i have been a mean, stupid jerk. I told my girlfriend that i want to break up when i was angry and made her very upset. The next day she said she agreed with me and that we should break-up. I really love her and dont want her to go. Please help.
2007-02-27 21:55:57 · 16 answers · asked by Dumb Dude 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah, we all say and do dumb things when we are emotional. But the first step is for you to realize how you are feeling when you do those things, or you are going to repeat them over and over again. I'm willing to bet you were not so much angry as hurt or scared. It just comes out as anger because we don't want to appear vulnerable. You were hurt and you wanted to hurt her. You were hoping she would be devastated by the news that you wanted to break up, which would have made you feel better because it would have proven that she wants to be with you. You were doubting that, weren't you?
You aren't alone. We are all our own worst enemies. And our insecurities can REALLY mess us up. But it happens to everyone.
But if you think about why you were feeling so insecure that you needed to lash out you might find your answer. Didn't you already have a feeling that she wasn't that into the relationship anymore? Isn't that what made you so scared in the first place? I'm sorry to say I think you already know the answer to this. And it's not the one you were hoping for.
Let her know that you are sorry and that you really did not want to break up. That's all you can do. If she still does not want to get back together then there's nothing you can do but accept it. And learn from it so that you don't do it again with someone else you care about.
You aren't a jerk. There's not a person in the world who hasn't said and done some pretty awful and stupid things when their emotions get the better of them. Give yourself a break. But do learn from it.
Take Care.
2007-02-27 22:11:33 · answer #1 · answered by Eris 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know, you reap what you sew. You told your girlfriend that you wanted to break up and you expect her to take you back. It doesn't work like that in the real world. I know that you just realized how much you love her, but did you realize how much you hurt her?
Here is what you do. You ask her if you two can talk. If she agrees to it, you tell her everything. Start by apologizing. You tell her how much of a jackass you are. Then you tell her that you realized that you cannot be without her and that you need her in your life because you love her so much. Then you tell her that you know that you are asking a lot from her, but would she reconsider the break up. If she says yes, then you are a lucky man. But, if she says no, then you completely blew it because you had a woman who loved you through all of you mess and you treated her like dirt.
I hope that things work out for you. But the next time you do something like this to your girlfriend, remember that you are the one who messed up and not her. Remember that sometimes, there aren't second chances.
2007-02-27 22:10:06 · answer #2 · answered by luckygirl69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might try telling her that you were wrong and ask her forgiveness. What you had is now forever blemished and can not be put back the way it was, a brand new start is needed. Court her all over again, with flowers, love notes, hand-holding, movies, etc. Give her time and space, and if it was meant to be, she will love you again, but you hurt her, and that hurt has to heal, it can not just be forgotten. Let her know that you understand and accept this. I hope it works out well for you. Learn from this mistake and try not to repeat it in the future. And forgive yourself.
2007-02-27 22:16:16 · answer #3 · answered by territizzyb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least you big enough to admit it. Ask her if the two of you can sit and discuss this, BUT You must look at the situation again, and ask yourself, why you broke it off with her in the first place. I know you say you were angry, but you must ask yourself ANGRY ABOUT WHAT?, but if - as you say - you really love her, then ask her to PLEASSSEEEE sit down with you and discuss this, and please dont go to a restaurant. you need a quiet place where the both of you can vent if there is any venting that needs to be done. Good Luck
2007-02-27 22:02:36 · answer #4 · answered by shellerjc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say that you respect her decision and that you regret what you said. You are sorry, and that she can leave you if she wants to, because you have been nasty and hurtful. However you want to let her know what you love her, and that you will be waiting for her to forgive you.
A reminder: Learn to let go, do not be possessive, think not just for yourself but for her as well. Also, if you didn't really agitate her and she is that petty you might as well let her go. If you did hurt her bad and she really wants to leave, then you have go to let it be if your attempt to get her back fails. But do try to salvage the relationship and keep on good terms with her.
2007-02-27 22:01:21 · answer #5 · answered by lkraie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but don't you like your women to be agreeable. Tell her that you love her and you want her to stay. Women don't care for men who act this way and after a while you will lose-maybe you already have. So you have nothing to lose by telling her the truth. Get busy time is running out.
2007-02-27 22:05:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know most man are stupid and are jerk and don:t care who that hare you see you got angry and break up with her you sure of should be for you got angry and say what you did OK
2007-02-27 22:12:05 · answer #7 · answered by EVA J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sincerely apologize. thats all you can do. sit her down, tell her that you were speaking out of anger and not out of how you really feel. tell her that you are truly sorry and that you really love her and that you want to work on all the bumpy roads in your relationship. if she loves you than she will come back.
2007-02-27 22:00:16 · answer #8 · answered by bebe528 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
invite her 2 a candel lit dinner say u r sorry or go over 2 her house to spend some 'quality' time
u know what i mean
2007-02-27 21:59:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its been a miss understanding between u two ,try to explain her n promise her that it will not happen any more.go to her with a sorry card ,hand full of red roses n a loving eyes.she have to forgive u.
2007-02-27 22:01:22 · answer #10 · answered by sherry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋