'S NOT THAT COMPLICATED!
A man always wait for the right partner and it can last years whilst in search for the right one, its however very unfortunate that sometimes the woman they would be wanting will be sticking to one other man who is not serious about her. So ladies think about all man who have taken their time to ask you out and you are denying. However if they are not your type dont fool yourselves- but dont look for unrealistic qualities. Never look at a man's property- he acquired it in your absence and dont think you can inherit his sweat- after all you dont know how it was acquired. Think abt it ladies
Ladies, can I get an Amen!
And
Guys, let's try to be honest
2007-02-28 07:07:29 · answer #8 · answered by sweets 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who knows, maybe some needy failing aspect of his own personality
2007-02-28 07:01:27 · answer #9 · answered by rose_merrick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is not logical...this is just the way of the world..go figure
2007-02-28 07:02:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋